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No children in pub after 5pm

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SweetSouls · 15/04/2024 10:16

My local banned children after 7pm a few years ago.

This seemed unnecessary to me, but I suppose that's after 'bed time' so I could sort of see the logic. Adult time etc.

On Saturday I went to stop there for a drink in the afternoon, and they have now banned children after 5pm.

This seems very odd to me given it's an area that people move to with their families. It's not some town centre boozer, it's surrounded by housing.

Is this just not terrible business? I do not get it at all.

It was almost empty, incidentally, at 5.15 on a Saturday afternoon.

OP posts:
crockofshite · 15/04/2024 21:20

Allfur · 15/04/2024 21:14

Should we blame the parents for drunken male behaviour?

Yes of course. Where were his parents? Not teaching their kids how to behave.

Arseholes beget arseholes .

TheCatOnTheBedIsAllMineAllMine · 15/04/2024 21:15

Work used to be men only and women stayed at home and looked after the kids.

Curtainsforus · 15/04/2024 21:14

DianaTaverner · 15/04/2024 21:08

It's fine for them to eat earlier, but they have to accept the risk of encountering children.

I'm sure they are thrilled to have your permission😀

Allfur · 15/04/2024 21:14

crockofshite · 15/04/2024 20:18

It's lack of parenting skills that creates monster children. Blame the parents.

Should we blame the parents for drunken male behaviour?

Allfur · 15/04/2024 21:12

TheCatOnTheBedIsAllMineAllMine · 15/04/2024 20:18

Pubs used to be adults only. Drinking, smoking, chatting, swearing and the occasional punch up. Most pubs now are just glorified restaurants.

Pubs used to be men only for the most part, whilst the women stayed at home looking after the kids. Glad things have moved on from the dark ages.

Needanewname42 · 15/04/2024 21:08

Thulpelly · 15/04/2024 16:31

What is this mumsnet thing of saying ‘their choice’ when people make terrible decisions? ‘Their wedding, their choice.
‘Their business, their choice’

Obviously it’s ‘their choice’, but you can still question it… especially on an anonymous forum!

Well really it's short hand for it's their decision they must have some sort of reason and logic behind their reasoning.

To others it might not make business sense but it might make prefect sense to the publican.

The pub might be happy to have family lunches. And happy to have older kids / teens with bowl of chips, technically having food, with parents watching the football but want them out before the evening starts. And before someone slips them more than just the coke.

DianaTaverner · 15/04/2024 21:08

Curtainsforus · 15/04/2024 21:03

Why should they eat when everyone else eats and why is drinking in the afternoon any different to drinking at 8pm - it's surely the amount you drink that matters and what about shift workers - not ok for them to eat and drink earlier too?

It's fine for them to eat earlier, but they have to accept the risk of encountering children.

Curtainsforus · 15/04/2024 21:03

wombat15 · 15/04/2024 20:24

Who wants to be in a pub at 5 anyway. If you haven't got children just eat at a time that adults normally eat. Drinking alcohol in the afternoon isn't great either so try having that later too. Problem solved.

Why should they eat when everyone else eats and why is drinking in the afternoon any different to drinking at 8pm - it's surely the amount you drink that matters and what about shift workers - not ok for them to eat and drink earlier too?

TheCatOnTheBedIsAllMineAllMine · 15/04/2024 20:59

5.30pm

wombat15 · 15/04/2024 20:52

TheCatOnTheBedIsAllMineAllMine · 15/04/2024 20:18

Pubs used to be adults only. Drinking, smoking, chatting, swearing and the occasional punch up. Most pubs now are just glorified restaurants.

They weren't open at five anyway though,.

Growlybear83 · 15/04/2024 20:47

wombat15 · 15/04/2024 20:24

Who wants to be in a pub at 5 anyway. If you haven't got children just eat at a time that adults normally eat. Drinking alcohol in the afternoon isn't great either so try having that later too. Problem solved.

We used to stop off at our local for a couple of drinks most days on the way home from work when we were much younger, so probably got there at about 5.30. It was a really nice time to be in the pub and in those days the idea of having children in the bar was unheard of.

RadoxMoon · 15/04/2024 20:46

wombat15 · 15/04/2024 20:24

Who wants to be in a pub at 5 anyway. If you haven't got children just eat at a time that adults normally eat. Drinking alcohol in the afternoon isn't great either so try having that later too. Problem solved.

What’s wrong with having a pint in a pub on a Saturday / Sunday afternoon?

