Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Prostitute checked into our hotel!

687 replies

GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:13

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

OP posts:
Thread gallery
7
Tandora · 13/04/2024 17:46

supercalafragilisticexpealidocious · 13/04/2024 15:23

God MN is exhausting sometimes. I can perfectly well understand how you would know she was a prostitute OP. Not sure why everyone is being so difficult about it. I can't decide whether it would bother me or not though...I think probably not unless I could hear it in the next room.

Genuinely how?

Lwrenn · 13/04/2024 17:46

GodZilah · 13/04/2024 15:17

YANBU

She shouldn't be there!! Families too! She should go somewhere secluded and risk being murdered so you don't feel uncomfortable

🙃

This 100%

Go put yourself in even more harms way, you wretched woman.

Heartbreaking that these posts exist.

NoTouch · 13/04/2024 17:46

I never actually thought about sex workers hours of work. I would have thought it would be more a back/night shift type of role so hiring a room in the morning for a few hours would not make me jump to that conclusion.

Does sound more like an affair type scenario. Or perhaps she is using the hotel to get ready for a night out? Or somewhere to relax for a few hours before heading somewhere else. Perhaps she just prefer cash or is hiding her spending from a financially abusive partner?

There are so many possible scenarios and you have jumped to your own seedy conclusions, but whatever it is, unless she is shagging clients in the corridors it is none of your business.

godmum56 · 13/04/2024 17:45

Got to say this thread is HILARIOUS

ShortLivedComment · 13/04/2024 17:45

It seems that a L ot of posters aren't that bothered about the sex trade. Even though many women are exploited and even coerced into it.

I'm sure there are plenty of happy prostitues about but they are also plenty who are forced into it. Good luck if you can tell the difference.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 13/04/2024 17:44

ShortLivedComment · 13/04/2024 17:43

It's hilarious that so many posters don't think you can spot some people who are prostitutes. They must lead very sheltered lives. You obviously can't spot all prostitutes but with some it's obvious.

Ok, maybe I am sheltered, but seriously how do you know if they are or not?
Is it the way they dress?
Act?
What?

Scottishskifun · 13/04/2024 17:44

Could have been only fans work, a photoshoot or anything.
I think your a bit naive if you think this doesn't occur in high end hotels I mean by the nature of a good number of people who stay at them it's more likely not less as discretion from staff is the key!

The only time I have been a bit taken a back by sex workers was on holiday and a open discussion on prices with some Americans and the different packages but only because I was trying to enjoy my lunch and didn't want the conversation right next to me!

a222 · 13/04/2024 17:44

Ethylred · 13/04/2024 17:42

OP, please tell us more about how to look obviously like a prostitute.

lol! didn’t even read ur comment and i’ve just commented something similar 😂

a222 · 13/04/2024 17:43

did she have a tshirt on saying ‘i am a prostitute’ ?

ShortLivedComment · 13/04/2024 17:43

It's hilarious that so many posters don't think you can spot some people who are prostitutes. They must lead very sheltered lives. You obviously can't spot all prostitutes but with some it's obvious.

Ethylred · 13/04/2024 17:42

OP, please tell us more about how to look obviously like a prostitute.

WhamBamThankU · 13/04/2024 17:41

Did her T-shirt say 'top prozzie' on it?

ShortLivedComment · 13/04/2024 17:41

I reported a prostitute and John once I a small university run hotel Sheffield. I was there with four small young kids and it was the next room. I happened to come out my room when the prostitute arrived to meet the John. There was no doubt at all what was going on.

The hotel should check people in and out but judging from their reaction when I told them I don't think they twigged what was going on. I was very polite and didn't ask for anything but they still offered to move us to another much nicer room.

If people use prostitutes then they can at least be subtle about it.

It's nothing to do with being a prude. I have sex in hotel rooms happily but I don't want to hear prostitutes at work.

Not that it makes a difference but the prostitute looked about 20 and looked and sounded Thai. The guy was a typical disgusting dirty looking old guy. The reason I mentioned that she looked and sounded Thai is that they are one of the groups who are more likely to be coerced into working or not. I don't think a

woke uni such as Sheffield should be allowing it on their doorstep.

