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Prostitute checked into our hotel!

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GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:13

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

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ladyofshertonabbas · 13/04/2024 19:52

It’s just life. I’d have been glad to see it, it would liven up my otherwise humdrum existence.

DonnyBurrito · 13/04/2024 19:51

The woman from your hotel could have been out clubbing the night before, met someone, gone to the hotel for a ONS, and then been paying her minibar bill when you saw her

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:51

GalileoHumpkins · 13/04/2024 19:48

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Well done! So have I!

have you ever been raped in a hotel or seen red flags that women might be getting raped in the hotel you are staying in?

paying for sex = paying for rape

NoraBattysCurlers · 13/04/2024 19:51

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:25

Thankfully I don’t know any man who has raped a vulnerable woman. Perhaps you need to keep better company?

I know my brothers, my partner, my son etc would never ever do this. They think better of women than that.

Ignorance is bliss.

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 13/04/2024 19:50

GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:21

She paid £100 as she counted it out in £10 notes as she gave it to the receptionist. I don’t want to get into a discussion about you shouldn’t judge a women by what she was wearing etc, let’s just say it was very obvious that she was a prostitute hiring room for the day. This was 10.30am in the morning, not the night.

Of course you "dont want to got into discussion about this" and we all know why, just read the dozens of posts by other FM's here

Judging someone by their appearance and or happy they pay is not acceptable in the modern society.

Eggplant44 · 13/04/2024 19:50

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:21

I still wouldn’t want the type of man who used women for sex to be any where near a daughter of mine, never mind if they have already to paid shoot their load so wont notice her.

What an absolutely vile take.

THEY DONT VALUE WOMEN, any women, they think they are owed sex for currency. Appalling attitude.

They exchange sex for currency when they are offered it on the market. Not grabbing women off the street, raping them, and throwing money at them.
Its better than the days when the price was a loaf of bread.

Silverliver · 13/04/2024 19:50

People have sex in hotels? Shock horror

GalileoHumpkins · 13/04/2024 19:48

AGirlWithAHandOnHerArm · 13/04/2024 18:54

Guess what - I’ve had sex in a hotel room before!!! And it was a family friendly one!

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thrones shame GIF
CheeryPye · 13/04/2024 19:48

GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:21

She paid £100 as she counted it out in £10 notes as she gave it to the receptionist. I don’t want to get into a discussion about you shouldn’t judge a women by what she was wearing etc, let’s just say it was very obvious that she was a prostitute hiring room for the day. This was 10.30am in the morning, not the night.

Perhaps raise your aspirations above Travelodge next time xx

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:48

Rowansiskin · 13/04/2024 19:46

I’ve been mistaken for a sex worker before 🤷‍♀️ and also accused of going for a shag when entering a 5* hotel with my boss during the day. How do you know she wasn’t meeting her secret lover? Or going for a nap after being up all night?

Same, I once got propositioned by a curb crawler at 6:30am on my way to my Saturday cafe job when I was 14.

BoneshakerBike · 13/04/2024 19:47

You need to be in the club lounges of hotels- that is a prime spot.

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 19:47

Thecastle1 · 13/04/2024 19:35

Not all sex work is rape

A punter doesn't "have sex" with a prostituted woman. He is paying her to rape her.

Rowansiskin · 13/04/2024 19:46

I’ve been mistaken for a sex worker before 🤷‍♀️ and also accused of going for a shag when entering a 5* hotel with my boss during the day. How do you know she wasn’t meeting her secret lover? Or going for a nap after being up all night?

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:45

Imthefairyonthetree · 13/04/2024 19:44

Please tell me what she was wearing that made her obvious so I know not wear similar next time I check into a hotel and you might be there.

It’s often not what they are wearing see my post up thread. There are a lot of social cues and red flags.

It’s not being judgemental, it’s the same red flags you would assert for anyone who seemed vulnerable.

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 13/04/2024 19:45

EveryoneJapan · 13/04/2024 15:19

A lot of assuming going on here and you know what they say, when you assume you make an ass out of u and me!

and thats a fact😂😂

Imthefairyonthetree · 13/04/2024 19:44

Please tell me what she was wearing that made her obvious so I know not wear similar next time I check into a hotel and you might be there.

Doratheexplorer1 · 13/04/2024 19:42

EveryoneJapan · 13/04/2024 15:25

I once let a man kiss me on the face in a hotel room. He also consensually touched my knee over breakfast.

Of all the outrageous things I’ve read on here. This is up there. 😂😉

AmericanUgly · 13/04/2024 19:40

I wouldn't like it OP. I would send an email to the manager of the hotel. If it's cash, someone might be doing something that's not going through 'the books'. If it was a 4 star hotel I'm pretty sure that renting it out for prostitution isn't a standard business decision.

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:38

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 13/04/2024 19:31

How though?!
Has anyone actually managed to say what makes it so obvious instead of just sneering?

Paying in cash
looking malnourished
obviously high on drugs (in a functioning way, but it’s still obvious) at 10am
the receptionist taking cash and not asking any additional questions
localised accent, even if it’s just a twang against a foreign or uk based accent
looking slightly dishevelled but somewhat put together (think make up layers on none washed off make up layers)

honestly it’s very obvious, I live near the managed red light district in Leeds and it’s such a sad sad reality for these women, we are letting them down by making excuses for horrible men and turning blind eyes when it’s happening under our noses.

BoneshakerBike · 13/04/2024 19:38

I remember my daughter aged about 5 in a 4 Seasons Hotel or maybe an Aman hotel saying (luckily quietly) Why is that man kissing his daughter?

He was Northern European- she was Russian and she was booked for the weekend trip- they were there at least 4 days. You can often tell abroad as the men/agency supply the women with the clothes- standard size 6-8 but the shoes often don't fit them as that is a variable.

Iamacatslave · 13/04/2024 19:37

Was her name Roxanne?

ItsVeryHyacinthBucket · 13/04/2024 19:37

Oh dear, this won’t end well for the OP.

Nanof8 · 13/04/2024 19:37

Finlesswonder · 13/04/2024 15:24

Some of you sound quite sheltered. It's obvious prostitutes are prostitutes.

There are a lot that are not obvious. No I'm not sheltered. I actually used to live in an area with a hotel that had hourly rates as well as daily rates.
A lot of those ladies were dressed as if they were heading to work at an office. Some even looked like your basic soccer mom.
So I would never assume someone's occupation by how they are dressed.

Stravaig · 13/04/2024 19:36

You need to explain how you could tell she was 'very obviously a prostitute' OP! Maybe she was paying the early check-in fee, or booking a room for a morning meeting, a couple of hours work, a travel break nap, an affair hookup.

Thecastle1 · 13/04/2024 19:35

IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · 13/04/2024 19:28

Of course they are rapists. Prostitution is being paid rape.

Not all sex work is rape