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To be woken up to clean?

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tammym07 · 14/04/2024 01:40

I bring you this post after getting woken up at 1:15 am to go and clean up the dogs sick!

My OH is up, awake sitting in the living room, having a beer and watching TV. Just half an hour ago he comes upstairs and wakes me up to tell me the dog has been sick on the living room floor, it stinks and there is no way he will clean it up.

I gets out of bed, goes down, cleans up the sick. I don't speak, as the dogs already too excited to see me, I'm not impressed with getting woken up and I haven't got the energy for a conversation.

OH then proceeds to say 'I don't know how you can clean that up' I grunt something about having no choice, he then complains that there's no need for me to be an a*se about it. (I will note there wasn't much sick, the dog wasn't feeling ill in anyway and didn't need my attention.)

AIBU to feel it's rude to wake someone up just because you don't want to clean it up yourself? I don't enjoy cleaning it up any more than he would. He also knows I've not been well and really in need of some rest.

Now here I am unable to sleep cause I'm too annoyed. He Never hesitates to wake me up over absolutely anything. He however, goes in a bad mood if he gets woken up when having a nap in the middle of the day on the sofa and one of the children make a noise! Angry

OP posts:
Lostinbrum · 16/04/2024 00:02

Sounds like this is the straw. Glad to hear you are seeking help and making plans OP

Nanny0gg · 15/04/2024 23:50

JollyHolly30 · 14/04/2024 19:55

You're allowing him to treat you like an absolute mug. Have more respect for yourself.

Oh, it should be so easy...

VJBR · 15/04/2024 23:46

Good luck OP. Hope you get away from the bastard.

mandlerparr · 15/04/2024 23:41

oh, he would not be sleeping. Nope. I would all of the sudden need to make sure every nail in my house and all furniture was hammered in while listening to Heavy metal and Opera.

pineapplesundae · 15/04/2024 22:52

I’d tell him that is the first and time he is wake me up for something like that. He probably gave the dog beer or something and caused it to get sick.

Bugbabe1970 · 15/04/2024 22:08

Are you serious!
what a c@nt you are married to!

Mnk711 · 15/04/2024 22:02

I'd have got the sick into a dustpan and dumped it on his head!

Not really, I wouldn't have gotten up. I'd have said 'good luck with that' and rolled over, along with some expletives. Had I been made to get up though I would have sincerely considered dumping the sick on him.

Why did you do it?

Catsmere · 15/04/2024 21:58

Read OP’s update, people, she is getting rid of the oxygen thief!

Whatafliberty · 15/04/2024 21:51

Just get rid.....of him, not the dog. Absolutely zero respect.

JoBrandsCleaner · 15/04/2024 21:19

I was gonna say make sure you don’t have kids with this twat but oh dear, too late 😬 maybe think about getting rid of him anyway, I don’t like the way he thinks of you

theholesinmyapologies · 15/04/2024 20:54

I'd tell him you've decided to keep the dog but lose the arsehole of a husband.

SoupChicken · 15/04/2024 20:49

I’m assuming he finds other way to humiliate you too? If I were you I’d be leaving him as soon as possible, and I’d probably leave the dog with him too.

Jk987 · 15/04/2024 20:39

What was he like when the kids were babies? Did you do everything?

I would have refused to get up...

SellWell · 15/04/2024 20:35

2Old2Tango · 14/04/2024 07:37

I'd keep the dog and get rid of the partner.

This.

Lollipop81 · 15/04/2024 20:22

This shows a complete lack of respect for you. No one deserves to be treated this way. I hope you find your self worth xx

Sabete · 15/04/2024 19:38

Keep the dog. Lose the dope

Nanaof1 · 15/04/2024 19:35

tammym07 · 14/04/2024 19:39

For those asking why I cleaned it, in all honesty, I got up and cleaned it simply because I knew that would be the easiest option for me.

Those who predicted he would spend today sleeping, are also correct.

I'd be in the room making enough noise to wake him up. Every hour. Vacuum, radio, tv, whatever it took. Until he got his arse up. Then repeat as needed.

InvestingMimi · 15/04/2024 19:06

Gingernaut · 14/04/2024 01:54

I would get rid of the dog

He has abdicated all responsibility for it to you and was happy to leave you to do something he wouldn't

Secondly, I would seriously consider separation/divorce

This selfish arse just woke you up in the middle of the night to do something

WTAF????

Start preparing to leave

A bit OTT can’t you talk to him?

LouDeLou · 15/04/2024 19:02

Ps - every time your husband is a dickhead you don’t have to leave him, just make sure it never happens again.

LouDeLou · 15/04/2024 19:01

Well that would be the first and last time for me!

Bye dog!

Tillagirl · 15/04/2024 18:41

Please find a way to leave. Are you scared of him or his reaction? This is not love. It’s contempt. There are organisations who can help if you are worried about leaving. You deserve better x

GoldEagle · 15/04/2024 18:39

Selfish doesn't begin to describe this man. You have to think to the future, is this what you are prepared to put up with going forward, a lazy arse who sits around watching TV and drinking.

RecklessGoddess · 15/04/2024 18:33

cariadlet · 14/04/2024 01:42

What a lazy, entitled, controlling pig.

Is there anything positive about living with this man child? Any good reasons not to kick him out?

This! 👆👆👆

pomers · 15/04/2024 18:27

Why are you married to this vile creature. Initiate divorce proceedings, but be sure to keep waking him up until he moves out

MushMonster · 15/04/2024 18:26

He needs to grow up.

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