Page 4 | To hate having someone lurk while I cook

FusilliNom · 2024-04-13T17:51:52+00:00

Why does my DH appear just at the trickiest bit of the cooking? What does he want? Is he trying to learn how to cook by watching (doubt it), or is he just trying to see how much longer it will be. I can't stand it.

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FusilliNom · 13/04/2024 20:19

plominoagain · 13/04/2024 20:12

Found my tribe ! I practically live in my kitchen during the day . I love pottering about in it . I bimble about to my hearts content , watching my programmes , and faffing about chopping things and tidying up my shelves is actually my stress reliever , so when someone lurks ( or worse , offers to help ! ) it just upsets my rhythm, iyswim.

Worst of all is Christmas . I’ll cook for any number of guests , I don’t care . Leave me with a pile of vegetables , a bottle of sherry and Hercule Poirot’s Christmas on the tv planner , and I’m set . But please don’t keep me company ! DH once bodily removed MIL because he could see me getting twitchy 😂

Yes! It's my hiding spot. My time to be me.

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plominoagain · 13/04/2024 20:12

Found my tribe ! I practically live in my kitchen during the day . I love pottering about in it . I bimble about to my hearts content , watching my programmes , and faffing about chopping things and tidying up my shelves is actually my stress reliever , so when someone lurks ( or worse , offers to help ! ) it just upsets my rhythm, iyswim.

Worst of all is Christmas . I’ll cook for any number of guests , I don’t care . Leave me with a pile of vegetables , a bottle of sherry and Hercule Poirot’s Christmas on the tv planner , and I’m set . But please don’t keep me company ! DH once bodily removed MIL because he could see me getting twitchy 😂

DinnerIsNotServed · 13/04/2024 20:11

Ask him what he wants.

I like people in the kitchen whilst I’m cooking and I’ll sit in the kitchen when my partner or one of the kids are cooking. Often we all end up in there. It seems to get everyone chatting.

Idontknowwhattodo78 · 13/04/2024 20:07

Dh does this occasionally…but he is my sous chef (I get so bored with grating/zesting/chopping) so I tolerate it for a bit. If he starts messing with the pans, stirring or trying to change the temperature? He’s banished (after he’s done what I need him to do, obviously 🤣🤣)

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FusilliNom · 13/04/2024 20:05

The serving hatch was underrated

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suburburban · 13/04/2024 20:03

I hate it too. Wish I could shut door on open plan back of house

Nonsense about chatting to guests whilst cooking, no go away please

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FusilliNom · 13/04/2024 20:03

It's like he thinks it's the same as watching masterchef or something only with a really bad cook

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CanaryCanary · 13/04/2024 20:01

If anybody - DH or children - comes into the kitchen while I’m cooking I down tools, turn everything off, and go sit down. I don’t start cooking again until they’re out. It only took a few times for them to stop bloody doing it.

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FusilliNom · 13/04/2024 19:59

LindorDoubleChoc · 13/04/2024 19:39

Yanbu! Yanbu at all! When I see people saying on programmes like Escape To The Country that they want a big kitchen to the be the heart of the home I just shrink in horror. I want the kitchen to be a utility room that can be shut off from the rest of the house for one person at a time to work in in peace and quiet, without everyone milling around and sitting at the dining table, just watching and waiting.

In my next house I will be seeking out a small kitchen. Maybe I'll be able to snap up a bargain that no one else wants.

Yes I love my "galley" kitchen. Until someone else tries to stand in it!

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FusilliNom · 13/04/2024 19:58

Barney16 · 13/04/2024 19:45

My DP does this. Always at the trickiest bit, important to say I hate cooking and do it best (still not v good) when unobserved. He pops up with a cheery "can I help" and it's a bloody wonder that I haven't as of yet, stabbed him. It is the most irritating thing. I sympathise.

I don't think I'd mind a can I help? At the very start but not near the end. That would feel like they are trying to hurry things up

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SOxon · 13/04/2024 19:53

Northernsouloldies · 13/04/2024 19:16

Get out of my kitchen!!.

See my post ^ watch the Kitchen Scene if you dare (and not squeamish)

SOxon · 13/04/2024 19:51

My kitchen! my kitchen! (Gremlins1984) ugh horrible

Sunseed · 13/04/2024 19:45

My DH has a knack of appearing while I'm chopping veg..... and backs off at speed as I'm armed with a large knife and giving him "the look"!!!

Barney16 · 13/04/2024 19:45

My DP does this. Always at the trickiest bit, important to say I hate cooking and do it best (still not v good) when unobserved. He pops up with a cheery "can I help" and it's a bloody wonder that I haven't as of yet, stabbed him. It is the most irritating thing. I sympathise.

theeyeofdoe · 13/04/2024 19:42

I don’t mind people in the kitchen sitting down, I just don’t like people in the area between the sink/work surface/oven.

they are always in the way.

my MIL and I have got on less well each year. I’ve tried everything, but I actually now do have physical barrier to prevent her getting into the cooking space.

LindorDoubleChoc · 13/04/2024 19:39

Yanbu! Yanbu at all! When I see people saying on programmes like Escape To The Country that they want a big kitchen to the be the heart of the home I just shrink in horror. I want the kitchen to be a utility room that can be shut off from the rest of the house for one person at a time to work in in peace and quiet, without everyone milling around and sitting at the dining table, just watching and waiting.

In my next house I will be seeking out a small kitchen. Maybe I'll be able to snap up a bargain that no one else wants.

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FusilliNom · 13/04/2024 19:37

pelotonaddiction · 13/04/2024 19:35

My dad does this when he visits
Open plan kitchen to living room. I'm cooking. Where does he stand?
In front of the cutlery/knife drawer

Yes! And ooh that looks nice. Thanks but I'm half way through a measurey bit and I have to concentrate

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pelotonaddiction · 13/04/2024 19:35

My dad does this when he visits
Open plan kitchen to living room. I'm cooking. Where does he stand?
In front of the cutlery/knife drawer

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FusilliNom · 13/04/2024 19:31

BobbyBiscuits · 13/04/2024 19:02

I don't mind lurkers that much, as long as they don't try and 'advise' me how to cook the bloody meal. Haha. My DH can't cook if someone else is in the room. I've worked in a commercial kitchen before and like talking while I cook so I kind of like some company, but they'd better be prepared to take command from the head chef, ie me!

Yes if he asked if he could help I wouldn't mind

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Northernsouloldies · 13/04/2024 19:16

Get out of my kitchen!!.

shellyleppard · 13/04/2024 19:06

That drives me absolutely batshit!!!!! I have a small kitchen so if anyone is lurking I'm going to trip over them!!! They always stand where I need to go 🤣🤣🤣 only safe place is by the back door 🤣🤣

Greywitch2 · 13/04/2024 19:04

I don't mind a lurker. I don't mind a bit of conversation.

But spoony fuckers are another matter altogether.

AhBiscuits · 13/04/2024 19:04

My DH's hobby is standing in front of cupboards I need to open or trying to clean the kitchen around me while I'm using it.
Just fuck off.

BobbyBiscuits · 13/04/2024 19:02

I don't mind lurkers that much, as long as they don't try and 'advise' me how to cook the bloody meal. Haha. My DH can't cook if someone else is in the room. I've worked in a commercial kitchen before and like talking while I cook so I kind of like some company, but they'd better be prepared to take command from the head chef, ie me!

nadine90 · 13/04/2024 19:02

I hate anyone in the kitchen while I’m cooking. When you see these property shows and they want a big open plan kitchen family room so they can be involved in conversation - I just don’t get it! Nope, leave me with my one person wide galley kitchen so I’ve a good excuse to kick people out x