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Prostitute checked into our hotel!

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GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:13

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

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MsCactus · 13/04/2024 19:34

I feel like she was more likely doing the walk of shame after being locked out/a night somewhere, and or having an affair so dressed up for it during the day.

I don't think prostitutes have a uniform. Lots of non prostitutes wear revealing clothing. Another pp has just said she was accused of being a prostitute at a hotel when she wasn't. I don't think you can know

HelloMiss · 13/04/2024 19:34

Yes love, I DID say sex workers are men or women already 😊

DeliciouslyDecadent · 13/04/2024 19:34

I don't know what you mean by 'was met with a lady'.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 13/04/2024 19:31

Riapia · 13/04/2024 19:10

Obviously the OP is able to identify a prostitute.
Pay no attention to people on here OP.
Decent people go to 4 star hotels hoping to be among others of the same class.
Disgraceful.

How though?!
Has anyone actually managed to say what makes it so obvious instead of just sneering?

Despair1 · 13/04/2024 19:31

Unsure why you are so affected by the possibility of a potential sex worker staying in the same hotel as you. You have a room separate from all other occupants. Sex workers are vulnerable people (in my opinion) and need to minimise the associated risks as much as possible. If the lady was a sex worker, better that services are engaged in as safe a place as possible.
Also, you seem to have judged this lady to be a sex worker based on your initial impression. We all need to be conscious of the risk of stereotyping individuals in any situation.

DeliciouslyDecadent · 13/04/2024 19:30

You have no idea who this woman was. Judging her on her dress code is ridiculous. Maybe some very 'high class' 'call girls' dress better than you! You seem to think a prostitute is identifiable by her clothes.

And even if she was a sex worker, why does that affect your stay?

There will be couples up to all sorts in hotels who - if the Moral Police came along- should not be there.

I don't know what the AIBU is, to be honest.

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:30

BIossomtoes · 13/04/2024 19:26

Of course they do.

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Yes they bloody well do! It’s not the norm for men to pay for sex. AND I also say this as someone who works in a male dominated £££££ industry and have been out with the lads on multiple nights out to the crack of dawn.

Even going to the strip club is really frowned upon in most of my male social circles. It’s not the fucking 80s anymore, thankfully most men now have grown up. Apart from the ones you know.

SulkySeagull · 13/04/2024 19:29

News flash! People shag in hotels!!

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 19:28

BIossomtoes · 13/04/2024 19:15

A prostitute’s clients wouldn’t be remotely interested in OP’s daughter. They’re hardly rapists if they’re paying good money for it.

Of course they are rapists. Prostitution is being paid rape.

Sweetheart7 · 13/04/2024 19:27

Its ridiculous what do you people go to hotels for? The majority are having sex. Paid or unpaid... well that's nobody's business.

BIossomtoes · 13/04/2024 19:26

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:25

Thankfully I don’t know any man who has raped a vulnerable woman. Perhaps you need to keep better company?

I know my brothers, my partner, my son etc would never ever do this. They think better of women than that.

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Of course they do.

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:25

DuplicateUserName · 13/04/2024 19:23

I still wouldn’t want the type of man who used women for sex to be any where near a daughter of mine

Best you keep out of shops, parks, streets and schools then.

In fact anywhere public.

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Thankfully I don’t know any man who has raped a vulnerable woman. Perhaps you need to keep better company?

I know my brothers, my partner, my son etc would never ever do this. They think better of women than that.

DuplicateUserName · 13/04/2024 19:23

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:21

I still wouldn’t want the type of man who used women for sex to be any where near a daughter of mine, never mind if they have already to paid shoot their load so wont notice her.

What an absolutely vile take.

THEY DONT VALUE WOMEN, any women, they think they are owed sex for currency. Appalling attitude.

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I still wouldn’t want the type of man who used women for sex to be any where near a daughter of mine

Best you keep out of shops, parks, streets and schools then.

In fact anywhere public.

Sapphireblueeyes · 13/04/2024 19:22

Do YOU have sex?

Cherry8809 · 13/04/2024 19:21

I hope you overheard her room number, so you know where to find your DH later 🙃

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:21

BIossomtoes · 13/04/2024 19:15

A prostitute’s clients wouldn’t be remotely interested in OP’s daughter. They’re hardly rapists if they’re paying good money for it.

I still wouldn’t want the type of man who used women for sex to be any where near a daughter of mine, never mind if they have already to paid shoot their load so wont notice her.

What an absolutely vile take.

THEY DONT VALUE WOMEN, any women, they think they are owed sex for currency. Appalling attitude.

AmethystSparkles · 13/04/2024 19:20

The staff in a hotel once thought I was a prostitute. Actually I was a very autistic 28 year old who had to be out of the house while renovations were taking place. I was too scared to walk round the town on my own so I spent a few hours in a hotel bar that I was familiar with😳

BettyShagter · 13/04/2024 19:19

MILTOBE · 13/04/2024 19:04

I think the implication was that it was a backhander.

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Yeah, in front of absolutely everyone and the CCTV! 🤣🤦‍♀️

WhamBamThankU · 13/04/2024 19:19

Riapia · 13/04/2024 19:10

Obviously the OP is able to identify a prostitute.
Pay no attention to people on here OP.
Decent people go to 4 star hotels hoping to be among others of the same class.
Disgraceful.

4 star means nothing. It only means you can afford a night there so stick your snobby comments about class elsewhere 🤭

Famfirst · 13/04/2024 19:18

You are being horribly judgemental and unreasonable.

willWillSmithsmith · 13/04/2024 19:18

80smonster · 13/04/2024 18:04

Yup. It’s rather blinging isn’t it! The outfits are something to behold, especially on a Friday evening. Were you there over a weekend? Imagine that’s probably peak flow in terms of trashy vibes.

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I can’t remember but probably. It was a long time ago though. I was quite excited to be going to such a ‘fancy’ hotel but couldn’t get past the horrible bathroom set up so my excitement soon went.

soupfiend · 13/04/2024 19:16

greyonwhitesky · 13/04/2024 15:41

I use the term prostitute because I object to the term sex worker, which has been adopted for political reasons to make an inherently exploitative business seem mainstream. Trafficking and abuse of women iin prostitution is common. There has been research in countries were prostitution is fully legalized and ‘above board’ which has shown that the prostituted women there have as high, or higher, levels of disassociation from their own bodies than child sex abuse victims. And even for the small minority of high earning prostitutes who can choose a small number of clients they are safe with and freely do choose that work, I still object to prostitution as I have a strong principled objection to a society where men are able to buy intimate access to women’s bodies. That is something that I strongly believe no one should be able to purchase.

So away with your sneering about old fashioned. I’d rather have looked into and thought about issues and make my decisions based on that, rather than on what’s ‘fashionable’.

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Competely this, you said it better than me

BIossomtoes · 13/04/2024 19:15

A prostitute’s clients wouldn’t be remotely interested in OP’s daughter. They’re hardly rapists if they’re paying good money for it.

HRTQueen · 13/04/2024 19:15

How can anyone be shocked that hotel rooms are used by sex workers

I wouldn’t assume she was a sex worker but we all know it’s a thriving business

ZoeCM · 13/04/2024 19:14

My mind is boggling at the thought of what this woman was wearing to make it "very obvious" that she was a prostitute. I'm picturing the episode of Friends where Rachel ends up wearing lingerie to a restaurant.