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AIBU to feel irritated by DH asking me to cover up when I don't want sex?

433 replies

RaspberryRippleDuvet · 14/04/2024 19:18

There are times of the month when I really don't want sex but my DH will still be really horny.

At these times he will tell me not to sit in a certain way that shows my curves, or he'll cover my legs with a blanket if I'm showing any part of them. When I seem irritated by this he says he finds it too hard to see me in any way he deems sexy as he knows he won't be having sex with me.

To be clear, I'm not attempting to 'tease' him in any way; I'm just going about my life.

AIBU to find this behaviour of his annoying and controlling? Or should I be more sensitive?

OP posts:
frecklejuice · 14/04/2024 21:49

Have my very first LTB.

JFC.

Banana1979 · 14/04/2024 21:48

He’s doing it on purpose as he’s sulking and taking it out on you, and being horrible to you, because you’re not giving him sex he’s a wan*ker

Overtheatlantic · 14/04/2024 21:47

What a nasty man. 🤢

godmum56 · 14/04/2024 21:46

Its simple. You wear what you like. He wears a blindfold. Job done

willWillSmithsmith · 14/04/2024 21:37

I have never heard anything like it! This would make me think very seriously about my future with him. It’s really quite disgusting.

Illpickthatup · 14/04/2024 21:26

God I'd be scuppered. My DH gives me the sexy eyes stare when I'm fully covered by pyjamas with unwashed hair and looking like I've been dragged through a bush backwards. Thankfully he's not a rapey bastard or a sex pest so I'm quite safe walking around in my sexy skank get up!

DuchessOfSausage · 14/04/2024 21:26

Get yourself some baggy arsed tracky bottoms, a pink or lilac nylon house coat in a 1970s print, and a teacosy hat and wear them all the time.
Or
Leave him, he's a sex-pest.

Screamingabdabz · 14/04/2024 21:25

This is the mentality of men who think women are just nicely shaped objects to penetrate. A walking knuckle-dragging penis with a pea sized reptilian brain.

Why are with him op?

DeeCeeCherry · 14/04/2024 21:20

Say 'ok' then cover up. He'll then start complaining to high heaven.

Honestly, Ive heard it all now

ApricotsAndPlums · 14/04/2024 21:19

This is seriously disgusting behaviour, OP - he sounds pornsick. I wouldn’t let a man like this anywhere near me and I honestly don’t think that’s an overreaction. Have you spoken to him about it and told him it’s unacceptable?

nocoolnamesleft · 14/04/2024 21:19

I've never understood why it's always about the woman covering up, instead of the man wearing blinkers.

DownWithThisKindOfThing · 14/04/2024 21:19

He’s absolutely disgusting. My fanny would be firmly out of bounds to him indefinitely in your shoes

Dullardmullard · 14/04/2024 21:19

Ihearyousingingdownthewire · 14/04/2024 21:14

“Cover yourself up you selfish bitch, otherwise I might be forced to rape you..”

That is basically how I’m reading this. Absolutely fucking horrified.

This came to mind for me too 💯

bonzaitree · 14/04/2024 21:18

Very very strange behaviour.

Orophile · 14/04/2024 21:18

EsotericMnemonic · 14/04/2024 19:53

Grab the blanket off your legs and put it over his head, he’s the one with the problem.
Do you have any children? I’d be seriously worried about what messages kids would pick up on.

😂

Orophile · 14/04/2024 21:18

🤮

trekking1 · 14/04/2024 21:17

Some of you mumsnetters really married a prize!

CheeseSandwichRiskAssessment · 14/04/2024 21:16

Now I've heard it all 😒What a childish pig

GingerPirate · 14/04/2024 21:14

neverendingcold · 14/04/2024 19:20

Wtaf

Yes, exactly this came into my mind.

Ihearyousingingdownthewire · 14/04/2024 21:14

“Cover yourself up you selfish bitch, otherwise I might be forced to rape you..”

That is basically how I’m reading this. Absolutely fucking horrified.

SingingSands · 14/04/2024 19:57

Christ! Did he spend his teenage years reading FHM and Nuts magazines?

EsotericMnemonic · 14/04/2024 19:53

Grab the blanket off your legs and put it over his head, he’s the one with the problem.
Do you have any children? I’d be seriously worried about what messages kids would pick up on.

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 14/04/2024 19:50

Gross
Grim
Disgusting
Rapey
Sex Pest

Yep, all of the above.

He is FOUL. Weird controlling sexual freak.

How bloody DARE he?

Have my first ever LTB!!

Popchippps · 14/04/2024 19:49

I’d help him by removing myself, on a permanent basis from the house (in whatever clothing I felt like wearing ) forever

HelloMiss · 14/04/2024 19:47

MeDaughterMerope · 14/04/2024 19:31

Sounds kinda rapey to me.

Was thinking this...

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