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Prostitute checked into our hotel!

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GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:13

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

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Overtheatlantic · 14/04/2024 12:14

Was this her?

Prostitute checked into our hotel!
Kendodd · 14/04/2024 12:13

BIossomtoes · 14/04/2024 12:09

I don't agree that prostitution should be illegal, quite the opposite.
Procuring a person for prostitution, that should be illegal. As should running a brothel/prostitution ring.

Barquentine · 14/04/2024 11:31

Why not leave a comment about it on trip advisor @GrumpyL tbh I would!

Maybe the hotel will come back and verify 😆

Whycantiwinmillionsandsquillions · 14/04/2024 11:29

Buffypaws thank you for posting that article.

There truly are some vile pieces of shit around, and this clarifies that.
Prostitution should be made illegal.
Listen to those who know.
Not some cunt who hates women.

OOBetty · 14/04/2024 11:24

DotAndCarryOne2 · 14/04/2024 08:48

80% of the profits from human trafficking are made from selling women and girls for the purposes of sexual exploitation to pay back the ‘debt’. And most countries with a legalised sex industry have higher levels of human trafficking. Do you think these women are engaging in consensual sex ?

The victims are often under age so by definition are incapable of giving consent.

Prostitutes are often hooked on drugs by their pimps as a means of control. Do you think they are engaging in consensual sex ?

If it’s rape in 80% of cases then the hotels being used should be calling the police and not treating such a situation as the norm and acceptable.
It doesn’t sound like this hotel is taking any care whatsoever.

Lookingoutside · 14/04/2024 11:21

BIossomtoes · 14/04/2024 11:15

She hasn’t been to King’s Cross since it’s been gentrified either. 😂

That was my thought! There are some great cocktails and ‘meals’ to be had there now. It’s quite ‘classy’ too.

fieldsofbutterflies · 14/04/2024 11:20

BrownTroutBlues · 14/04/2024 11:15

I agree.
Hotels take peoples details when they pay for a room. They will know who they have on site.
Loud’s of random guys walking in and out without verifying their name and address, which they won’t be, is extremely concerning.
I wouldn’t want to be staying in a hotel where this is the norm.

Hotels only take details of the person making the booking - and many don't ask for any form of ID.

Anyone can have random people coming to stay overnight with them in a hotel with no checks made.

BIossomtoes · 14/04/2024 11:15

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She hasn’t been to King’s Cross since it’s been gentrified either. 😂

BrownTroutBlues · 14/04/2024 11:15

AtrociousCircumstance · 13/04/2024 21:01

So you’d be happy to be in a hotel you’d spend a lot on, with your kids, and for there to be a series of rapists johns fucking some unfortunate woman in the room next to you?

Yeah, right.

I agree.
Hotels take peoples details when they pay for a room. They will know who they have on site.
Loud’s of random guys walking in and out without verifying their name and address, which they won’t be, is extremely concerning.
I wouldn’t want to be staying in a hotel where this is the norm.

greyonwhitesky · 14/04/2024 11:11

EasternEcho · 14/04/2024 09:20

@Rosscameasdoody That is rather naive to think that calling women as prostitutes for longer than history can record has not stopped men from availing these services. As if men involved in this sprawling industry give a flying fig about terminology. The change of terminology is to afford dignity to the victim in how we call them. However, call them what you want. I was just presenting my opinion.

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It really isn’t.

The name change is part of a much wider movement to promote the sale and purchase of women’s bodies for men’s sexual gratification as an entirely legitimate form of business, the same as any other. Women who hold the opinion that prostitution is a form of male abuse of women are derided as ‘swerfs’. ( sex work excluding radical feminists) and they have been hounded and attacked ( physically) if they try to hold rallies objecting to prostitution or other commercialized forms of male sexual abuse or use of women.

Clearly the people attacking them understand the term sex worker has not just been coined to give dignity to women, or to include all forms of commercialized sexual use of women, or to include men too, or any of the other similar reasons given by posters on here.

There’s a much bigger picture that I would encourage people to look into before repeating the term ‘sex worker’.

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IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 14/04/2024 10:41

Tandora · 14/04/2024 07:51

Oh so the woman herself has no say over whether the sex was consensual? So what you are saying is it’s not actually possible to rape these women (after all their consent is all meaningless anyway). Disgusting attitude.

The disgusting attitude is thinking that buying another human to use as a tool masturbate into or over is acceptable.

I've no idea how you come to the conclusion that I think it's not possible to rape prostituted women. The scum who think that are the punters who buy them. They are rapists.

Blondeshavemorefun · 14/04/2024 10:32

I'm More at shock at £250 a night for the hotel 🙀😂

You say what she was wearing made it obvious. What do a short skirt /dress. High heels

Or was it as paid less money then you ?

Guessing you had a family room so more costly

I'm a mn and I know other mn who work nights in London but don't live there and hire hotel rooms out daytime so that they can Get some sleep before going back to work the next night

BIossomtoes · 14/04/2024 10:12

Rosscameasdoody · 14/04/2024 10:08

l doubt the victim gives a ‘flying fig’ about what you call them. I would think educating men as to what they’re perpetuating when they pay for sex is more important to them. And whitewashing it with terminology designed to reduce it to a purely commercial transaction isn’t going to encourage critical thinking.

