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Prostitute checked into our hotel!

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GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:13

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

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TeapotTitties · 13/04/2024 22:27

oakleaffy · 13/04/2024 22:23

YES!!! Absolutely true.
If you are with the man for the lifestyle, it's like being a sex worker by another name.

Yes, "I married well" is often trotted out.

By that, they mean someone with money.

IWantOut29 · 13/04/2024 22:24

Hotels dont tend to allow prostitutes in, it doesnt look good for business 😂 and most hotels dont let random members of the public walk in and go into other peoples rooms. Usually they also have to be a paying guest

Maybe she paid £150 on her card and the rest in cash?

You sound foul

oakleaffy · 13/04/2024 22:23

RobertaFirmino · 13/04/2024 22:22

Well I'm glad that a sex worker had somewhere safe to work. Much better than being in the streets.

I see tons of posts on MN about how they only stay with the DH for the house/money. I don't see how sex work is any different.

YES!!! Absolutely true.
If you are with the man for the lifestyle, it's like being a sex worker by another name.

RobertaFirmino · 13/04/2024 22:22

Well I'm glad that a sex worker had somewhere safe to work. Much better than being in the streets.

I see tons of posts on MN about how they only stay with the DH for the house/money. I don't see how sex work is any different.

LlynTegid · 13/04/2024 22:21

Check the process for early check in at the hotel. £100 for an early check in given £250 a night seems reasonable.

A few years ago I met someone who worked as a night porter. He mentioned visits for a short period by women to the rooms that men were staying in, and how they tried to avoid being seen by reception. Women not arriving with the man whose room it was. More likely to be prostitutes.

If you are that concerned OP, raise it with the hotel.

WildBear · 13/04/2024 22:20

Maybe if she checked into your room it would warrant a post

Slav80 · 13/04/2024 22:20

You sound like a small town girl going to The Big City for the first time OP, perhaps stay closer to home, or even better, at home next time (see the assumptions I’ve made in this post to answer your post..)

Loubelle70 · 13/04/2024 22:19

I don't know many prostitutes that would pay 100 for a room tbh...its the client that will book or pay. Shes not gonna risk being outta pocket of 100. Odd story

Sometimeswinning · 13/04/2024 22:16

She could be wearing a badge and posters would still be demanding how the op knew.

It’s like the Emperors new clothes on here sometimes! See it, know it but desperately deny it.

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 22:16

Thegoodbadandugly · 13/04/2024 22:01

That has to be one of the funniest statement's on Mumsnet ever. What do you think people do when they go on honeymoon to a hotel? Or are on holiday?

It was sarcasm. It was supposed to funny ha ha. It wasn't.

Elvis1956 · 13/04/2024 22:14

fieldsofbutterflies · 13/04/2024 15:17

How do you know she was a prostitute? Was she wearing a badge?

It's quite common for rooms to be rented during the day for various reasons - sleeping between flights, for example.

As a business man I stayed in lots of hotels...you know... You just know and no I didn't thanks....

Janetime · 13/04/2024 22:12

Xtraincome · 13/04/2024 22:10

OP, Most people know what a prostitute looks like so ignore the precious ones on here who claim you couldn't possibly know for sure.

The issue has little to do with her being a sex worker, rather than the thought of it took the shine off your 4 hotel. I think it is far safer for her than a car, alley or seedy shthole. The fact there are kids about is by-the-by, unless she was turning a trick at reception, which she wasn't. AND, amongst all this, some guy is paying for her which is the worst thing, yet she is being shamed.

What a naive statement, life isn’t little woman, prostitutes look many different ways as do women who earn money other ways. Naive or ignorant.

Xtraincome · 13/04/2024 22:10

OP, Most people know what a prostitute looks like so ignore the precious ones on here who claim you couldn't possibly know for sure.

The issue has little to do with her being a sex worker, rather than the thought of it took the shine off your 4 hotel. I think it is far safer for her than a car, alley or seedy shthole. The fact there are kids about is by-the-by, unless she was turning a trick at reception, which she wasn't. AND, amongst all this, some guy is paying for her which is the worst thing, yet she is being shamed.

Woohow · 13/04/2024 22:07

A sex worker who works out of a 4 star hotel does not dress like an obvious prostitute.

BettyShagter · 13/04/2024 22:05

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:25

Thankfully I don’t know any man who has raped a vulnerable woman. Perhaps you need to keep better company?

I know my brothers, my partner, my son etc would never ever do this. They think better of women than that.

Thankfully I don’t know any man who has raped a vulnerable woman. Perhaps you need to keep better company?

You think you don't.

Unless you're privy to the private sex lives of every single man you know?

That would be weird if you were.

When was the last time you discussed sex with male work colleagues or your kid's male teachers, and asked if they've ever paid for it?

Thegoodbadandugly · 13/04/2024 22:01

JWhipple · 13/04/2024 21:21

I'm disgusted. I don't stay at hotels to have sex. I would be disgusted to have to sleep.in a bed where people have had sex. I don't care if they are married. I should not have to be subjected to the idea of people having sex. I hope you and your husband didn't have sex in the hotel, or even within 72 hours of arrival. Don't deny it. I can tell.

That has to be one of the funniest statement's on Mumsnet ever. What do you think people do when they go on honeymoon to a hotel? Or are on holiday?

Charlize43 · 13/04/2024 22:01

JWhipple · 13/04/2024 21:21

I'm disgusted. I don't stay at hotels to have sex. I would be disgusted to have to sleep.in a bed where people have had sex. I don't care if they are married. I should not have to be subjected to the idea of people having sex. I hope you and your husband didn't have sex in the hotel, or even within 72 hours of arrival. Don't deny it. I can tell.

😂😂😂

Russiandollsaresofullofthemselves · 13/04/2024 22:01

Yabu. You don’t know for certain she was a prostitue and even if she was it’s not like she invited you to watch. People have sex in hotel rooms every day, the exchanging of money shouldn’t make a difference.

Ncjolly · 13/04/2024 21:54

You know in London, you are able to rent a “day room” - I have rented one out before as I needed a room to have some meetings in - just google London hotel day rooms and they have rooms at places like Hilton, Hyatt etc for day rental (eg 9-5pm). And just to clarify - my meetings were nothing dodgy!!

Thegoodbadandugly · 13/04/2024 21:54

You say she paid £100 for an expensive hotel, you can get deals last minute where you get a great reduction on rooms from certain sites, she could be there for a number of reasons.

pensione · 13/04/2024 21:50

Prostitute checked into our hotel!

How is it your hotel? Is the 4* chain Hilton and are you Paris?

Guavafish1 · 13/04/2024 21:49

Have you seen scoop?

Abbimae · 13/04/2024 21:46

DisabledDemon · 13/04/2024 21:36

People do all sorts of things in hotel rooms that we might not like to know about! Prostitution is probably one of the most mundane.

This. I get some unimaginable stuff goes down in even the fanciest of hotels

Abbimae · 13/04/2024 21:45

fieldsofbutterflies · 13/04/2024 15:17

How do you know she was a prostitute? Was she wearing a badge?

It's quite common for rooms to be rented during the day for various reasons - sleeping between flights, for example.

Obs she has the prostitute pin badge on 😂

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