AIBU to feel irritated by DH asking me to cover up when I don't want sex?

But by doing that it means you've given dangerous advice to an abused woman.

Maybe an iPhone thing mine isn't.

On mine, I see a funnel image on the top right (app in iPhone).

No just checked not on app or if you go in from email link

I can see it and I’m on mine. At the bottom right hand corner of the OP, not with ‘Active’ and ‘I’m on’.

I don't get a see all button on my phone

There's a See All function so you can read just the OP's posts. At the very least read those.

OP - are you ok

There is always going to be a strain on a relationship when someone feels reliant on their partner to fulfil a "need" they have. When that need is not met, then it makes it easier for the person to blame the other and (in your case) start feeling that they can control their behaviour in some way. This is what he is doing by telling what you can and cannot wear.

In Australia we have recently seen the horrific consequences of when this thought process is amplified by mental illness.

OP- you do not exist to fulfil this person's sexual gratification desires, and therefore there is no requirement to feel guilty about it. Your body is not and never has been a service station for his sexual needs, or a payment for "everything he does for you" or as a way to placate the needy baby inside of him.

OP's Partner- if you are reading this, stop listening to Andrew Tate and understand you do not need sex to live or function. You are not and never have been ENTITLED to sex. It's a mutual consent situation. You will lose her and the life you built together.

Please get some help. He sounds controlling and borderline abusive. Tracking you? Driving you everywhere? The behavior when he doesn't get sex. None of that is normal or healthy.
He needs professional help if you really want to stay together.

I really hope this is a wind up. If not, then OP is sadly seriously in danger if she ever decides to stop having sex against her will. But I guess for now that and being controlled is the price she's willing to pay for financial security and working part time.

The man sounds absolutely terrifying.
If this is what he reveals and treats his wife I am really scared about what he is capable of doing to other women.

I feel for you op obviously there's a part of you that understands his behaviour isn't normal or acceptable otherwise you wouldn't have posted on here. It's horrible to have a mirror held up to your life and to have it valued as abusive and that you are a victim rather than the equal partner you may have thought you were.

I hope you get help, there are many years & decades ahead, I hope you can find the courage to leave him, I'm not sure how at this point because he sounds incredibly dangerous, but I do wish you well and I hate that I feel so concerned that you may not be able to ever be free from him.

He needs a therapist. Or a brick to the head.

I do agree. Even Wayne Couzens didn’t behave like this at home. It is the most frightening and sinister behaviour. I’m seriously hoping it’s not real.

Edited to add I would be getting support to get to safety and carefully reporting this behaviour to the police. They need to look into this man.

There seems to be an escalation here based on OP posting now and the last update.

Do you agree a person who is being coercively controlled (illegal) should LTB? That’s what’s happening here based on facts as presented by OP. AT BEST.

@DuckDuck1234 is spot on.

@Outliers . There are very many vulnerable women in abusive relationships who don't actually realise it, because their abuser convinces them of a horrible new normal. They tell these women it's normal, and over time the women believe them. So when you blithely and arrogantly come on without bothering to read even the ops posts, to say what their abuser is saying, it is incredibly damaging. The op will cling to it, there's comfort in familiarity.

There's a "see all" button on OPs posts which is helpful especially for long threads. If this thread is real there's a lot at stake here as a PP said.

Same here.

OMG what have I just read. I am reeling from OP latest update😮 😭”woke up to find him masturbating over me” and the comments - he genuinely sounds like more and more he is a rapist (highly suspicious and stronger with each post); but 100% everything OP has said is fact - he IS coercively controlling, a sexual abuser and gas lighter.

It's within our rights to do all sorts of dickish things. Fortunately, many of us prefer to not be a dick.

Feel free to report my post the moderators if i have violated any rules.

In the meantime i think I'm well within my reasonable right to respond to an OP and buy digest several pages of a thread. Thanks

Imo that's incredibly irresponsible of you. The OP is probably in an abusive relationship and because you don't have the time but still want to comment, you're telling her it's no big deal. She might then read that and take it to heart without realising that you are commenting without knowing the whole story.

It's fine if you don't want to read the whole thread. But then don't comment.

I was going off the original post, i don't have time to read the entire thread

I don't subscribe to the LTB motto for everything that's remotely offensive.

Hasn't worked out badly so thankfully

I do think that tbh