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Prostitute checked into our hotel!

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GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:13

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

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MojoJojo71 · 14/04/2024 01:19

You have no idea whether this woman is a sex worker, you are making assumptions presumably based on her appearance.

even if she was, consenting adults have sex in hotel rooms every single day. Why on Earth would you think it would be an issue?

Verbena17 · 14/04/2024 01:18

Could have been a knackered mumma just wanting a day of rest and peace on her own for a few hours.

anothernamitynamenamechange · 14/04/2024 01:14

Where I live now prostitution is like totally empowering and cool guys and we are such a liberal cool country for being OK with it. BUT at the same time there has been a lot of complaining about the punters clogging up the city centre, being rowdy, harassing non-prostitute women, making the city look seedy. But prostitution is still like totally progressive. So the solution is for the government to build a single "complex" (basically a mega brothel) outside the city centre and all the prostitutes and sleazy men can be there out of site. Obviously the people living there are not happy, neither are the prostitutes themselves (safety issues, being confined to a building with less freedom, being sidelined). It feels incredibly dishonest - like we are going to pretend there is nothing wrong with prostitution on the one hand but also the men are so awful we are going to put the whole thing out of sight somewhere from the people that matter.

Which is a long winded way of saying I don't like the normalisation of "sex work". But I would also rather the women in the story (if she was indeed a prostitute, big if) was safe to work in a hotel rather than pushed out of sight somewhere less safe.

anothernamitynamenamechange · 14/04/2024 01:06

nildesparandum · 13/04/2024 21:41

A few years ago my granddaughter was taking part in a beauty pageant in the the midlands.She went with her friend, who was not taking part, and as both girls were n their late teens I went with them mostly to keep an eye on what went on.
The pageant was taking place in a large hotel and need a two night stay.As the big hotel was fully booked for rooms we stayed in one in the grounds which was part of a budget hotel group.The receptionist on duty eyed us very suspiciously all the time,mostly when we came in at night and when leaving in the morning.In fact she almost fell off her chair craning her neck at night when we were going upstairs to see if we were sneaking men in.
We got the impression we were being watched all the time.There were families with young children staying, so I supposed they were being very careful.
The three of us had a good laugh about it on the way home. Especially myself who was in my early seventies being thought of as a lady of the night.

In fairness, if your granddaughter and friends were teenage girls it could easily have been concern rather than nosiness. As someone who has seen young looking teenagers on street corners in other countries (where there is very little one can do because its so tolerated) it is actually really upsetting to see and not be able to do anything. In a setting like a hotel I can imagine a receptionist keeping an eye out that random men weren't going into the potentially underage teenagers hotel rooms. She would have thought you were their pimp by the way.

rainbowlou · 14/04/2024 01:02

How does this ‘prostitute’ have any impact on your life at all? Are you worried your husband will hook up??
Did you invent this story about her based purely on her clothes and payment in cash?
I used to work for a charity for vulnerable women and some hotels in our area had an agreement for them to have rooms at a reduced rate to keep them safe.

Lifeomars · 14/04/2024 00:27

long ago when I was young I lived in one of the "red light" areas in the city. Of course there were no actual red lights, there was street prostitution and of course that meant kerb crawlers. I was sometime kerb crawled and guess what, I was dressed in very ordinary day to day clothing. I was even kerb crawled while visibly and heavily pregnant. Guy asked me if i was "doing any business" and I just walked on and he drove after me, followed me in his car and then parked outside my flat and kept looking up at the windows. There are some vile men ot there.

wilteddandelion · 14/04/2024 00:24

careful there poppet, think you dropped a pearl

ManchesterLu · 14/04/2024 00:05

They're not going to come and have a shag in the dining room, are they? So no reason to worry about there being kids in the hotel.

Realistically, kids probably make more noise and hassle to other guests than prostitutes do.

Dery · 14/04/2024 00:03

“That's where sex workers tend to work from, if they are sensible. The person who checked afterwards could have been an arms dealing rapist but you wouldn't judge him cos he was a man in a suit? Get over it. Sorry but it is central London. Every day a 'prostitute' sleeps/works in every hotel.”

This. Especially the highlighted part.

LuckyPeonies · 14/04/2024 00:02

Damnyourheadshoulderskneesandtoes · 13/04/2024 21:12

I am so sick of people who are openly hostile to children and their parents being on mumsnet.

Ah, another entitled parent who wants the world to revolve around them and their sprogs, and bitterly resents those of us who won’t cooperate. 🙄

PigletJohn · 13/04/2024 23:42

When I worked in a hotel, we mostly found the sex trade rather seedy and undesirable.

InSpainTheRain · 13/04/2024 23:32

Are you really that sheltered? and at least she wasn't on the street.

Grimchmas · 13/04/2024 23:30

So what though?

Did your child know she was there to be paid to have sex?

How did your child know?

hot2trotter · 13/04/2024 23:28

Get a life

PostItInABook · 13/04/2024 23:17

Unless she was giving a lap dance in the lobby, blowing a guy in the corridor or getting her baps out in the kids club the family friendly part is irrelevant.

AnxiousRabbit · 13/04/2024 23:16

I think that's what makes no sense
I don't know how these things work but
A sex worker who.works on the streets isn't going to pay £100 for few hours in a 4star hotel for clients....they will have cheaper places surely
And those working the more expensive and exclusive end of the scale wouldn't be counting out cash or dressed obviously????

Newgreendress · 13/04/2024 23:08

RobertaFirmino · 13/04/2024 22:22

Well I'm glad that a sex worker had somewhere safe to work. Much better than being in the streets.

I see tons of posts on MN about how they only stay with the DH for the house/money. I don't see how sex work is any different.

I see tons of posts on MN about how they only stay with the DH for the house/money. I don't see how sex work is any different.

Worse yet, they stay (and probably have sex) with cheating DH, sometimes knowing he is in love with another woman. This is in 21st century West European country.

WhatTheFuk · 13/04/2024 22:58

Shock. Horror ... people have sex in hotel rooms???

Nightone · 13/04/2024 22:46

Can she really make money if she has to spend £100 on a hotel room? (I have no idea how much is typically charged).

BoneshakerBike · 13/04/2024 22:35

AnxiousRabbit · 13/04/2024 22:32

You got a 4star !!! Hotel in London for £250???

Friday night is actually one of the cheaper nights of the week as lots of people just want Saturday. Sunday cheapest.

Nagado · 13/04/2024 22:34

oakleaffy · 13/04/2024 22:22

This lovely woman definitely would disagree that sex work is rape.

Good for her if that’s the way she has chosen to make her money. I’m certainly not judging her for it and I hope she managed to stay safe without any dreadful experiences. But let’s not kid ourselves that she’s representing the majority of women doing this.

OkPedro · 13/04/2024 22:34

FoleyHuck · 13/04/2024 16:04

What? Why the stare? Why did you feel bad?

You've missed some info here. Were they in the next room and were you banging up against the connecting door all night? Did you ride him into the breakfast room? Did you both come down naked and smeared in sweat and other... fluids?

Otherwise what are you on about?

"Did you ride him into breakfast" 🤣🤣🤣

AnxiousRabbit · 13/04/2024 22:32

You got a 4star !!! Hotel in London for £250???

friendlycat · 13/04/2024 22:31

Sorry but also to add £250 a night hotel in London (if central) is quite cheap.

friendlycat · 13/04/2024 22:29

I think you will find this happens all over the world.

High end hotels in London will be used to this. Concierge services will also arrange suitable “escorts” for their valued clients if requested.