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Prostitute checked into our hotel!

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GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:13

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

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TheAlchemistElixa · 13/04/2024 18:46

TurquoiseDress · 13/04/2024 15:22

Omg the horror of it all!

<Clutching my pearls>

Clutching pearls or being paid to pull them out of a middle-aged businessman’s arse?

You are the prostitute and I claim
my five shillings!

Taxbreak · 13/04/2024 18:44

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 18:33

I would judge the OP for that but I would also judge you and other posters falling over yourselves to be so cool about prostitution. It's ugly, degrading and dehumanising, but hey, let's prettify it up by calling it "sex work".

I'm only aware of meeting two or three prostitutes in my life, in each case, their job was their choice and I can only assume that their income trounced the other livelihoods that I felt they could have comfortably earned six-figure salaries for.
It maybe ugly, degrading and dehumanising, but so are many heavy, physically demanding jobs that leave you with a broken body, long before any state pension is payable.

Conkersinautumn · 13/04/2024 18:44

Cash? Just be an affair then. Doesn't want their partner knowing about it.

ByUmberViewer · 13/04/2024 18:43

SocksAndTheCity · 13/04/2024 18:41

It does, and I've posted this already. Sex workers also use the term themselves (as well as having no complaints about 'prostitute'), but what would they know, obviously?

Since I see the Nordic nutters have arrived, I'll be off.

Bye

Sineadjb · 13/04/2024 18:43

Bit judgy that.

PrimitivePerson · 13/04/2024 18:42

There's loads of legitimate daytime uses for hotel rooms. The crews on the overnight trains from London to Scotland use them to sleep during the day.

SocksAndTheCity · 13/04/2024 18:41

BettyShagter · 13/04/2024 18:34

I think sex work is a term people use because it covers everything - ie, men using women's bodies, men using men's bodies, women using women's bodies and women using men's bodies.

I'm pretty sure it also covers cam work and sex chat lines.

It does, and I've posted this already. Sex workers also use the term themselves (as well as having no complaints about 'prostitute'), but what would they know, obviously?

Since I see the Nordic nutters have arrived, I'll be off.

Custardslices · 13/04/2024 18:41

What a load of crap you talk OP

I reckon your husband was fuming she was already booked up.

Must remember to never pay in ten pounds notes....

DBSFstupid · 13/04/2024 18:41

Bloody hell. I you really this Naive?

VestibuleVirgin · 13/04/2024 18:41

GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:21

She paid £100 as she counted it out in £10 notes as she gave it to the receptionist. I don’t want to get into a discussion about you shouldn’t judge a women by what she was wearing etc, let’s just say it was very obvious that she was a prostitute hiring room for the day. This was 10.30am in the morning, not the night.

Here is a conclusion. Please feel free to jump to it.

CustardySergeant · 13/04/2024 18:40

BananaforScale · 13/04/2024 18:39

I thought the school holidays were last week... Shouldn't you be in lessons, OP?

It's Saturday.

BananaforScale · 13/04/2024 18:39

I thought the school holidays were last week... Shouldn't you be in lessons, OP?

KimFan · 13/04/2024 18:38

What does it matter? It’s not affecting your stay. Mind your own business.

LauderSyme · 13/04/2024 18:37

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 18:33

I would judge the OP for that but I would also judge you and other posters falling over yourselves to be so cool about prostitution. It's ugly, degrading and dehumanising, but hey, let's prettify it up by calling it "sex work".

Agreed.

I think the clamour on this thread to roundly denounce OP's prudish naïvete risks looking like trying much too hard to be the cool girl.

Men buying women's bodies to use and abuse as they please really isn't cool. The fact that men can so easily buy sex helps to perpetuate misogynistic objectification. I am not here blaming the women who do sex work but rather the patriarchal system they operate in.

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 18:37

TheOccupier · 13/04/2024 18:31

Yeah, because sex work is work, isn't it? Just like factory work or social work! Yay for men renting women's bodies!

