Dp walked off from me - am I in the wrong?

he has a history of portraying and telling people he is a single dad and not with me. He purposely leaves me out of anything he posts because he doesn’t want anyone to see me or find out about me (most people just know that he has a ‘baby mom’)

OP this is awful and suggests he wants to have other options. Why are you still with him?!

From your initial post I wondered if he was pretending he was single (as an ex used to do the same). Social media is silly and I agree people shouldn’t place so much importance on it, but when your partner completely hides you from it, it hurts for one, and can be a sign that they’re playing away. (Emphasis on CAN for people who think that’s dramatic).
From your updates I see this is part of a much bigger issue. If you have to leave things out in fear of people telling you to LTB, well then, you probably should.
You could have handled it better. Absolutely. But I don’t blame you for being hurt. He should be proud of you and the life you all share. He doesn’t value you like you want and deserve to be valued.
Time for some soul searching op xxx

Having read your updates, I’d say you are in (at best) a shitty, toxic relationship. If my DP was making out he was single I’d be gone!

I'm going to suggest you both grow up.

Oh and in terms of the language? For one photo; probably not ok but the whole situation sounds massively cuntish to be fair so well described.

Just read full thread.
The issues in your relationship are huge. I wouldn’t be with someone who pretended I didn’t exist. That’s so very wrong.

Ok. Your update helps.
Is there a reason why he tells people he is a single dad? Are you actually a couple?

As others have said your language was …. ill advised but you said the kids did not hear. What is much more important than today’s argument is that this man does not want to be with you. He not only does not publicly acknowledge your relationship, he actively denies it.

I have no idea why you would want to to continue with this ‘situation ship’ because you can do better than someone who denies your relationship exists. Being single is infinitely preferable to that….

Swearing like that in front of your children is grim.
You completely overreacted, no wonder he walked away.

@Epidote

Isn't there just,

Totally agree with your insightful post,

My spiderey senses are telling me too that there is lot more behind the photo 📸 situation too .

It all sounds weird.

Are you two married and/or do you live together? Or do you just see him at weekends?

@Angelsrose

Totally agree too with your emotionally intelligent and insightful sage full advice,

Please take heed @Haliloa it's a bloody massive communist banner size flag waving in the air suspect suspicious 🤔 behaviour and mindset right there,

It's allmost like you don't exist the way your so called Partner acts like about you to others

You deserve a hel of a lot better
If you good enough to be involved with and mate with and have his children

Then he should be open and proud 👏🏿 that you are his partner and mother of his children

He's one hell of a shifty character and he is so brazen about being like this too,

I think 🤔 it be for the best to get as much support emotionally and practically for yourself and your young family and seriously consirder and split up with him,

Cause Actions speak louder than words

His attitudes are very telling..

OP, YANBU to be feed up of him not including you in the photos, however you are VU for no address this before and your reaction was way over the top.

Don't loose your cool, don't give him the chance to swap the blame.

I don't know why but my senses are telling me that there is more behind this photo situation.

#@Haliloa

I wonder if he could have a second life elsewhere messing around, cheating 🤔 elsewhere
or up to no good in a different way or ways ,

How very strange

She used the cunt word we can swear here on mumsnet and not be censored for it you know.

and try reading her comments too she’s has updated and he is a grade A cunt

Either post your own photos with you all there every single time, or dump him and let him see what being a single dad is really like

Ah ok.. just read your update! You have drip fed… should have said this first. Why does he pretend you don’t exist?

Totally sounds like you were in the wrong. He offered to take a photo of you. You then used the C word. Totally unnecessary.

@Haliloa

It's a real shame you didn't include the latest infor about the state of your relationship right at the start of your mumsnet thread

What a difference it would have made in regards of the replies from posters on here for Sure..

Very odd situation that your partner wants to pretend you're not together and that he's a single Dad. Odd situations quickly and often turn dangerous so please consider if this is a safe situation for you to remain in.

The photo was how this all came about but that is not the actual issue. The issue is that her partner, father of her children is portraying himself as a single father on social media and he wanted to take yet another picture without his partner for social media? bit suspicious don't you think particularly as she has discussed this with him many times.

Because it was the camel that broke the back get it

I simply replied no. I actually didn’t want one it wasn’t a big issue

But you did want a picture and it was a big issue for you. Why say the opposite?

So many posts from Tenderstem is that your dp.

Think you both need to calm down a bit.
Dp is rude for constantly leaving you out and if he ever asks again I’d say let’s ask someone to take one of all of us as I’d like to be in the photo. I’d do this all the time till he gets it.

Your dp acted very immaturely by saying he didn’t want you to go for a meal. That’s just pathetic.

You need to have a chat together about why you were upset and he needs to stop acting like a knob.

This is a bit like the smoking thread with the controlling wanker of a partner - you don't deserve any sympathy because you gasp used a rude word.

OP you're not in the wrong here. Even before your updates he sounded like a massive cunt.

I don't think he deserved to be called what you called him. Also, not everyone likes selfies....they are always a bit rubbish aren't they?! I think it's all one big over reaction over a modern and somewhat meaningless dilemma.