Granted probably people who are people pleasers will post their dilemmas more often on here than people who are able to set healthy boundaries, as people pleasers are likely to encounter more problems they can't resolve themselves. But I'm shocked how many people seem unable to tell other people the truth about their behaviour being selfish, unpleasant, and rude. Are there really this many people who in real life are incapable of standing up and being counted?
I find it really sad that there are so many threads of people being walked all over by 'friends' or 'D'Ps who treat them horribly and OPs can't defend themselves. Or people who are surrounded by other people pleasers/those who just want an easy life who won't stand up in defence of what's right. And the same IRL - friends with a terrible boss or work colleague who everyone just tiptoes around and won't speak up.
AIBU to be surprised at the seeming prevalence of people pleasers?