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To have zero issues with other school gate mums?

59 replies

Oohooh · 13/04/2024 20:41

It feels like every other person on here is convinced the school gate mums have it in for them.

I’ve made 2 ‘friends’ since DD started reception in September - mostly play dates but now and then we have a meal out or a few glasses of wine at each other’s houses in the evening.

Other than that I say hello and most seem perfectly pleasant, even if they’re not my ‘friend’ type (and I’m probably not theirs). I know there are other friendship groups among the mums but it doesn’t bother me at all, nor do I think they talk about me behind my back.

AIBU to think posters on here can be very unfair about school gate mums in general?

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RandomButtons · 13/04/2024 20:52

This thread do far gives me hope.

DC 1 - had no issues whatsoever with any of the parents.

DC2 - it’s been hell. A particular parent set themselves out to be the know it all and has deliberately ousted random parents and teachers and started vicious rumours, and taught the child to do the same.

fatalisticdefeatist · 13/04/2024 20:51

I don't have any issues, I speak to them in passing, our kids meet and greet and everyone is pleasant, you get a few who forget manners I just ignore and avoid them. For instance recently one barged passed me to grab her kid first, basically qué jumped and looked at me like I was the problem. I would understand if she was in a rush, but she has done this for 2 years.

I only really have issues with the mum's terrible parking... Which is a none stop problem at my kids schools. And the few dad's who speed when leaving a spot and almost kill a toddler because they don't LOOK BEFORE they reverse. Sure you can't see the kid but the adult is big enough to see.

Mummyofthewildones · 13/04/2024 20:50

Gingerlygreen · 13/04/2024 20:47

I agree, there are always posters saying school Mums are in cliques when in reality it's just Mums who may know each other who choose to spend a few minutes chatting.

This! My 3 closest friends and I all have children at the same village school, it's lovely to see my mates at pick up or drop off, so of course we chat at the gates. I always smile or say hello to parents of other children in my DCs classes if I recognise them though.

grafittiartist · 13/04/2024 20:50

I always enjoyed the yard at pick up. Met lots of lovely people.
Still friends with some now.

theeyeofdoe · 13/04/2024 20:48

three different children at many different schools. Only seen angst once (very young mum at a party of much older mums at private school and she was very drunk).
otherwise I made lots of friends and found people equally happy to help each other out.

Gingerlygreen · 13/04/2024 20:47

I agree, there are always posters saying school Mums are in cliques when in reality it's just Mums who may know each other who choose to spend a few minutes chatting.

FlowersInAFlowerBed · 13/04/2024 20:47

I don't speak to anyone at my kids school but I don't have any issues with anyone either I just keep to myself!

Wellhellooooodear · 13/04/2024 20:47

YANBU. I also think that the ones that have a problem are the problem! I've never experienced anything negative, I used to make small talk and be friendly and had no issues.

mynameiscalypso · 13/04/2024 20:43

I'm with you. There always seems to be so much drama! I smile at people, have a quick chat with the ones I know but am generally in and out within a couple of minutes. I don't really know how people have time to wage wars on that time.