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Dog attacking child - not stopping to help

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Idioticparents · 14/04/2024 09:36

So, I’m walking my dogs on the beach. See a border collie on a lead being walked by what I presume is mum, dad and child. No problem - my dogs are trained to come to me whenever they see another dog (not that they go far tbh).

BC is clearly not friendly. It’s frozen. Stiff. Licking its lips as I go by. No issue. Give it a wide birth (10 or so meters given the tide is high) keep half an eye on it. Owners don’t real it in and keep it on the log line (full length stretched with dog nearly choking itself).

Child (about 8/9) walks up to dog as parents watch and wraps its arms around the dogs neck from behind. Obviously the dog attacks child. Parents wrestle dog off child.

Now, here is my am I being unreasonable - I didn’t stop. I just kept walking. Kid had two parents with him and I had my dogs nearby waiting to walk on. As I walked away I got a tonne of abuse for not stopping. But why would I? IMO the dog had attack its owners child and if it’s going to do that then I am not going near it. Partner says IWU not to help.

OP posts:
femfemlicious · 14/04/2024 14:07

Ton if abuse from who, the parents?. They are mad!

justasking111 · 14/04/2024 14:06

Hoglet70 · 14/04/2024 09:48

That would have created chaos if you had introduced your dogs into that situation when the parents were there anyway! Child alone attacked by random dog, of course you would try and help but this was their problem.

This adding my dogs to the mix would have added to the NC stress

Notamum12345577 · 14/04/2024 14:04

KimberleyClark · 14/04/2024 09:57

I would say stupid irresponsible parents of that child too. I love dogs but I’d never put my arms round a dog I didn’t know. They should have been supervising better.

I read it as the child’s parents were the dog owners

JustEatTheOneInTheBallPit · 14/04/2024 14:01

I know very little about dogs and so I may be totally wrong here but… if there was any possibility that my own dogs might also become involved, when seeing their owner (and I presume pack leader) entangled with a strange vicious other dog, I would stay well clear. For everyone’s sake.

And besides, it’s totally their problem.

I was attacked by a dog as a child and nobody stepped in to help at all. I was at the park without an adult (it was the 80s) and I was bitten on the neck, arm and back by a dog I couldn’t identify. Even with this in mind, I still wouldn’t intervene.

LiesDoNotBecomeUs · 14/04/2024 13:48

You did the right thing.

Bringing yourself and your dogs closer would likely have made the collie react even more. It would not have helped the parents free their child and calm their dog.

However it would have given them more opportunity to put blame on you and your dogs for the attack. Which dog actually bit the child could have seemed in doubt if you had gone in. No wonder they wanted you back!

For those thinking you unreasonable: How would getting the biting collie even more wound-up have helped the distressed child or the parent/owners ? (Even well-trained dogs are likely to come to the aid of their owner if another dog seems to threaten her. This could have ended up quite a fight.)

Noshowlomo · 14/04/2024 13:34

If OP helped then her dogs would have had to go with her. The aggressive dog would have likely gone for her dogs.

OP is neither the owner of the aggressive dog or the parents of the child who hugged the aggressive dog, so I am unsure why she is getting any grief here.

Weatherfor · 14/04/2024 13:32

I would have called the police from a safe distance and videoed the incident because I think the parents need dealing with if they are putting their own child in danger from their own pet.

DownWithThisKindOfThing · 14/04/2024 13:29

I’m confused

their dog attacked their child so their responsibility to sort presumably

i would have called the police but not intervened further

BMW6 · 14/04/2024 13:29

They are obviously trash OP. Think nothing more if it, you did nothing wrong and were totally correct in removing your dogs from the situation.

WickedSerious · 14/04/2024 13:28

AmyDudley · 14/04/2024 12:41

So not an attack then.

Even if this vague but very OTT account of something that (You say)happened there is a big part missing from this story OP.

Watch out everyone, Inspector Clouseau is among us !

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Apollo365 · 14/04/2024 13:27

I would’ve been out of there with my dog in a flash. No thanks!!!!

Cantgetausername87 · 14/04/2024 13:25

newnamechange98 · 14/04/2024 13:20

The op says she had her own dogs with her.

Not sure what she could've done against a dog with dogs with her without making the situation even worse.