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Men think with their dicks. It doesn’t matter what terminology is used, they’ll always do it. At least we can afford those women some dignity.

stormywhethers321 · 14/04/2024 10:11

I stayed at a hotel this weekend. I arranged early check-in because that worked for my schedule and I paid in cash. I also got a large discount, because I put some club card points towards it when I booked.

I guess I'm a sex worker now. Oh well. Hopefully it'll pay better than teaching.

Rosscameasdoody · 14/04/2024 10:08

EasternEcho · 14/04/2024 09:20

@Rosscameasdoody That is rather naive to think that calling women as prostitutes for longer than history can record has not stopped men from availing these services. As if men involved in this sprawling industry give a flying fig about terminology. The change of terminology is to afford dignity to the victim in how we call them. However, call them what you want. I was just presenting my opinion.

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l doubt the victim gives a ‘flying fig’ about what you call them. I would think educating men as to what they’re perpetuating when they pay for sex is more important to them. And whitewashing it with terminology designed to reduce it to a purely commercial transaction isn’t going to encourage critical thinking.

NigelHarmansNewWife · 14/04/2024 10:00

I see the OP lit the blue touch paper, returning only to state the woman paid cash and was obviously a prostitute. She has not returned to explain what was so obvious that it lead to her damning judgement of this woman.

EasternEcho · 14/04/2024 09:20

@Rosscameasdoody That is rather naive to think that calling women as prostitutes for longer than history can record has not stopped men from availing these services. As if men involved in this sprawling industry give a flying fig about terminology. The change of terminology is to afford dignity to the victim in how we call them. However, call them what you want. I was just presenting my opinion.

Rosscameasdoody · 14/04/2024 09:08

EasternEcho · 14/04/2024 08:49

And calling them a prostitute helps them how?

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It doesn’t. But the terms ‘sex workers’, ‘sex trade’ or ‘sex industry’ are designed to detract from facts which most people would rather not think about. What it comes down to is that human trafficking and forced prostitution go hand in hand and traffickers aim for countries where prostitution is legalised or tolerated and therefore more profitable. And when men avail themselves of these services they would rather think of it in terms of a paid transaction with a ‘worker’ from a ‘trade’ or ‘industry’ than engage with the fact that there’s a high chance that what they’re actually doing is paying to rape a woman who has no choice but to submit because she’s indebted to human traffickers or hooked on drugs by her pimp, and possibly underage.

Loubelle70 · 14/04/2024 09:00

IF this woman was a sex worker...What angers me is why the woman is to blame here and slaughtered?! And the eww factor. If there wasnt men willing to pay for sex this woman wouldn't be there.

Bartoz · 14/04/2024 08:59

You must lead a very sheltered life. Virtually every hotel in London is used by sex workers (male and female). Either visiting guests or using the rooms as a base.
There's a notorious BDSM woman who based herself at Claridges for years for wealthy clients (she passed away during COVID). Male sex parties are very frequently held across London hotels.
Porn is also filmed and staged frequently in hotel rooms.

Did you not know this?

EasternEcho · 14/04/2024 08:49

Rosscameasdoody · 14/04/2024 08:36

How do women sold into the sex trade have ‘agency’ ?

How do underage girls sold into the sex trade have agency when they’re not even capable of consent ?

How does a ‘sex worker’ hooked on drugs by her pimp have ‘agency’?

‘Sex worker’ is a phrase designed to sanitise unpleasant factors so that men who avail themselves of their services don’t have to think about the fact that in the majority of cases they’re paying to rape them and perpetuate the misery. It’s not a trade. It’s just another form of slavery.

And calling them a prostitute helps them how?

DotAndCarryOne2 · 14/04/2024 08:48

Thecastle1 · 13/04/2024 19:35

Not all sex work is rape

80% of the profits from human trafficking are made from selling women and girls for the purposes of sexual exploitation to pay back the ‘debt’. And most countries with a legalised sex industry have higher levels of human trafficking. Do you think these women are engaging in consensual sex ?

The victims are often under age so by definition are incapable of giving consent.

Prostitutes are often hooked on drugs by their pimps as a means of control. Do you think they are engaging in consensual sex ?

EasternEcho · 14/04/2024 08:48

Buffypaws · 14/04/2024 08:07

Yes but all you have to do is look at the actual evidence and you see that these women are abused and exploited. There was one who was meant to be this empowered sex worker on OF and it turned out she was being pimped out by her boyfriend. So much for her agency.

factual arguments don’t actually fail here. Because the evidence just reveals the extent of male depravity.

https://ressourcesfeministes.fr/2022/02/02/a-survivor-recounts-the-horror-of-prostitution/

anyway we won’t agree because you see it as a trade and I see it as slavery.

I don't think any of us need articles to tell us about the horrors of the sex trade. Despite all you post, my argument is that you still fail to show how calling the woman a prostitute helps to promote the cause you are espousing. In fact it demeans the woman and reduces protection for the very same women you say you are concerned about. The first step in recognizing human rights for these victims is removing the demeaning word we've stuck on their forehead since forever. Words do matter and even a slight change in a label has an effect on the psychology of these women. The woman in the article herself calls it the sex trade at times and not prostitution. However you are right in saying we don't see eye to eye on this and I've said what I have to say. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.