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Prostitute checked into our hotel!

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GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:13

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

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BettyShagter · 13/04/2024 18:30

ByUmberViewer · 13/04/2024 18:06

I'm a snob. When I pay £500 a night to pay in a hotel I want to be surrounded by classy rich people - people who dress expensively and can afford expensive meals and cocktails. It's all about the ambience.

I don't want to be surrounded by prostitutes. if I wanted that, I'd go and hang in Kings Cross. And save my £500

Bless your little try-hard socks.

If you'd ever been near a £500 per night hotel you'd know they're visited by prostitutes all the time.

Classy rich prostitutes who dress expensively and can afford expensive meals and cocktails

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 18:30

HelloMiss · 13/04/2024 15:48

@greyonwhitesky don't be daft! 😂

The term 'sex worker' is used as it covers both men and women

Clutching pearls and objecting, how very mumsnet 😂

The ugly, harsh but realistic word did the same job.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 13/04/2024 18:30

Hotels have day rooms, it's not a new thing, I've been in the travel industry for 25 years and they have existed at least that long. The charge is less then overnight. People use them between flights or trains and I've seen them advertised as office space as they have a desk, phone and WiFi. Sex workers may use them. You don't get to choose who else stays in the hotel unless you book out the whole place.

Hecate01 · 13/04/2024 18:29

@BettyShagter Novotel, Holiday Inn, Best Western are all cash payments. Hilton and Marriot take a £5 deposit and cash payment on arrival.

lotsofpeoplenametheirswords · 13/04/2024 18:29

'I'm a snob. When I pay £500 a night to pay in a hotel I want to be surrounded by classy rich people - people who dress expensively and can afford expensive meals and cocktails. It's all about the ambience.

I don't want to be surrounded by prostitutes. if I wanted that, I'd go and hang in Kings Cross. And save my £500'

Well, yeah, you can keep your £500 if you want but you know that your filthy rich hotel fellows are the ones that like to splash out on all the classy rich sex workers don't you?! I mean, they even fly their rich little friends to private islands let's not forget so they're really are not going to be fussed about paying £500 quid to have their cock sucked in your fancy little hotel!

Incidentally, I wouldn't call you a snob either! I love nice things and I will pay through the nose for them but I'm just naive enough to not know that vice goes on even in the nicest establishments. It just costs the punters more! And guess what, even sex workers wear nice clothes and drink nice drinks!

Startingagainandagain · 13/04/2024 18:29

It is a hotel not a convent...

It is likely that prostitution goes on in many hotels, including the most expensive ones.

People also use hotels to cheat on their partners with their lover.

Frankly just enjoy your break and don't worry about what other people do in the rooms they paid for.

You are also unreasonable for assuming she is a prostitute by the way...

SeaUrchinHat · 13/04/2024 18:28

OP I judge you more for writing ‘10.30 am in the morning’ than I do this woman for choosing to work in a ‘safe’ environment. If indeed that’s what she was doing.

I hope you managed to enjoy your lovely family weekend anyway..?

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 18:28

greyonwhitesky · 13/04/2024 15:41

I use the term prostitute because I object to the term sex worker, which has been adopted for political reasons to make an inherently exploitative business seem mainstream. Trafficking and abuse of women iin prostitution is common. There has been research in countries were prostitution is fully legalized and ‘above board’ which has shown that the prostituted women there have as high, or higher, levels of disassociation from their own bodies than child sex abuse victims. And even for the small minority of high earning prostitutes who can choose a small number of clients they are safe with and freely do choose that work, I still object to prostitution as I have a strong principled objection to a society where men are able to buy intimate access to women’s bodies. That is something that I strongly believe no one should be able to purchase.

So away with your sneering about old fashioned. I’d rather have looked into and thought about issues and make my decisions based on that, rather than on what’s ‘fashionable’.

100 %.

Tattletwat · 13/04/2024 18:27

So all there is to this post is the OP saw a woman she didn't like how she was dressed paying cash.

No evidence of prostitution at all, basically the OP is being snobby and guessing.

Gonners · 13/04/2024 18:27

I am unutterably shocked. In the late 90s, we needed a hotel in Madrid for one night and MrG found some cheap place near the Prado. The taxi driver kept on about it not being "suitable" but we just assumed he wanted to take us somewhere that would give him commission. When we got there, there was nothing downstairs but a very small bar full of old men in suits and young women dressed in very little and it became clear it was a brothel.

