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You should tell your family before announcing a birth on Facebook?

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ShropshireSam · 13/04/2024 22:06

My SIL announced the birth of my niece on Facebook but my DB hasn’t been in touch to let me know the baby has arrived.
AIBU to feel a bit sad about this?

I know Facebook is an easy way to announce this to everyone, but would have expected a quick message to let me know, especially as I don’t really use Facebook. It’s not as though he has many people to tell either.

Im sure my SIL’s brother will have been told before the FB announcement. And why the rush to get it on FB anyway.

YANBU - It is not appropriate to post about a birth on Facebook before telling your close family

YABU - it’s not necessary to inform close family before announcing a birth on facebook

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ShropshireSam · 13/04/2024 22:36

I would assume it was an oversight since they were busy

Of course it’s a busy time, but not so busy that you don’t have time to be editing photos to post on FB apparently.

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saraclara · 13/04/2024 22:33

how can you be upset when you're going to get all those baby snuggles

🙄

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ShropshireSam · 13/04/2024 22:31

Of course I haven’t brought it up and won’t.

I’m not mad at them - more upset that it doesn’t seem important to DB to share such special news with me.

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TheBirdintheCave · 13/04/2024 22:30

It's a bit odd! My BIL (husband's brother) did it as well when our niece was born and we felt pretty unimportant.

My husband had the job of sending a photo and brief message to our parents and siblings when our son arrived. It took less than five minutes.

WatermelonLou · 13/04/2024 22:24

YANBU.. There's an order to these kind of things regardless of current state. Them who should know do know before any public privilege. Wouldn't bring it up though.

InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow · 13/04/2024 22:22

I couldn't get mad about this.

They just put it out to the most people in the quickest way possible. They were excited so thats probably the rush. Totally understandable under the circumstances.

And you have a gorgeous new niece as well 😍 how can you be upset when you're going to get all those baby snuggles.

Tatas · 13/04/2024 22:18

toastofthetown · 13/04/2024 22:12

That's bad form, but I'd be more annoyed with your brother than SIL. SIL isn't in the wrong to want to share the birth of her child on social media. If SIL's brother knew before the social media announcement that's because she valued sharing the news quickly with her family. Your brother apparently doesn't.

How long after the birth was the social media post?

I mean this in its entirety!!

Your brother should have been the one getting in touch to tell you, his family member. It's not up to SIL (who's just actually given birth!) to manage your expectations and change what she wants to do announcing the birth of her child to cater to if your brother has told you or not.

princessbeetroot · 13/04/2024 22:15

This happened with my brother sort of - I found out he got engaged via his girlfriend's Facebook update. I was quite hurt to be honest. If I'm being charitable she was excited and wanted to shout it from the rooftops, but I really feel like family should be told first especially if they will see the social media post.

A baby announcement is even more hurtful, maybe it was an oversight but still, it must sting.

Idunno8 · 13/04/2024 22:14

They’ve just had a baby, give them a bit of grace and congratulate them.

toastofthetown · 13/04/2024 22:12

That's bad form, but I'd be more annoyed with your brother than SIL. SIL isn't in the wrong to want to share the birth of her child on social media. If SIL's brother knew before the social media announcement that's because she valued sharing the news quickly with her family. Your brother apparently doesn't.

How long after the birth was the social media post?

35965a · 13/04/2024 22:11

I would assume it was an oversight since they were busy, obviously. I can’t remember who I told personally, probably just my parents and they told other family for me. Same for DH.

BakedTattie · 13/04/2024 22:07

Nah that’s bad form. I’d be pissed too.

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