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To be woken up to clean?

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tammym07 · 14/04/2024 01:40

I bring you this post after getting woken up at 1:15 am to go and clean up the dogs sick!

My OH is up, awake sitting in the living room, having a beer and watching TV. Just half an hour ago he comes upstairs and wakes me up to tell me the dog has been sick on the living room floor, it stinks and there is no way he will clean it up.

I gets out of bed, goes down, cleans up the sick. I don't speak, as the dogs already too excited to see me, I'm not impressed with getting woken up and I haven't got the energy for a conversation.

OH then proceeds to say 'I don't know how you can clean that up' I grunt something about having no choice, he then complains that there's no need for me to be an a*se about it. (I will note there wasn't much sick, the dog wasn't feeling ill in anyway and didn't need my attention.)

AIBU to feel it's rude to wake someone up just because you don't want to clean it up yourself? I don't enjoy cleaning it up any more than he would. He also knows I've not been well and really in need of some rest.

Now here I am unable to sleep cause I'm too annoyed. He Never hesitates to wake me up over absolutely anything. He however, goes in a bad mood if he gets woken up when having a nap in the middle of the day on the sofa and one of the children make a noise! Angry

OP posts:
TimeGrabsYouByTheWrist · 14/04/2024 10:35

Whose are the dogs?!

My DH has dogs. I tolerate them.
And yes, if one puked on the floor I would absolutely wake him and let him know!

One of them had pooped on the kitchen floor the other week so I woke DH at 6.30am to sort it.

DH goes to bed late and gets up late so I'm always first down. I don't mind opening the dog flap for them in the morning but I will absolutely not lick up dog poop or clean up dog sick.

bonzaitree · 14/04/2024 10:31

My partner would never ever do this- wouldn’t cross his mind.

He wouldn’t interrupt my precious sleep for anything other than an absolute emergency.

SOxon · 14/04/2024 10:24

OP, why didn’t he let the dog out? dogs retch,
that is a warning, there is time, let the poor dog out!

The outrage here is well justified imo.
OP your ‘partner’ is sadistic.

Cherrysoup · 14/04/2024 10:22

I’m gobsmacked that he woke you to make you do it and even more so that you agreed. He’s ridiculous and I’d have a right go.

JustEatTheOneInTheBallPit · 14/04/2024 10:07

Does your bedroom need vacuuming, OP? Bright and early every Sunday morning until he moves out?

I think it does.

FlamingoQueen · 14/04/2024 10:06

He is wrong and at that time of the night too. I say this as someone who was woken last night due to the dog having been sick in my son’s bedroom. 3 members of my family watched me clear it up. It wasn’t horrendous, but the smell lingered in my nostrils for ages and it took me a long time to get back to sleep!

Ohnobackagain · 14/04/2024 10:03

@tammym07 he clearly thinks that the ‘shit’ jobs are yours. Why is that? Because that’s how he sees your role/your position. I don’t usually come out with ‘LTB’ but you don’t need him as a lazy-arsed role model for your kids to copy. Take the kids and leave him the dog. No wonder you’re annoyed!

JMSA · 14/04/2024 09:43

Oh, wow. Just wow.

coconutpie · 14/04/2024 09:38

Also, even if you hadn't been unwell, the fact that he woke you up while he was sitting on the couch drinking is unacceptable. Horrible man.

coconutpie · 14/04/2024 09:37

So you have been unwell, badly need sleep and he wakes you up at 1am to go clean up dog sick while he is sitting on the sofa watching TV and drinking beer? What a disgusting pig. Why did you do it? The appropriate response would've been to tell him to fuck off and clean it up himself.

Honestly, leave him. He treats you like you're totally beneath him.

Needanewnamebeingwatched · 14/04/2024 09:36

Wake him up now, to do something shitty like clean the bathroom toilet or anything

I honestly wouldn't put up with this shit at all, ever!!

determinedtomakethiswork · 14/04/2024 09:31

Unbelievable behaviour on both your parts. I can't believe you got out of bed to do that. I can't believe he asked you to do it.

tammym07 · 14/04/2024 09:30

Wow thank you for the responses. This has given me so much clarity, that everyone has felt so strongly about how wrong it is.

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Travelismything · 14/04/2024 09:29

9am tomorrow is the perfect time to call a divorce lawyer. He shows you complete disrespect.

pimplebum · 14/04/2024 09:26

What made you do it ?
Why didn't you turn around and go back to bed ?

How long has this shit been going on ? Whilst angry you don't seem shocked ?

Gettingonmygoat · 14/04/2024 09:20

I hope you are throwing him out today. Maybe in time you will meet a real man and not a wee boy.

2024istheyearforme · 14/04/2024 09:18

what I don't get is what would they do if they lived alone? They'd have no choice but to do it, Just like we do it because we have to, Its just lazyness and selfishness. I wouldnt date someone like that though

BarbarasRhabarberBar · 14/04/2024 09:15

This is much more commonplace than you think. Spoiled, incapable men who can't handle basic life tasks and seek refuge from the very people they believe are below them.

Salt in the wound that he acts like a baby when woken up.

A weak and pathetic man who brings what exactly to the relationship?

I spoke with my DP. He said you leave sleeping people to sleep and that's that.

poetryandwine · 14/04/2024 09:07

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/04/2024 03:45

You're unreasonable to clean up, take his shit and not immediately initiate divorce proceedings.

This, if you are married.

I imagine staying with someone who does this kind of thing regularly takes quite a toll on you. You are worth more, OP

SilverTay · 14/04/2024 09:07

Jesus Christ. Mumnset never ceases to amaze me. The shit that people put up with.

OP (if this is real) I hope from these replies you now see that this is NOT normal. Why are you even with him!?

Timeturnerplease · 14/04/2024 09:03

If DH woke me up for something like that I he would be in danger of losing his testicles with a rusty knife.

Preggopreggo · 14/04/2024 08:54

dirtyblond · 14/04/2024 01:57

YABU to get up and do it

This ^

jeaux90 · 14/04/2024 08:53

So basically he thinks you are his support human.

Useless tosser.

Londonscallingme · 14/04/2024 08:53

Wallywobbles · 14/04/2024 02:10

Why the fuck don't you rip the entitled wanker a new one. Explain in any way this hard of thinking boy child will understand if he ever wakes you up again, except to save your life, he will regret it in every imaginable way.

😂😂😂

Carrotsandsticks · 14/04/2024 08:52

What the fuck did I just read! What a total wanker. I'm sure there are many more horrible stories about this man's behaviour. LTB.

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