They were a bit surprised that we wanted to stay all night, but gave us an extraordinary decorated room with fake frescos painted on the walls and a massive curtained bed. It was scrupulously clean and extremely cheap. Would recommend, if only I could remember what it was called. 😉

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 18:27

TotHappy · 13/04/2024 15:36

Why is prostitute offensive and sex worker isn't? Seriously?

Prostitution is demeaning and dehumanising. It suits pimps, brothel keepers, human traffickers and their like to try to prettify it up by calling it " the sex industry" . "Sex worker" conveniently for them includes the exploiters as well as the exploited.

Alittlefrustrated · 13/04/2024 18:27

I wouldn't be thrilled either OP. How are you so sure though?

FlissyPaps · 13/04/2024 18:27

ByUmberViewer · 13/04/2024 18:06

I'm a snob. When I pay £500 a night to pay in a hotel I want to be surrounded by classy rich people - people who dress expensively and can afford expensive meals and cocktails. It's all about the ambience.

I don't want to be surrounded by prostitutes. if I wanted that, I'd go and hang in Kings Cross. And save my £500

You do realise that money doesn’t buy class?

In fact most of the rich I’ve met are the least classy people I’ve ever had the misfortune to endure.

springblosso · 13/04/2024 18:26

No words 🥴

Tattletwat · 13/04/2024 18:26

ByUmberViewer · 13/04/2024 18:06

I'm a snob. When I pay £500 a night to pay in a hotel I want to be surrounded by classy rich people - people who dress expensively and can afford expensive meals and cocktails. It's all about the ambience.

I don't want to be surrounded by prostitutes. if I wanted that, I'd go and hang in Kings Cross. And save my £500

A prostitute paying to service men in that sort of hotel, will probably be getting paid for her services by your classy rich people.

FlissyPaps · 13/04/2024 18:23

GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:21

She paid £100 as she counted it out in £10 notes as she gave it to the receptionist. I don’t want to get into a discussion about you shouldn’t judge a women by what she was wearing etc, let’s just say it was very obvious that she was a prostitute hiring room for the day. This was 10.30am in the morning, not the night.

You sound absolutely vile, OP.

Did posting this thread make you feel better about yourself to look down on another woman and her life choices?

SocksAndTheCity · 13/04/2024 18:21

ooooohnoooooo · 13/04/2024 18:19

Oh and the same hotel would always ask the male guests how many card keys they wanted even though they were booked as a single occupant on a corporate booking.

Never once offered that to me.

Hotels are a shag fest. 😬

Ooh. I always got asked that when I travelled for work, and I always had a single occupancy reservation. I must look like a prostitute 😀

ooooohnoooooo · 13/04/2024 18:19

Oh and the same hotel would always ask the male guests how many card keys they wanted even though they were booked as a single occupant on a corporate booking.

Never once offered that to me.

Hotels are a shag fest. 😬

ThisNoisyTealLurker · 13/04/2024 18:18

To be honest, it’s better to do it there than the woman being unsafe on the streets.

ooooohnoooooo · 13/04/2024 18:17

Oh and 'reputable' should have been on quotes.

And by 'people' I mean men. 🤢

wildthingsinthenight · 13/04/2024 18:17

This thread didn't go the way you planned did it?

BouleDeSuif · 13/04/2024 18:16

Just to add that I was taken to £500 a night hotels plenty of times...

ooooohnoooooo · 13/04/2024 18:16

People use prostitutes in hotels all the time.

I used to stay regularly in a very expensive upmarket hotel for work. The concierge told me that there were code words for 'additional services' guests might want.

Apparently if you rang reception and asked for 'a soft pillow' the concierge would procure you a prostitution from a reputable source.

Fecking grim if you ask me, but sadly, commonplace.

wildthingsinthenight · 13/04/2024 18:15

She wasn't doing anything that would impact you.
Mind your own business and leave her alone.

RancidRuby · 13/04/2024 18:15

YABU. Firstly, you don't know for sure that she was a prostitute. Secondly, your DD and any other children present would have been unaware that she was a prostitute unless either she or the hotel receptionist shouted "prostitute checking in" during their interaction.

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