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To not want to give up my day off?

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justbecool25 · 13/04/2024 22:43

I suspect I might be BU

I've been with my partner for 7 years and he has a 16 yo DS, we have a good relationship. When he was 13 he first attempted suicide and he's been struggling mentally since with many other attempts. He seemed to be doing well for a while but he's been struggling again recently. CAHMS are involved but can't do much.

His mum told partner she can't cope with him struggling and so he's been living with us full time for around a month. He has told DP he feels abit better as he has his own space (he was sharing a room at his mums) and our house is a lot quieter but a few nights ago he asked DP to stay with him as he was having suicidal thoughts. And since then DP has been staying with him every night and not letting him out of his sight.

He works from home usually but once a month he needs to go into the office, this is Monday. Stepson is off school currently due to his mental health and school are putting more pressure on him about exams which isn't helping him mentally. Professionals agree.

I've got a day off on Monday and had planned to meet with a friend for a coffee then look around shops but DP has now asked me to stay home with stepson to keep an eye on him.

I know I'm probably BU but I don't want to give my day off up. AIBU? I do love and care for stepson, I'm aware this thread may not seem like it.

OP posts:
coodawoodashooda · 13/04/2024 22:49

Yanbu but your coffee will cost you your relationship, if your partner is as decent as you hope.

SoupDragon · 13/04/2024 22:49

In these circumstances, you are being very unreasonable.

Hiddenvoice · 13/04/2024 22:47

I think you’re being unreasonable. Yes it’s your day off to do as you please but this teenager is in need and I wouldn't leave him alone.

IsitaHatOrACat · 13/04/2024 22:47

What is DSs mum doing that day? Is she able and willing to help?

Otherwise it's a tough one. If your DP had no partner he wouldn't have you as an option. I can see both sides.

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