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To over invite guests to DD's party?

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aimlesswanderingg · 14/04/2024 19:43

Invitations went out two weeks ago for a joint party for DD 6 turning 7 and DS 4 turning 5 (both have birthday in May). Never had a party before, DD Is beyond excited. Venue capacity is 60 with no wriggle room as they're the venue/hosts/entertainment and they do a head check. No one has rsvp'd for DD (DS has six guests so far) out of 60 invites (30 each). It's a bank holiday plus someone else in her class is having a party the same day. So no one has said they're coming for DD, three have said they can't due to other party. Dd does dance club Mondays which only has one girl from her year in it (most go to other schools). DH said to invite all 30 of them and just cancel individuals if we do end up going over capacity, but I'd feel awful doing that, but as it stands DD has no one coming, I can't even begin to imagine how devastated she'd be. Would I be unreasonable to risk going over capacity and then having to cancel individuals? How many people do normally RSVP out of 30 in your experience?

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aimlesswanderingg · 14/04/2024 20:06

@Whattheflipflap no BrewSad

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Whattheflipflap · 14/04/2024 20:06

Did you put an RSVP to you by x date on the invitation?

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aimlesswanderingg · 14/04/2024 20:06

@Pineapplewaves yes, I did, that's true. It's a standard bank holiday, not half term. Other party is same time.

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aimlesswanderingg · 14/04/2024 20:05

@StartingOverInMy40s it does, I don't want to. DH says to invite say 50 people for DD (So 80 invited for a 60 capacity venue) and if people all say yes, message a few to apologise and say that they won't be able to come. It sounds horrible to me too but he's worried DD will have no guests and it's worth the risk given that not everyone will be able to come.

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Popchippps · 14/04/2024 20:04

Well you can’t cancel people after you’ve invited them

send a reminder with rsvp by x date if you don’t hear back invite some others

Pineapplewaves · 14/04/2024 20:04

Did you send the invitations out just before the kids broke up for Easter? They could still be sitting in school bags that parents won't be looking in until tomorrow or still at school if children were away.

What time is the other party? DS has had a few invites for more than one party on the same day and where they've been at different times most kids attended both.

Some people will just turn up without replying, some people will wait until nearer the time. If it's half term week some people may be away and not able to attend, if it's just a standard Bank Holiday weekend I would think most people would think "great, something to entertain the kids".

StartingOverInMy40s · 14/04/2024 20:02

What do you mean cancel people individually- that sounds a bit cruel.

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aimlesswanderingg · 14/04/2024 19:58

@TayIor I can't, my family are coming up from England (Scotland) for it and booked travel, plus I've paid for it.

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TayIor · 14/04/2024 19:56

I'd change the date. Bank Holiday (half term) you'll find loads of people already have plans/holidays booked. And especially if there's already another party on the same date.