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To think this is a perfectly fine evening meal?

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IroningThrone · 14/04/2024 17:46

Had porridge at about 7am this morning and have been busy all day. Have just made myself tea (see pic) and my aunt (who is staying with me for a few days) has made me feel really bad about it - apparently it's too much food and a "greedy meal"

Aibu to think it's fine as an evening meal?

It's four new potatoes, boiled and crisped in the pan with a little olive oil (not how I'd usually have them with a salad type tea, but they were still a bit hard!), two slices of cheese, a tablespoon of fat free cottage cheese/coleslaw, two slices of ham, and a bit of salad cream (plus the salad leaves)

To think this is a perfectly fine evening meal?
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Bagwyllydiart · 15/04/2024 06:56

That is a starter, what is the main course?

Thursa · 15/04/2024 06:53

Looks delicious!

MyGiddyPoet · 15/04/2024 06:52

I was looking at the picture, and it made me really hungry. It's very rude of your aunt to say that.

VestibuleVirgin · 15/04/2024 06:39

@Rosscameasdoody True, bur assuming a normal-sized dinner plate, it is a lot (for me!)
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PostalPanic · 15/04/2024 06:38

I'd probably just have had the one protein rather than three. Especially as there's coleslaw as well. Some cucumbers, peppers and tomato would be great with that. But your food, your choice. Your aunt probably has a smaller appetite. Not nice of her to comment.

Rosscameasdoody · 15/04/2024 06:33

VestibuleVirgin · 15/04/2024 06:28

That's a massive plate of food! Two meals worth for me

Not sure it is really - hard to gauge the size of the plate as there’s nothing to show scale.

Lourdes12 · 15/04/2024 06:30

The food is fine but big portion

VestibuleVirgin · 15/04/2024 06:28

That's a massive plate of food! Two meals worth for me

Newestname002 · 15/04/2024 06:10

@IroningThrone

I made a chocolate mug cake and added a lot of custard!

Ooh - that sounds delicious!! 🌹

PralinaChocs · 15/04/2024 05:12

Looks delicious OP and very similar to my lunch yesterday. I also had a dinner of salmon, rice and veg, plus 3 GF cupcakes at afternoon tea time, and some crisps and 4 squares of dark chocolate for supper. And I'd had 2 milky coffees and an avocado spread over 5 corn crackers for breakfast. I understand that everyone has different ways of eating, but honestly my mind boggles that your aunt would think that plate was too much when it was your only main meal of the day.

Please don't feel bad about what you've eaten. Your body is asking for good quality fuel, and that's what you're giving it. Absolutely crack on.

NewGirlinClass · 15/04/2024 04:56

I think the plate looks smaller than I use for main meals. Was there other food available were there extra potatoes or more salad for anyone to add? Was there cheese on the table to cut for oneself.
Did you just put it on the plate as we see and serve.

Notquitethere60 · 15/04/2024 04:25

Nothing to do with the thread but the cost of 100 cigarettes per day!
The food looks fine btw. I’m older than your aunt and I had about that amount of food for lunch as well as roast beef and veg for dinner.

CurlsnSunshinetime4tea · 15/04/2024 03:48

not perfectly fine for me, any of my family members or my friends and colleagues but if you are pleased with this that's all that matters.
it's a bit fussy eater lunch buffet, toddler picky eater, cleaning out the fridge of left overs.

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anon4net · 15/04/2024 02:56

My dear Mum would balk at a plate of food that size and make comments too. What my Mum doesn't appreciate, is she snacks with things like biscuits and toast between meals so eats less at meals, then judges everyone's plates.

Looks tasty @IroningThrone !

Fraaahnces · 15/04/2024 02:43

What did she have? Do you think she’s anorexic? My mum was and she used to be obsessed with what and how much other people were eating and of course her particular pet peeve was “fat content” of bloody everything. I also have coeliac disease so a keto diet worked wonders for me for ease and anti-inflammation. She could not wrap her head around it at all. I lost weight, had glowing skin and ate fat all the time. She also smoked over 100 cigarettes a day and was genuinely surprised when diagnosed with lung cancer and COPD. I suspect it was because she was obsessed with policing everyone else.

azlazee1 · 15/04/2024 02:36

Guess who I wouldn't invite again, hmmmmm.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 15/04/2024 01:03

It looks bloody gorgeous. I could just wolf that down now ❤️

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/04/2024 00:36

I should add that a lot of people I know think that having bellyache after a big dinner is a good thing, but are always hungry becausetheir stomach rarelyfeels full. I think feeling pain or discomfort should be avoided but maybe that's the ED talking.

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/04/2024 00:33

theduchessofspork · 15/04/2024 00:15

How does having an eating disorder give you a small stomach capacity? Stomachs are stretchy. I’m not being rude, just curious

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Mine hasn't been stretched basically. I really can't physically eat very much without feeling very uncomfortable at best or in pain at worst.

theduchessofspork · 15/04/2024 00:22

ODFOx · 14/04/2024 23:12

I'd love it, but from a cost perspective (presuming that your Aunt is older); there are three protein sources in one meal there ( expensive) and a heap of fried potatoes larger than your portion of veg (of which half is covered in mayonnaise).
It was rude of her to comment at all. It looks delicious. It's certainly a calorie dense meal.

Don’t be ridiculous, it’s 4 sautéed potatoes, a couple of slices of thin processed ham, two small pieces of cheddar, a dollop of cottage cheese and a handful of leaves.

It’s not especially expensive (that is not posh ham), it’s not especially calorie, dense and there is no portion that could be described as a heap.

It is a lightish main meal.

theduchessofspork · 15/04/2024 00:15

PyongyangKipperbang · 14/04/2024 21:54

Yes but although calorifically its not much, I have a very small stomach capacity. due to an eating disorder. I physically wouldnt be able to eat that in one go. Like I have to eat a sandwich over about an hour because I couldnt eat both halves in one go. I try to eat a normal amount of calories but its difficult to do with three meals a day, I have to graze.

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How does having an eating disorder give you a small stomach capacity? Stomachs are stretchy. I’m not being rude, just curious

ASeagulStoleMyIceCream · 15/04/2024 00:07

Your meal looks balanced and perfect to me.

Upwiththelark76 · 15/04/2024 00:04

That’s one of my favourite meals! Perfect Sunday tea 😀

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IroningThrone · 14/04/2024 23:59

Concannon88 · 14/04/2024 23:05

Was she alive during the war? Most old people I've met think this sort of this would feed a whole family as they grew up with rationing!

Nope! She's 61 so hardly old!

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