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IroningThrone · 2024-04-14T16:46:55+00:00

Had porridge at about 7am this morning and have been busy all day. Have just made myself tea (see pic) and my aunt (who is staying with me for a few days) has made me feel really bad about it - apparently it's too much food and a "greedy meal" Aibu to think it's fine as an evening meal? It's four new potatoes, boiled and crisped in the pan with a little olive oil (not how I'd usually have them with a salad type tea, but they were still a bit hard!), two slices of cheese, a tablespoon of fat free cottage cheese/coleslaw, two slices of ham, and a bit of salad cream (plus the salad leaves)

Sasqwatch · 14/04/2024 23:59

Sprogonthetyne · 14/04/2024 17:49

It's slightly more then I'd usually have, but if you missed lunch (I'm guessing as you mentioned breakfast and nothing else), you'd want a big tea. Over the course of the day you've not had much

A ‘big tea’ are you the Aunt? 🙄

Gunpowder · 14/04/2024 23:47

It’s absolutely fine. Of course she shouldn’t meddle in what you are eating. I think a ‘yes, I know we need less food as we get older. I’m still young enough to have an appetite’ (said with a smile) would have been justified.

Lilyscotswolds · 14/04/2024 23:38

Thats a totally normal and healthy meal! I’d argue even on the lower end of a normal amount of dinner calories. How rude of her!

pelotonaddiction · 14/04/2024 23:36

ODFOx · 14/04/2024 23:12

I'd love it, but from a cost perspective (presuming that your Aunt is older); there are three protein sources in one meal there ( expensive) and a heap of fried potatoes larger than your portion of veg (of which half is covered in mayonnaise).
It was rude of her to comment at all. It looks delicious. It's certainly a calorie dense meal.

It's coleslaw! What else is it going to be "covered" in

The weirdness about food on here...
A couple of pieces of ham, some cheese... it's not exactly caviar prices

cardibach · 14/04/2024 23:26

ODFOx · 14/04/2024 23:12

I'd love it, but from a cost perspective (presuming that your Aunt is older); there are three protein sources in one meal there ( expensive) and a heap of fried potatoes larger than your portion of veg (of which half is covered in mayonnaise).
It was rude of her to comment at all. It looks delicious. It's certainly a calorie dense meal.

A heap of potatoes? It’s 4 new potatoes. Plus the green salad alone is the same size and there’s other veg too.

wfhwfh · 14/04/2024 23:26

I also really dislike when people comment on what other people eat. IMO, the only acceptable comment is “That looks delicious!” People eat different amounts but commenting on how much or little someone eats is really crass & rude.

Hemakesmesmile2 · 14/04/2024 23:26

That’s a belting dish! I’d eat that happily. Your aunt is clearly jealous of your tea.

wfhwfh · 14/04/2024 23:23

This is exactly the kind of tea I love and often have myself. I don’t think it’s at all greedy and think it’s a great balance of fat, protein & carbs.

The only difference is I wouldn’t manage to skip lunch!

Copperoliverbear · 14/04/2024 23:17

Looks lovely, older people can be cantankerous at times

Lianna077 · 14/04/2024 23:14

mondaytosunday · 14/04/2024 22:54

How old is she? My parents ate less and less as they grew older. I went over fur lunch once and the salad they put out for the three of us I would have eaten on my own.
If she's weird about food you just have to ignore her (and quite rude of her to comment).

You are right! I am older and definitely eat far less than I did. But I hope I never turn into one of those parents who forget how much younger people like to eat. When the family visit I always make sure we have plenty of food with lots of snacks such as tea cakes, scones, yoghurts and fruit etc for people to help themselves to in between meals. I love to watch everyone eating and would hate the thought that anyone was left feeling hungry.

justanotherrandomperson · 14/04/2024 23:12

My grandparents were young during the war. One of them had a father who had seen things in wartime that made him particularly strict about wasting food. None of them would have questioned that plate of food. Even if you remember rationing, there's been plenty of time to recalibrate your notion of a normal diet.

ODFOx · 14/04/2024 23:12

I'd love it, but from a cost perspective (presuming that your Aunt is older); there are three protein sources in one meal there ( expensive) and a heap of fried potatoes larger than your portion of veg (of which half is covered in mayonnaise).
It was rude of her to comment at all. It looks delicious. It's certainly a calorie dense meal.

CocoapuffPuff · 14/04/2024 23:11

I had a slice of cucumber for my dinner 4 hours ago and I am STILL FULL.

INeedVitaminSea · 14/04/2024 23:11

The “ham” is a bit too plastic/processed for my taste but otherwise a very nice dinner. Your aunt is very rude to criticise.

Shizzlestix · 14/04/2024 23:09

IroningThrone · 14/04/2024 17:59

A slice of brown toast I think! She once insisted that me and my cousins shared a single choc ice - between four of us!

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That’s not normal. She’s obviously got issues. That’s a fab tea!

My mother used to wind me right up with her competitive undereating eg half a slice of toast for breakfast, but since my gastric surgery, I eat less than her! She’s told me to stop losing weight so I don’t look ‘gaunt’

She pissed off the family last year by only taking 4 slices of bread on holiday for 3 days (self catering huge house, everyone takes loads of food and then shares as preferred). Someone took a slice and she was fuming! Just so petty, she’s loaded, it’s not like she needs to stick to a budget.

IntertwiningLeaves · 14/04/2024 23:07

Also, the majority of this meal is salad. Two of the portions are invested with fairly healthy fats and decent carbs, so i would suggest this is a very healthy diet with good proportions.

IntertwiningLeaves · 14/04/2024 23:05

perfect meal op!
a varied and delicious spread. Healthy to boot.

Concannon88 · 14/04/2024 23:05

Was she alive during the war? Most old people I've met think this sort of this would feed a whole family as they grew up with rationing!

Zooeyzo · 14/04/2024 23:04

This reminds me of food I used to see at a canteen in the 90s when I worked there as a uni job. Having immigrant parents I'd never really seen a ham salad with slices of ham, boiled eggs and potatoes with a few green leaves. It's a normal portion but I do think people on this site say either they don't eat a lot or eat lots but are very slim.

justanotherrandomperson · 14/04/2024 23:04

If anyone told me my meal (that I paid for) was a greedy portion, I'm not sure what I'd do, but they'd know I was unhappy with them. If a guest did it, I'd never invite them back again. What a stupid thing to say!

CreateAUsername2024 · 14/04/2024 23:03

anon12345anon · 14/04/2024 22:54

I absolutely HATE people who give an opinion on food/servings......

fuck off and tell someone who actually is interested - BLOODY RUDE!

OP! YANBU X

Agree! Op are you on the smaller side? People seem to think it's okay when this is the case.

CreateAUsername2024 · 14/04/2024 23:03

I eat meals like this every night and I'm a size 6! If I eat any less I'd dissappear, your aunt is being stupid different people have different needs with food. Do not feel bad!!!!

Lianna077 · 14/04/2024 22:58

If I generally only ate what you have done in a day then I would lose weight over time. I would need more than that for an evening meal if I’d only eaten porridge for breakfast. I think you are being quite restrained!

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IroningThrone · 14/04/2024 22:55

BoneshakerBike · 14/04/2024 22:33

Well it is not too much food but it is a pretty poor meal to serve a guest for dinner.

I didn't serve it to her. It was my tea.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 14/04/2024 22:55

Crikeyalmighty · 14/04/2024 22:54

I roll ham around Longley farm full fat for lunch frequently to make cottage cheese and ham tubes- delicious!! 😋

I thought it was just me that did this!!