Give your head a wobble and read the Nordic Model Now website. You're not quite as right-on as you think.

There's quite a few posters falling over themselves to show how right on they are. Completely agree about Nordic Model being the way to go.

Toomuchgoingon79 · 13/04/2024 18:37

How do you know she hasn't booked it for day use? Shower after fight and before a meeting? My manger used to do this when she used to fly down, and she most def wasn't a prostitute!

VickyEadieofThigh · 13/04/2024 18:36

fieldsofbutterflies · 13/04/2024 15:17

How do you know she was a prostitute? Was she wearing a badge?

It's quite common for rooms to be rented during the day for various reasons - sleeping between flights, for example.

Correct. If we have a lot of time to kill in a US port after disembarking a ship, we sometimes take a "day room" for a few hours.

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 18:35

soupfiend · 13/04/2024 18:31

Its the other way round surely

Sex worker, implies a 'job' that someone legitimately chooses to do, its been a term used to try to place a veneer of empowerment and agency over. It tries to disguise the exploitation

Prostitution is what it is.

Er yes , I agree but my point is that pimps, etc can claim they're "sex workers" and use that to push for legalisation.

LauderSyme · 13/04/2024 18:35

@ByUmberViewer "I'm a snob. When I pay £500 a night to pay in a hotel I want to be surrounded by classy rich people - people who dress expensively and can afford expensive meals and cocktails. It's all about the ambience".

Classy clearly means different things to different people. Snobbish, judgemental and conspicuously consuming does not spell class to me.

BettyShagter · 13/04/2024 18:34

TheOccupier · 13/04/2024 18:31

Yeah, because sex work is work, isn't it? Just like factory work or social work! Yay for men renting women's bodies!

Give your head a wobble and read the Nordic Model Now website. You're not quite as right-on as you think.

I think sex work is a term people use because it covers everything - ie, men using women's bodies, men using men's bodies, women using women's bodies and women using men's bodies.

I'm pretty sure it also covers cam work and sex chat lines.

Bluepetergarden · 13/04/2024 18:33

ByUmberViewer · 13/04/2024 18:06

I'm a snob. When I pay £500 a night to pay in a hotel I want to be surrounded by classy rich people - people who dress expensively and can afford expensive meals and cocktails. It's all about the ambience.

I don't want to be surrounded by prostitutes. if I wanted that, I'd go and hang in Kings Cross. And save my £500

If you think there are no prostitutes in high end hotels then you are very naive

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 18:33

SeaUrchinHat · 13/04/2024 18:28

OP I judge you more for writing ‘10.30 am in the morning’ than I do this woman for choosing to work in a ‘safe’ environment. If indeed that’s what she was doing.

I hope you managed to enjoy your lovely family weekend anyway..?

I would judge the OP for that but I would also judge you and other posters falling over yourselves to be so cool about prostitution. It's ugly, degrading and dehumanising, but hey, let's prettify it up by calling it "sex work".

BettyShagter · 13/04/2024 18:32

@Hecate01 thank you. I can stop wondering now ☺

soupfiend · 13/04/2024 18:31

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 18:27

Prostitution is demeaning and dehumanising. It suits pimps, brothel keepers, human traffickers and their like to try to prettify it up by calling it " the sex industry" . "Sex worker" conveniently for them includes the exploiters as well as the exploited.

Its the other way round surely

Sex worker, implies a 'job' that someone legitimately chooses to do, its been a term used to try to place a veneer of empowerment and agency over. It tries to disguise the exploitation

Prostitution is what it is.

TheOccupier · 13/04/2024 18:31

HelloMiss · 13/04/2024 15:29

They are called 'sex workers' these days.....not prostitutes....maybe it's you who is quite sheltered using such an old fashioned term?

Yeah, because sex work is work, isn't it? Just like factory work or social work! Yay for men renting women's bodies!

Give your head a wobble and read the Nordic Model Now website. You're not quite as right-on as you think.

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