Was I unfair on the traffic officer?

Oh absolutely, feel mn littered with it at the moment.

Round here you’d have been observed from a distance then they’d have walked over and stuck a ticket on. You are lucky they gave you a chance. I would have said ‘sorry, thank you for warning me!’ and moved.

appalling behaviour. Go in the car park. The entitlement of people blows my mind. I bet you were running your engine as well

Of course you were unfair. The man was doing the job he is paid to do. Just like anyone else - teacher, builder, doctor, taxi driver. I honestly hate it when people think the rules should be bent just for them, as if they are somehow special. I'm sure all you've done is give him another reason to hate his job.

I really hate it when people blame their ADHD for being an arsehole as someone who also has been diagnosed

Sorry, but yes. You were. You were parked for your convenience, some where you shouldn't have been. You got called out on it, and then were unable/ incapable of moving the car. You then doubled down and acted like a bit of an arse to a man who was trying to do his job- which is to fine people parked inappropriately, which you were. Which doesn't make him a jobsworth, it's just a bloke doing his job

YABU, especially for the reflex invocation of alleged ADHD as an excuse for bad behaviour. So many people on MN seem to assert either ADHD or ASD (or the menopause) as the reason for more-or-less any characteristic that they want either an excuse for or sympathy for. It has become ridiculous. It must make it so hard for the recognition of the genuine difficulties related to genuine diagnoses.

Why didn't you just park in the carpark in the first place? That's what it's there for.

And if your ADHD means you can't keep to the rules of the road, I suggest you surrender your licence. ADHD is not an excuse.

So you think the problem isn't your wrongdoing of parking on double yellows, it's that the person who's job it is to ticket those they see doing that was going to ticket you?
So you were rude to them.

Anyone can be a nice person when things are going badly. We show who we really are when things go against us, and especially when faced with someone in a service industry - who many people view as a punching bag for their own frustrations.

Far from not being a reflection of who you are as a person, OP, this incident has shown EXACTLY who you are, so please bear that in mind as you reflect.

This! You obviously weren’t blocked in and were just making excuses cuz you couldn’t be bothered to move.

In answer you your question you were a complete a hole to him. Insulting his job!

Well done OP. A person was doing their job, and seems to have given you some leeway. It's good that you are rethinking your attitude.

Yup. Big old arsehole I'm afraid. You knew you were in the wrong and got flustered because you were called out on it. No excuse you should have just moved and you damn well know it.

Be polite to people just doing their jobs; it's their job not a life long vocation.

YABU - or YTA depending on which forum you'd prefer an answer from.

You say he was being aggressive by clicking his fingers at you. I'm not sure how that's aggressive but if he came and gave his account that he was also ADHD, had had a long day of people shouting at him for just doing his job, would you accept that as an excuse for his "aggression"

Yes of course you were being unreasonable. He’s doing his job and you know you can’t park on double yellows.
I get you feel bad about it. Own it and admit you were well out of order to argue.

I think their job is difficult enough without people being difficult. You know not to park on double yellow lines.
It really grates on me when people talk about jobsworths when someone is just doing their job. I work in a park where people park illegally, block access and complain when they are asked to move. What they don't know is we are waiting for an ambulance as someone has fallen over. They are 'only going to be there 10 mins' but the ambulance can't get through!

How close to the yellow line could your front bumper have been if you were parked in a bay? Were you properly in a bay?

It sounds as though you were an arsehole and know you were.

Don't really follow the bit about being blocked in on the yellow line - if you were blocked in, presumably he was also ticketing/threatening to ticket the cars blocking you in?

If he followed you after you had moved and you were properly parked in a bay, that is a bit off, though I did think that once they have started issuing the ticket, they can't rescind it, so perhaps that's what happened?

Being polite, friendly, apologetic for being in the wrong - probably would have resulted in him acting differently. Instead you were defensive, making excuses and then ultimately berating him.

If the temple is so close to where the food place was, why did you even drive (to the double yellows) from the car park?

You know you were wrong. Are you expecting sympathy?

Don't make excuses for your crappy words and behaviour.

I don't see why you couldn't just have waited in the car park.

Was the front bumper over the yellow line by even a bit?

I live in front of a temple and people with the same mentality as you park not only in our driveway but in front of it too. It's infuriating.

I think the way that people treat people who work in shops, restaurants and other ‘low paid’ jobs says an awful lot about them. I judge anyone who is rude to or badly treats people doing broadly thankless jobs for little pay very harshly.

You don't sound safe to be driving if you get so hot headed

And expect traffic control to turn a blind eye??