To ask what amazing things happened to you after age 36?! I feel like I’m old and there’s nothing fun anymore

Met DH, got married and had a baby!

What kind of things are you interested in?

I also feel a bit socially isolated since having a child. Not that I don’t have friends, but everyone is busy so there’s not the adventures / nights out that we used to have. I used to have a huge group of friends and we were always off doing something - but it’s increasingly difficult to get anyone to do much because they’re busy with their young families.

Im still working it out tbh. Have you got anyone that can babysit so you can have a bit of a child-free social life?

I am sure it will improve, but I agree it can feel like a bit of a slog.

Do you have friends you could do some fun things with at weekends? Like book to see some shows or concerts?
I found age 2 was a difficult age with potty training and tantrums but now mine are a little bit older (age 4 upwards) they are good company we have some good conversations about allsorts and we can do more fun things together. Also planing some weekends away or days out to put on the calendar gives you things to look forward to. (I’m in my 40’s btw)

Oh apologies my reading comprehension is poor, I missed you had a toddler!

You're probably exhausted and burnt out with the daily grind. Try to do one thing just for yourself every day - listen to music, meditate for 10 minutes, eat something nice, read for a while.

I became a powerlifter! Entirely unexpected but absolutely awesome.

And IME 40s are when you start to give less of a shit and live life for you. It's much better than 20s/30s

Got promoted at work

Moved somewhere with a garden

Got to travel to Italy, Spain and Germany with my friend for her 40th, she paid!! Now planning what I will do for mine :)

Spent time with my sons camping 🏕

You have a child. This is the good years.

I didn't really start doing stuff and enjoying life until my late 30s / early 40s. This is some of the good stuff:

took up cycling and completed some long distance rides

trained to be a yoga teacher

left a destructive marriage and met a new and compatible partner

adopted two cats who became my greatest loves

got to grips with my career and progressed rapidly

joined a book group and made some nice new friends

There are good times ahead in those years, try doing something new.

I would say it's the toddler years and daily grind, not your age. My ds was nearly 2 when I turned 30. Life was hard then. Ds is now 11. I'm approaching 40, and life seems brighter.

You're in the thick of it with a toddler and no partner to help in the day to day, life will feel like a grind.

But time will pass, and these pressures will ease off. Think about a hobby you could enjoy on the weekends your dd is at her father's. Even better if it gets you outdoors. Carve out times where you can do something that brings you contentment.