My dh lives in a mess, he lives like a pig. His personal hygiene is good, he never smells but that’s where it ends. We have seperate rooms and his room is dirty and messy, piles of clothes everywhere, surfaces thick with dust, he never vacuums. He never cleans or tidies or even changes his bed. His car is also filthy. He runs his own business so is quite busy with that all the time but I also run a small business plus do the majority of the child care and housework but I won’t clean his room. I used to clean it for him but I’ve stopped as he just lets it get bad again and I have enough to do - and I am not his mother. It’s starting to give me the ick that he can live like this at his age. He is 45 years old, he was messy when I met him but he was young so I assumed he would get better with age. He hasn’t. Is it normal for men to live in their own filth and not be bothered by it? It can’t be good for his health, mental health or physical health.