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Pinkboxglitter · 15/04/2024 08:33

I have been dating a guy now for around 5 months. We are exclusive but taking things slowly.
A couple of months ago, I saw on social media that he had liked a girl (about twenty years younger than him) photos, infact all of them. These included photos of her in a bikini, seductive photos etc.
As you can imagine i wasnt impressed and i raised it with him saying i found this behaviour disrespectful. Turns out its a work colleague and they regularly go out etc...ive never met any of his friends or this person. He said it was good i said my boundaries but it was nothing to worry about. He then deleted social media because it wasnt worth upsetting me, which i found really strange. Anyway, low and behold hes got social media back, liked all her new bikini photos and to make things worse, none of my posts (i feel abit childish for saying this). He says i read to much into social media but i just cant stand being made a fool of.

Am i right to confront and say something? I feel so disrespected and upset.

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MermaidEyes · 15/04/2024 17:36

suspect though that you will given the other threads you have started about this “relationship”

Ugh is this going to be one of those where OP posts constant threads about her shitty partner and everyone says dump him and she completely ignores the advice and the next week is posting again 🙄

KiwiOtter · 15/04/2024 17:17

Urgh. What a creep.

By Liking the photos, he is telling her he finds her attractive.

Why do people do this? Creepy

Watchkeys · 15/04/2024 17:12

Why does he think he knows best how much you should read into things?

Confronting a tosser about being a tosser doesn't stop them being a tosser, so there's little point. If you don't like how someone treats you, it's not your responsibility to re-educate them. You don't get to tell him how to be. Your responsibility is your own behaviour, so, choose not to be around him.

Arightoldcarryabag · 15/04/2024 17:06

What a loser.
He's a HR disaster in the making and if you have aspirations I'd not want to be associated with it when it all happens.

Whatever it is about this man that seems to have you completely disregarding all common sense and dignity, there are other people who can also provide you with this who will not treat you like a piece of shit.

Do yourself a favour, dump the fucker.

EveryoneJapan · 15/04/2024 16:57

Can you really be arsed with all this? A heterosexual man will always be interested in looking at a photo of an attractive woman in a bikini, but liking all the photos? It’s a bit tragic.

Pinkboxglitter · 15/04/2024 16:29

No, it comes up on my feed. The profiles are public

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EmilyTjP · 15/04/2024 16:21

How are you seeing this? Are you checking all her photos?

Psychoticbreak · 15/04/2024 16:19

Oh I am only finding out the extent of my 'omg i am THE most genuine man ever' saga. He had two phones I get it one for work but in one phone he had two sims. One to chat to me and his friends etc and one for his online 'girls' and I do mean GIRLS. I dont think I will ever trust a man again.

olivebranch31 · 15/04/2024 16:06

Psychoticbreak · 15/04/2024 15:54

Had this with my ex. He told me I was controlling and the usual shite. It is rude and disrespectful imo and if I were you I would get out now. He wont change.

Ditto. Turned into a saga of emotional abuse and cheating.

Greycap · 15/04/2024 16:05

Just dump him, he sounds like a loser and you shouldn’t be having these doubts or dramas within 5 months. Don’t give him the satisfaction of telling him why. Just tell him you don’t think it’s working out.

lightmuller · 15/04/2024 16:00

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autumn1610 · 15/04/2024 15:58

yes it’s ick that she’s younger than him and a colleague. But how do you know he’s liking them? Are you checking?

Psychoticbreak · 15/04/2024 15:54

Had this with my ex. He told me I was controlling and the usual shite. It is rude and disrespectful imo and if I were you I would get out now. He wont change.

SillyLittleWoman · 15/04/2024 15:52

🤢🤮

He sounds like a proper little perv. Eww

Nonewclothes2024 · 15/04/2024 15:48

Pinkboxglitter · 15/04/2024 08:50

Hes her boss too. We are both in leadership, hes further than me obviously. I feel so embarrased also as I have mutual friends with her.

Creepy

Catladyireland · 15/04/2024 15:42

I put up with this in a previous relationship (a coworker) and am so embarrassed by it now. Younger guys I could maybe forgive but at his age, it's so icky.

Greywitch2 · 15/04/2024 15:35

OMG. Sleazy middle aged creep. Just dump him.

He's embarrassing himself with his mid life crisis. Does he really think his employee doesn't think he's a bit pathetic?

Geebray · 15/04/2024 15:26

Pinkboxglitter · 15/04/2024 08:50

Hes her boss too. We are both in leadership, hes further than me obviously. I feel so embarrased also as I have mutual friends with her.

Oh got it gets worse. Throw this one back, OP. He's a sleaze.

Geebray · 15/04/2024 15:25

ICK ICK ICK ICK

asbigasablueberry · 15/04/2024 15:24

He sounds like a dirty old man. Put him swiftly in the bin OP and find someone who aligns with your values. It will only get worse.

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MustBeNapTime · 15/04/2024 09:32

What a sad, pathetic excuse for a man, after only 5 months he should be all over you, not perving over some 20 year old subordinate colleague. Taking it slow? I'd put a total stop on it, you can do so much better. If he's treating you so disrespectfully 5 months in, what's he going to be like in a year, 5 years...? Raise your bar. Also, that poor youngster having her boss perving over her, even if at the moment she likes the attention from her boss, it's totally inappropriate!

bradpittsbathwater · 15/04/2024 08:51

Eww you can do better than that

Pinkboxglitter · 15/04/2024 08:50

Hes her boss too. We are both in leadership, hes further than me obviously. I feel so embarrased also as I have mutual friends with her.

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bradpittsbathwater · 15/04/2024 08:49

He sounds really immature for a 40 year old. No wonder he's liking pics of girls young enough to be his daughter and dating women a decade younger.