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Prostitute checked into our hotel!

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GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:13

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

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CormorantStrikesBack · 13/04/2024 17:03

Unless you could hear them going at it in the room next to you I don’t see why it affects you. I highly doubt your kids would have picked up on the situation and if they did then they’re old enough to know it happens

PoppyCherryDog · 13/04/2024 17:03

Im curious as to what makes someone very obviously a prostitute? I can only assume she was wearing a badge.

SheerLucks · 13/04/2024 17:02

In the 90s a friend of mine lived in a flat share in a lovely part of town when she was at university.

The flat below was a brothel and many nights they'd come home from a pub or club to find men queuing up the stairs!

GingerPirate · 13/04/2024 17:02

TurquoiseDress · 13/04/2024 15:22

Omg the horror of it all!

<Clutching my pearls>

Me too. Literally.
😂

Comedycook · 13/04/2024 17:01

As long as you're not sharing a room with her, put it out of your mind.

Jk8 · 13/04/2024 17:00

What if she'd worked their the night before & was bribing the staff into extra room cleans/change of rooms/extra stay time inbetween clients/something in particular to be done to the room ????
I doubt she was checking in at 10.30am for a heavily cut price room with a blatant prositute look So yes your probably getting old or are just not 'used' to how things 'work'

greyonwhitesky · 13/04/2024 17:00

GwinGwyn · 13/04/2024 16:50

Firstly she was just a woman checking in, so no need for labelling anyway.

Plus you’re about two decades behind the times if you don’t understand that prostitution can be part of sex work but isn’t the be and end all of sex work.

Your reply here makes no sense in the context of the post you are referring to. Even on the terms you outline, that poster was referring specifically to prostitution which you yourself say is a subset of what you call sex work.

I find these sneering ‘you are behind the times’ comments really juvenile. If you have an argument to make, make it. Don’t hide behind these backhanded attempts to big yourself up with what you fondly seem to think are your modern, progressive ( regressive from my point of view) credentials.

It seems pretty clear these attempts at put downs are part of an agenda to put discredit women who hold the line that prostitution is exploitative.

KM99 · 13/04/2024 16:59

You are aware some hotels offer day occupancy for half the price? I've used it before for shopping trips, bit of afternoon sex etc when I couldn't stay over. Sometimes dressed up and in make up. Shocking, eh?

BettyShagter · 13/04/2024 16:58

Very unusual for a hotel to even accept cash nowadays.

Most of them don't as they want card details incase of any damage.

GalileoHumpkins · 13/04/2024 16:58

Was this her OP?

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 13/04/2024 16:55

GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:21

She paid £100 as she counted it out in £10 notes as she gave it to the receptionist. I don’t want to get into a discussion about you shouldn’t judge a women by what she was wearing etc, let’s just say it was very obvious that she was a prostitute hiring room for the day. This was 10.30am in the morning, not the night.

How was it obvious though?
Was it her clothes?
Was it the way she leant on the counter?
Did she tell you she was booking in by the hour?
Was it the fact that she was paying in cash?
Confused

BettyShagter · 13/04/2024 16:52

Was this an IBIS hotel?

I use them quite a lot for work and the one in Barking is full of prostitutes.

But they keep themselves to themselves and neither they nor their clients ever cause any problems that I've witnessed.

As for there being 'children around', I don't see what difference that makes? It's not as if they're in the room with them.

But most 'day rate' hotels seem to attract them.

GwinGwyn · 13/04/2024 16:50

Winnading · 13/04/2024 16:47

Its not sex work, its prostitution.

Call it what it is.

Firstly she was just a woman checking in, so no need for labelling anyway.

Plus you’re about two decades behind the times if you don’t understand that prostitution can be part of sex work but isn’t the be and end all of sex work.

SocksAndTheCity · 13/04/2024 16:49

determinedtomakethiswork · 13/04/2024 16:46

I'm laughing at the idea that the OP wouldn't know she was a sex worker.

Unless the woman concerned was actually soliciting hotel guests within earshot, there is no way on earth the OP could possibly have known for certain.

At least not unless her husband already had her ad and photos up on his phone 🤣

Winnading · 13/04/2024 16:47

Its not sex work, its prostitution.

Call it what it is.

determinedtomakethiswork · 13/04/2024 16:46

I'm laughing at the idea that the OP wouldn't know she was a sex worker.

SocksAndTheCity · 13/04/2024 16:45

I've had plenty of icky, sleazy sex without getting paid for it. A lot of it was in hotels too (and most of it was pretty damn good).

Does it really make any difference to the OP or anybody else whether I got dinner and drinks, hard cash or nothing at all in exchange for it? Who the fuck cares?

Nap1983 · 13/04/2024 16:44

Unless your H is visiting her… its none of your business!!

Northernsoul72 · 13/04/2024 16:43

I guess its nothing more than people having sex in a hotel room if indeed she was a prostitute. I can't imagine that being the nicest job in the world and probably is icky and sleazy, but sad really that someone has to do it.

NotAgainBrian · 13/04/2024 16:43

FoleyHuck · 13/04/2024 16:01

I used to work in a naice hotel and one Male guest dug a hole in one of the sofa seat cushions, filled it with shower gel and fucked it.

On balance everyone (housekeeping particularly) would rather he'd employed the services of a sex worker. The concierge could have pointed him in the right direction had he enquired.

It goes on OP. Everywhere and all the time. Although I'm intrigued as to how you were so certain based on the Woman's style of dress.

(As an aside, hotel day lets are common and booked for all sorts of reasons).

Dear god 😂😂😂

SocksAndTheCity · 13/04/2024 16:42

HelloMiss · 13/04/2024 15:48

@greyonwhitesky don't be daft! 😂

The term 'sex worker' is used as it covers both men and women

Clutching pearls and objecting, how very mumsnet 😂

The term 'sex worker' is used because it covers all types of sex work including webcammers, strippers, porn performers and phone chat operators as well as prostitutes.

So all prostitutes (male or female) are sex workers, but not all sex workers are prostitutes Smile

ByUmberViewer · 13/04/2024 16:40

This happened to me once at the iconic Betsy Hotel in Miami. Place was crawling with them. Horrible.

I sympathise but there's really not much else you can do to be honest.

DeclineandFall · 13/04/2024 16:40

You can book lots of hotels for the day- usually 9am to 5pm. There's a website to do it called Dayuse I think. Lots of nice hotels on there. Its not just for prostitutes and affairs but if you are travelling for meetings etc and want a nap, a shower or somewhere to work. You have to pay on the day and its a lot cheaper than the overnight rate.

Beezknees · 13/04/2024 16:40

I really would not care.