It was a few years ago. Hopefully they have tightened things up.

Wornoutlady · 13/04/2024 17:39

I'm sorry, do you live in 1975? What an offensive post OP. Shame on you.

JustFannyingAboot · 13/04/2024 17:39

I used to travel to a different location for work and would often check in early if I could, at the same time I would arrive in shorts/skirts because I wasn't working the particular day I arrived and liked what I was wearing. I probably looked like a prostitute then 🙄

UrbanFan · 13/04/2024 17:34

What on earth has it got to do with you what this woman was paying for or why she was there? You have no idea what her story is and if she is a sex worker why she has this vocation. Get over yourself.

BettyShagter · 13/04/2024 17:32

Hecate01 · 13/04/2024 17:20

@BettyShagter we don't accept cash, day use rooms have to be booked online but there are a few that do because the affair sector is big business and they know people want to be discreet.

I imagine they are big business!

I'm just curious to know which big chains do.

willWillSmithsmith · 13/04/2024 17:31

80smonster · 13/04/2024 17:26

Is it The Sanderson - by any chance?

I’ve stayed there. Does it have a reputation? I didn’t like the bathroom set up, one of those all glass things inside the bedroom.

marmiteoneverything · 13/04/2024 17:31

SevenSeasOfRhye · 13/04/2024 15:15

Why are you so confident she was a prostitute?

I’m assuming she was wearing the exact same outfit as Julia Roberts at the start of Pretty Woman.

SallyWD · 13/04/2024 17:30

That's not as bad as what I experienced in a 5 star hotel in central London. I used to stay two nights a week for work, with a male colleague - I don't mean together, he had a separate room! Anyway, several times reception phoned his room in the evening and asked if he required "special services". When he asked them to elaborate they made it clear what they were offering.
I was really shocked that this was happening in a 5 star hotel - prostitution being offered by members of staff!! It also pissed me off to think that many married men would be away for work, relaxing with no thoughts of betraying their wives - then they're offered sex. I bet many of them gave in to temptation!

Elopedincovid · 13/04/2024 17:29

I used to work in a hotel, ‘day use’ rooms are very common, usually from 9-5 and about the same price this lady paid.

Hotels do get to know which guests are sex workers but they usually were the ones dressed the opposite of what everyone pictures and usually are there in the evening going up to the room of a male guest not getting their own room.

these day use rooms tended to be either:
-people there between business meetings or for flight/train layovers
-filming porn (one heavily made up woman and handsome man who have all sorts of bags, cases and sometimes tripods) housekeeping always knew and they were banned as hotels don’t like their rooms featuring in porn
-or what this most likely was, a woman arranging to meet a man for an affair while his wife thinks he’s at work, they always pay cash and are dressed in the ‘heels, trench coat with just undies under’ type ensemble, room is usually under smith or jones or something, it’s obvious as sin but not a crime, we all used to be embarrassed for them as it just screams desperate, these are the majority of day room bookings I found, worst was when they came regularly and thought we didn’t know 🙄

Woman2023 · 13/04/2024 17:27

FoleyHuck · 13/04/2024 16:01

I used to work in a naice hotel and one Male guest dug a hole in one of the sofa seat cushions, filled it with shower gel and fucked it.

On balance everyone (housekeeping particularly) would rather he'd employed the services of a sex worker. The concierge could have pointed him in the right direction had he enquired.

It goes on OP. Everywhere and all the time. Although I'm intrigued as to how you were so certain based on the Woman's style of dress.

(As an aside, hotel day lets are common and booked for all sorts of reasons).

Wow, I mean it's shit on housekeeping to have to sort it, but you'd genuinely rather a woman suffers paid rape than a sofa gets damaged?

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 13/04/2024 17:26

Anyone else curious what this outfit was and wondering how prostitutey their own wardrobe may look?! Grin

80smonster · 13/04/2024 17:26

Is it The Sanderson - by any chance?

FoleyHuck · 13/04/2024 17:25

@Simonjt It was very dense foam into which he'd dug a narrow tunnel.

Initial thoughts were that it was some kind of drugs drop situation but on further investigation, no, worse.

Swipe left for the next trending thread