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Please reassure me I won't get fired

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Porttiny · 14/04/2024 18:59

I'm very anxious and maybe overthinking. A bit of reassurance would help.

I've just started a new job. Fairly senior and big pay rise. I'm having a crisis of confidence.

I had to finish early on Friday to take my child to the doctor's. After he went to bed, I cleared the remainder of my emails as I hate starting a Monday with emails from the previous week. I didn't realise until just now when I've opened my laptop to plan the week ahead, but I've somehow accidentally responded to an email with three people copied in with a single line I'd copied and pasted from an article about self confidence. I have a page on my one note where I record self helpy things and generally successes in work and have somehow copied this into an email rather than copying it to my OneNote page.

It looks like I'm completely mad and I'm really worried about tomorrow. Please tell me this isn't the worst thing in the world!

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mynameiscalypso · 14/04/2024 20:39

Don't recall it. It makes it look worse. Definitely brazen it out. It's all good. I'd find it quite endearing if one of team did this to me.

SwedishEdith · 14/04/2024 20:37

SwedishEdith · 14/04/2024 20:24

If it's obvious it's about self confidence you're really going to have to brazen this out now to show you have it.

Meant, flippantly, of course. You definitely won't get fired 😊

Shitlord · 14/04/2024 20:36

LoopyLooooo · 14/04/2024 19:36

OP, lots of people have asked why you think you might be fired for this mistake but you haven't answered?

Do you know anything about employment law?

From the OP it doesn't sound like she seriously does, she's just in a new job and cringing/ anxious.

It's fine. Do as others say, don't try to recall, just a breezy 'sorry, c&p error, I was writing something else and sent by accident' type of note. A very human mistake.

Remember, they don't know it was a note to self which is what is embarrassing you. You could have been writing a motivational message as part of your job. Even if they do guess, so what. We all need to build up our confidence somehow.

Caterina99 · 14/04/2024 20:34

Honestly unless it could be taken personally or offensive in some way, no one will remotely care. Certainly 100% you won’t be fired for it!

I mean I think we’ve all sent an email that we regret. Either wrong recipient or haven’t checked the spelling or reply all or whatever!

I’d just send a quick reply now saying “oops sorry, copy and pasted that by accident, please ignore!” Or something similar. No one will probably even bring it up

SwedishEdith · 14/04/2024 20:24

If it's obvious it's about self confidence you're really going to have to brazen this out now to show you have it.

Sundaysunshine22 · 14/04/2024 20:22

Bearbookagainandagain · 14/04/2024 20:20

If you are using outlook, just recall the email now. It's very likely they haven't opened it yet, and you will if one of them has anyway.

Surely it's weird to recall cos they get a notification it's been recalled. Wouldn't that look more sus than just laughing off an email

Bearbookagainandagain · 14/04/2024 20:20

If you are using outlook, just recall the email now. It's very likely they haven't opened it yet, and you will if one of them has anyway.

SausageinaBun · 14/04/2024 19:37

I think the key to things like this it to imagine yourself as the other person and think how you would feel/think/respond.

If you received something like that, you would think 'that's a bit unusual' at most and then move on. So that's how others will respond to you.

LoopyLooooo · 14/04/2024 19:36

OP, lots of people have asked why you think you might be fired for this mistake but you haven't answered?

Do you know anything about employment law?

Shiningout · 14/04/2024 19:25

Why on earth would you be fired? Its a self help quote not a triad of abuse. I can understand you feeling a bit flustered by it but honestly just try and recall it, if not just say please ignore this email - copy and pasted a quote by accident! No one will blink twice honestly.

NinetyNineRedBalloonsGoBy · 14/04/2024 19:21

It'll be fine! I've done similar and just sent a follow up saying "please disregard previous email", no apologies no explanations! Brazen it out!

But - what did it say? That's really key here!

Porttiny · 14/04/2024 19:20

Thanks so much. This is all so kind and I'm so grateful 💗 feel loads better

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Cantbebotheredwithausername · 14/04/2024 19:18

Absolutely harmless. Definitely won't get you fired. Give it a quick "oopsie-daisy" and move on. We all make that sort of mistakes sometimes, and it'll probably happen to you again, too. Seriously. It's no big deal.

PinkFrogss · 14/04/2024 19:18

If someone sent something like that to me OP I’d have a quick laugh and then forget about it.

Send a lighthearted email tomorrow apologising for the mistake, with the response you actually meant to send.

Imposter syndrome is terrible isn’t it Flowers

IvorTheEngineDriver · 14/04/2024 19:15

Did something similar once. Sent an email round saying: "Ignore previous email. It was a draft. Clicked "send" not "save" by mistake."

dreamfield · 14/04/2024 19:12

Unless it was an offensive quote, I would struggle to care if I received an email like this. I'd just file it with the delete key and move on

Echobelly · 14/04/2024 19:10

It's a tiny bit embarrassing but there is absolutely no ground for firing you or anyone over it. None whatsover.

If you want to get it out of your system, send an email and say 'Sorry, just saw I accidentally C&Ped some text from elsewhere, please ignore that!'

WarshipRocinante · 14/04/2024 19:06

What did it say? Was it some sort of self confidence mantra which could be taken as a passive aggressive comment or insult? Because this isn’t anything that’s going to get you sacked unless it could somehow be taken as some awful insult. Really, you’ll be fine!

Alphabetsouplover · 14/04/2024 19:06

Why would you be fired over this? Maybe speak to your GP

Luckydog7 · 14/04/2024 19:05

I would email the people it was sent to and make very light of it and say you accidentally pasted the wrong thing into the email then breezily carry on with what you meant to send.

It really not a big deal. I used to work for a local authority and weekly we would have people stupidly hitting 'reply all' and sending a random email to thousands and thousands of people, crashing the system in the process.

I was once cced into an email train talking ABOUT me as they had obviously searched for me in the email address box then forgotten to delete it. THAT was awkward! 😆

Your little mistake is nothing, the receivers might raise an eyebrow that's it.

LittleCarrot12 · 14/04/2024 19:05

Can you retract the email? Honestly, people won’t care and the email will get deleted whilst they focus on their other emails.
If you are really worried just follow up with a “ooops” was looking at some training material/details and sent this by accident.

Not as bad as my colleague who in a rage sent our manager a list of all the reasons he couldn’t work with another colleague only to send to her by mistake. Some were really nasty.

Grapewrath · 14/04/2024 19:04

Just say- ‘sorry copy and paste error- obviously not meant for you!’
and move on
Nobody will give a shit.

ShinyEspeon · 14/04/2024 19:04

Why would you get fired? It wasn't anything offensive!
You made a silly mistake that had no effect on anything or anyone.

RawBloomers · 14/04/2024 19:03

It’s not the worst thing in the world. No one’s going to fire you for accidentally sending a nonsense email.

On Monday just laugh it off. You will do thousands more things over the coming weeks and everyone will have forgotten about this minutes after they read it.

Bjorkdidit · 14/04/2024 19:02

You could try recalling the email, but obviously it won't work if your colleagues are in the habit of reading their emails at the weekend.