Interesting typo though, maybe against a god OP would've had different options lol

Ahaha! Yeah she did but she didn't even look back or show even a little bit of interest/ concern. Very weird!
Attacked by a god 😂

Hoppinggreen · 14/04/2024 13:22

It is possible that the Collie was reacting to OP's dogs and then redirected to the child.
If so then the best thing for Op to do was to get away asap.

newnamechange98 · 14/04/2024 13:20

Cantgetausername87 · 14/04/2024 13:19

I really couldn't imagine walking off if a child had been attacked by a god. I really hope this is made up because you sound like the victim here and no concern for the child at all. Likely more to it than you've let on

The op says she had her own dogs with her.

Not sure what she could've done against a dog with dogs with her without making the situation even worse.

Interesting typo though, maybe against a god OP would've had different options lol

Cantgetausername87 · 14/04/2024 13:19

I really couldn't imagine walking off if a child had been attacked by a god. I really hope this is made up because you sound like the victim here and no concern for the child at all. Likely more to it than you've let on

Idioticparents · 14/04/2024 13:13

DollyDoofer · 14/04/2024 12:47

Why have you posted a sensational and untrue headline? These dog attack posts become more ridiculous with each one. Nobody would have walked away from a scene of carnage. There was no carnage because there was no attack.

What words did the other owner shout at you? That may give posters a clue about what really happened

It was an attack. The child wrapped its arms around the dog, and the dog turned, jumped, and made contact with the child's body. The child screamed.

I kept walking.

The yelling eventually stopped when (I assume) the parents got the dog off. I wasn't looking at them any more as I'd walked past them and to do so I would have had to turn round and take my eyes off my own dogs.

'FUCKING STUPID BITCH', 'FUCKING COME BACK HERE' 'HER FUCKING DOGS STARTED IT' (whilst the charming parents yelled at each other over who was at fault...).

For ease, my dogs were in the shallow tide walking next to me. I was on the beach. The parents were by the rock face (it's cliffs on one side). Their dog was halfway between them and me on a long line. I physically could not get further away because of the sea unless I fancied a dip. Which I didn't.

OP posts:
Milli0ns · 14/04/2024 13:01

Cool story bro 😎

Caerulea · 14/04/2024 12:57

I dunno, something just seems off. Your dogs were off lead & trained to come to you at the sight of another dog yet they were away from you at the same time. It doesn't sound like an attack but possibly a collie snap (still wrong but not the same) from a reactive dog being triggered by your off-lead dogs. Owners should definitely have reeled it in, stupid to have a scared dog on long lead in public. Also bizarre the child approached from behind & the parents were surprised the dog snapped - dog wouldn't even have realised it was the child.

Did they give you warning? Did your dogs actually approach? I do find it strange you didn't even check on the child's wellbeing before ringing the police. The dog might not even have made contact. By the same token one bite could have gouged the child's eye out & you just walled on?

To be brutally honest, I don't think anyone comes out of this looking great 🤷🏼‍♀️

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 14/04/2024 12:53

I'd have walked away! Their dog, their kid and their own stupid fault.

The only thing g I would say is that if the child was quiet, I'd be concerned they were seriously hurt. If they're loud, usually it's just the drama that sets them off.

OP did the right thing by getting out of there and calling police to report it.

DollyDoofer · 14/04/2024 12:47

Why have you posted a sensational and untrue headline? These dog attack posts become more ridiculous with each one. Nobody would have walked away from a scene of carnage. There was no carnage because there was no attack.

What words did the other owner shout at you? That may give posters a clue about what really happened

AmyDudley · 14/04/2024 12:41

So not an attack then.

Even if this vague but very OTT account of something that (You say)happened there is a big part missing from this story OP.

Watch out everyone, Inspector Clouseau is among us !

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 14/04/2024 12:38

Why would they expect you to get involved? It wasn't your dog, it wasn't your child and they created the problem!

shams05 · 14/04/2024 12:32

Did they think you should have helped as you were closer to the dog and child? It's their own fault if so as they had the lead out as far as it was.
They're looking to blame someone else instead of taking personal responsibility for their/ their dogs actions.
You could have stopped but then that might have potentially meant your dogs also getti g into a scrap or attacked by theirs. You did the right thing to keep moving

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BettyShagter · 14/04/2024 12:20

Too weird for words.