To think this is a perfectly fine evening meal?

I absolutely HATE people who give an opinion on food/servings......

fuck off and tell someone who actually is interested - BLOODY RUDE!

OP! YANBU X

How old is she? My parents ate less and less as they grew older. I went over fur lunch once and the salad they put out for the three of us I would have eaten on my own.
If she's weird about food you just have to ignore her (and quite rude of her to comment).

I roll ham around Longley farm full fat for lunch frequently to make cottage cheese and ham tubes- delicious!! 😋

If you read the OP's posts, the aunt has always had issues around food.

I know a few people like this and they are mostly women of my mothers age, 70+ Pointed comments about how they "Couldnt eat all of that!" Sort of disgust mixed with envy is the best way I can describe it. My mother once said in a throwaway comment that she was envious of my eating disorder as she knows she eats far more than "she should" (her words). She is a size 12/14 75 year old. Its ingrained. To her and many many of her contemporaries, its not what it is that matters but the amount. So mash with 2 sausages and a table spoon of peas is far better "for slimming" than the ubiquitous MN massive salad with a large steak or whole pot of cottage cheese or a whole pack of ham......or indeed all three!

ETA cos I mixed up the mash and peas!

Yabu because it's more of a light lunch or a snack than an evening meal, but your aunt is very rude to comment because you can eat whatever you want!

If I'd only had porridge all day I would be having something much larger and more substantial and your aunt would be having conniptions!

Nothing wrong with that meal, I hope you enjoyed it, your Aunt should keep her eyes and opinions to herself if she has nothing nice to say.

Doesn't matter. The aunt is a guest of the OP, she had no right whatsoever to comment.

Maybe if the dinner had been better the aunt would have wanted some
Mechanically recovered ham bits reformed isnt everyones bag

It looks initially like a big plateful (maybe you had a smallish plate) but when you listed what was on there it's really not a big meal! The salad takes up a fair bit of space and the ham looks like very thin slices. And if you didn't have lunch I'd think you were very restrained......

But even if you'd had a monstrous takeaway - how dare she (a guest) be so rude as to comment? Ignore - and enjoy!!

The aunt wasn’t served it, though. That was the OP’s own dinner. The aunt had a slice of toast, presumably by her own wish.

Even if the OP was not a healthy weight and had had lunch, it still has fuck all to do with the aunt.

Your aunt is rude. Who goes to someone else's house and says their host is eating a greedy tea?

It is a lovely looking tea. I would really enjoy it and I'd feel like it was a healthy option.

I'm pretty sure I will be copying it this week.

Have you never had cold meat and mash on Boxing Day ?

Op looks fab. Reminds me of Boxing Day meals

But you have a gastric/digestive illness, so of course your view of what would be an appropriate mean will differ from the OP’s?

OP, even if you dined on a tub of icecream with a side order of deep-fried mars bar, it would be rude for your aunt to comment.

i had a bowl of Bran Flakes for dinner.

Well it is not too much food but it is a pretty poor meal to serve a guest for dinner.

Even if it was a full KFC bucket it’s none of her business.

Rude to comment on someone elses food.

Does your aunt have form for this sort of nonsense? Don't have her to stay again, you shouldn't tolerate people policing your food like that.

That's a normal size meal and not a particularly heavy one either! Your aunt obviously has issues around food 🙄

And a moat of gravy round the sides. 😊

It sounds like your aunt has issues with food and weight, not uncommon but sad

Your dinner looks really nice, I must try and have more picky teas like this

It looks a normal amount but I wouldn't have cottage cheese, hard cheese, coleslaw and salad cream in the same meal.

Looks totally fine to me - a large amount of the plate is salad. Also, even if she thought the portions were big (not that its any of her business at all!), its the weekend and I think most of the country will have had a bigger meal this weekend (not that yours is big!). Does she not eat big roasts or takeaways sometimes at the weekend?

Today I have had:

breakfast, half a can of baked beans on two sllces of toast
Lunch a cup of soup (M and S mushroom)
Evening dinner, Chicken breast with 4 roast spuds, a Yorkshire pudding, some stuffing, carrots, cauliflower and gravy , it was yummy and I had a glass of wine too. Your aunt would be appalled!

It’s less than I tend to eat. I’d have more veggies/ salad and more ham and probably lose one of the slaw things but overall I eat more and I’d have for lunch and dinner

I'd eat that kind of amount for lunch, and your aunt would be horrified at my dinner. I'm on the low-bmi side of healthy, and not as active as I should be.

Your aunt is possibly the greedy one, eyeing up the coleslaw and worrying therell not be enough for her 😀