To be woken up to clean?

What Gingernaut says. The sick would still be there…

Pig. My DH is currently ruining my day off, complaining about the house. I work six days. I’m sick. I’m done with him!

He considers you to be a domestic appliance.

Is that a situation you are happy with? If not, you need to start considering your options. These include talking to him, suggesting counselling, and making an exit plan. Which of those is right for you, only you know.

Why did you accept this .

*But why did you get up and do it?

You can say no!*

Because she's become so inured to abuse?

Because to do otherwise would to invite further abuse?

Ok, I’m going to be generous here. Maybe he’s one of those people who have a phobia of sick.
well in that case he could have put a bucket or something over it and left it till morning. Ideally he’d have dropped a towel over first to help absorb.

And then at least he’d have decency to apologise for waking you, prostrate himself in gratitude etc etc.

But why did you get up and do it?

You can say no!

I’m assuming by the fact you just got up and did it that this is not the first time something like this has happened.

Please don’t encourage / enable this kind of behaviour from your H. Sorry if that’s unfair but it really is not okay for him to do this and it’s absolutely reasonable for you to say no, you need to do it. If you keep pandering to him, he will keep doing this.

This

Abusive twats are even more abusive when challenged

DO NOT SHOW HIM THIS THREAD.

Why do people keep saying that? You really think an abusive husband is gonna go “oh. I guess I was wrong. I’m sorry”

They are not. They are going to double down at best, and lash out at worst

That’s not ok. He needs to deal with these little things rather than waking you up and making it something bigger.

I gets out of bed, goes down, cleans up the sick. I don't speak, as the dogs already too excited to see me, I'm not impressed with getting woken up and I haven't got the energy for a conversation

sounds like he made a good call... next time tell him to contact a cleaner or do it himself

@Nanny0gg ahh totally. I’d be steaming but I wouldn’t get out of bed.

I can't believe he woke you up in the middle of the night to clean up.

He is a massive unreasonable twat. Why didn't you tell him to fuck off and clean it up himself?

Why would the deal expire? He didn't want a dog, she did so she deals with it. Seems totally reasonable and not at all like the OP's situation.

Sorry but I think it that scenario he is right. He was against getting it and she agreed to deal with any mess resulting. Perfectly reasonable.

That's a crazy level of Entitlement and disrespect from him to you.

I’d show him this thread and I’d want him to read it from beginning to end.

I have a friend whose H was against getting a dog, so they made a ‘deal’ that she would do almost all the work. If there is shit, sick or other things to deal with he will tell her, in front of others, and she deals with it. Still, when the dog is 7/8 years old.

I really dislike it.

I would get rid of him.
Are you serious??!

My dh can't clean up sick from anyone, but he does unblock the outside drain and other horrible jobs I can't bring myself to do, so I am the sick cleaner upper in our house.
However, he wouldn't come and wake me up if the dog was sick downstairs but he would put pieces of kitchen towel over it so as to show where it is and so he can't see it.
If the dog is ill in the night he takes her outside just in case she needs to be ill again and I clean up.
I hope you are seeing the way your husband treats you is not right, and the fact he gets so moody if he gets woken from a nap say to me maybe he should get to bed earlier instead of drinking away the night.

To those quoting me

The OP has to leave and may not be able to do so with pets in tow

The OP's 'D'P will clearly not look after the dog and may use it as 'leverage' for coercive control n any split

It's better to have the dog in safe hands instead of in the middle of a 'custody battle' with this abusive prick who doesn't care what suffering he causes

This was me before I left my abusive ex.
PPs here saying they wouldn't have cleaned up, would have refused or told him to "fuck off" have never had to deal with a man like this. The repercussions of me standing up to him would have been terrifying and long lasting. It was easier to just do it.
OP is this what would happen in your case? If so, it isn't acceptable. For a long time, I thought it was. I'm still dealing with the effects of it all.

This sounds like my mother's ex. When she was being treated for cancer he refused to clean out the cats' litter trays. I had to go round every evening to do it. He was unemployed and just sat around drinking all day. He was an all round useless and appalling individual. He's only her ex because he died, she never chucked him out.

Did you speak to him about this as if not he will just do it again. I would have gone mental at him, stand up for you self and your should have stood your ground and not clean it up

Cannot imagine myself and husband living like this.
Sorry, get rid or leave.
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