Better tell everyone who offers and goes to bottomless brunches that afternoon drinking is wrong as well.

I personally rarely drink, as I’m invariably driving, but it’s a perfectly normal activity. You’d even see people doing that in Europe!

Curtainsforus · 15/04/2024 20:45

Cammac · 15/04/2024 20:03

Why do you feel the need to take your dog to a pub?

Because it suits us and the dog is warmly welcomed.

Abouttimeforanamechange · 15/04/2024 20:42

Who wants to be in a pub at 5 anyway.

People who like to have a drink after work, before going home. Quite often did myself, in my youth. In the City of London on a warm spring or summer afternoon/evening, customers will be spilling out onto the pavement. Very unlikely to be any children among them.

XenoBitch · 15/04/2024 20:34

wombat15 · 15/04/2024 20:24

Who wants to be in a pub at 5 anyway. If you haven't got children just eat at a time that adults normally eat. Drinking alcohol in the afternoon isn't great either so try having that later too. Problem solved.

I don't think you can suggest to people when they eat and drink. Not everyone lives a 9-5 existence.

BananaLambo · 15/04/2024 20:32

I wouldn’t want my kids eating beige food in a pub while I sit chatting and drinking wine for two hours. Half the parents just hand their kid an iPad (and a pair of headphones if everyone else is lucky). I agree with PP. I don’t think pubs are suitable for young kids. Having worked as a waitress through university in the local hotel bar I know that too many people are pissed, there are too many ‘adult, conversations and swearing, and too much opportunity to encounter broken glass/open fires/table edges. It’s hardly relaxing for parents either.

fitzwilliamdarcy · 15/04/2024 20:27

I understand that some people want adult only but everywhere pretty much is after about 7.30 p.m. anyway. If you want to eat with adults you can just eat at a time that children don't usually eat.

Oh how I wish this were true where I am. I’ve not managed to get an adult dining experience in years - and I’ve tended to book around 9 in the evening. There are always kids in the restaurants I visit - price and time are no deterrents as parents decide that they have a right to go where they please even if the kids are too tired or loud for the ambience.

I’d love a restaurant that banned them outright and then I’d have certainty.

wombat15 · 15/04/2024 20:24

Who wants to be in a pub at 5 anyway. If you haven't got children just eat at a time that adults normally eat. Drinking alcohol in the afternoon isn't great either so try having that later too. Problem solved.

crockofshite · 15/04/2024 20:18

ARichtGoodDram · 15/04/2024 17:00

I think so is children misbehaving in pubs though.

When I lived in Spain you never saw kids running round pubs or getting in the way of staff.

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It's lack of parenting skills that creates monster children. Blame the parents.

TheCatOnTheBedIsAllMineAllMine · 15/04/2024 20:18

Pubs used to be adults only. Drinking, smoking, chatting, swearing and the occasional punch up. Most pubs now are just glorified restaurants.

Coffeepants · 15/04/2024 20:17

GR8GAL · 15/04/2024 10:42

From reading the comments, I suppose mine would be an unpopular opinion, but I don't think children belong in environments where alcohol is being consumes in large quantities at all. There is enough of a drinking problem in this part of the world that we don't need to normalise drinking in front of impressionable children.

Absolutely agree, I’m always shocked at how British culture revolves so much around drinking.

Daphnis156 · 15/04/2024 20:15

It would be better if children were banned entirely from pubs, where they can be and often are a nuisance.

XenoBitch · 15/04/2024 20:13

My favourite local pub does not allow kids at all. It is a real ale pub. No fruit machines, no screens, no food.
It is always chilled and a relaxing environment. Dogs are allowed.. but honestly I only ever see one dog in there that belongs to a regular.

wombat15 · 15/04/2024 20:11

It's up to them but I do think it is a risk if it is a pub that serves food. I'm not sure I would go to a pub that had been unwelcoming to children over the age of about five and even if they changed their minds it would be too late. I understand that some people want adult only but everywhere pretty much is after about 7.30 p.m. anyway. If you want to eat with adults you can just eat at a time that children don't usually eat.

TheCatOnTheBedIsAllMineAllMine · 15/04/2024 20:10

Tontostitis · 15/04/2024 19:17

Good we've turned round and walked put of pubs that have kids in.

One pub we visited quite locally we all had to keep moving our chairs to let all the pushchairs past. Kids sitting there waving menus. Awful. Never been back.

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