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Prostitute checked into our hotel!

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GrumpyL · 13/04/2024 15:13

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

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fatalisticdefeatist · 13/04/2024 21:11

Swingingchandelier · 13/04/2024 21:08

I’m wondering if it was me! Around the same time today I checked in to a London hotel for £250 to get a room for my boyfriend and I. I dressed a bit sexy/slutty today too. We went up there and had sex for 3 hours and then both went home. The reason I checked in during the day is because both of our children are at home at the weekend and we need to find somewhere to have sex.

Id just get a lock on my bedroom door 😆 cheaper and all that.

fatalisticdefeatist · 13/04/2024 21:10

BusStopNumber3 · 13/04/2024 20:58

Because the second one makes the person saying it feel virtuous.

If it's what you are, you shouldn't be offended.

theduchessofspork · 13/04/2024 21:09

WhamBamThankU · 13/04/2024 19:19

4 star means nothing. It only means you can afford a night there so stick your snobby comments about class elsewhere 🤭

The PP is JOKING

Swingingchandelier · 13/04/2024 21:08

I’m wondering if it was me! Around the same time today I checked in to a London hotel for £250 to get a room for my boyfriend and I. I dressed a bit sexy/slutty today too. We went up there and had sex for 3 hours and then both went home. The reason I checked in during the day is because both of our children are at home at the weekend and we need to find somewhere to have sex.

Janetime · 13/04/2024 21:07

Seems the op isn’t keen to explain why she’s decided the woman was a sex worker. I suspect because she knows full well she’s been judgey and people would point it out.

Charlize43 · 13/04/2024 21:07

It's amazing how some people seem to be unaware that there is a cost of living crisis going on for part of the population...

tillytoodles1 · 13/04/2024 21:07

BIossomtoes · 13/04/2024 20:42

No. Technically his money.

I agree. He'd paid his N.I for years to get that. It's not taxpayers money, it's his right. When will people stop thinking that pensioners are spending THEIR money. Who paid for schools, doctors etc when they were younger and not earning anything!

betterangels · 13/04/2024 21:07

BIossomtoes · 13/04/2024 21:03

How would it be any different to any other couple having sex next door?

Quite. You're not going to know who's who. People have sex in hotels. Shocker.

theduchessofspork · 13/04/2024 21:06

boozeclues · 13/04/2024 19:25

Thankfully I don’t know any man who has raped a vulnerable woman. Perhaps you need to keep better company?

I know my brothers, my partner, my son etc would never ever do this. They think better of women than that.

I imagine most rapists’ mothers, daughters and wives think that.

Many rapists are otherwise normal men.

Don’t be so naive.

Damnyourheadshoulderskneesandtoes · 13/04/2024 21:05

Babachew · 13/04/2024 15:57

Do you know what 5 star London hotels keep near reception?

Even Harrods has a basement full of sex toys.

Now in the hotels are these to purchase or to borrow Confused

AtrociousCircumstance · 13/04/2024 21:05

Wow. So you see women being used in this way as tantamount to consensual sex?

LuckyPeonies · 13/04/2024 21:04

I am so tired of entitled parents acting as though all of society must cater to them and their children! OP, if you want family friendly, go to disney. 🙄

BIossomtoes · 13/04/2024 21:03

AtrociousCircumstance · 13/04/2024 21:01

So you’d be happy to be in a hotel you’d spend a lot on, with your kids, and for there to be a series of rapists johns fucking some unfortunate woman in the room next to you?

Yeah, right.

How would it be any different to any other couple having sex next door?

lotsofpeoplenametheirswords · 13/04/2024 21:03

AtrociousCircumstance · 13/04/2024 21:01

So you’d be happy to be in a hotel you’d spend a lot on, with your kids, and for there to be a series of rapists johns fucking some unfortunate woman in the room next to you?

Yeah, right.

No one said 'happy' about it, did they? It happens. It's always going to. I'd prefer my child to be in a hotel at the same time as a relatively safe prostitute going about her day than hearing about another one laying dead in a ditch. But I suppose we care about women in different ways:

WitchWithoutChips · 13/04/2024 21:03

I’m not naive that my children will eventually learn about the existence of sex work but my dd is 10 and genuinely has no idea of the concept. Seriously, what on earth are you all showing and teaching your children that they would be able to spot a prostitute at thirty paces in the lobby of a Premier Inn?

AtrociousCircumstance · 13/04/2024 21:01

So you’d be happy to be in a hotel you’d spend a lot on, with your kids, and for there to be a series of rapists johns fucking some unfortunate woman in the room next to you?

Yeah, right.

theduchessofspork · 13/04/2024 20:58

It’s a safe place to work

I don’t know why it would make you uncomfortable?

BusStopNumber3 · 13/04/2024 20:58

TotHappy · 13/04/2024 15:36

Why is prostitute offensive and sex worker isn't? Seriously?

Because the second one makes the person saying it feel virtuous.

fatalisticdefeatist · 13/04/2024 20:57

AspiringChatBot · 13/04/2024 20:53

I'm still not seeing good reason to believe that she was a prostitute from what you've written. Many hotels allow early check-in, some whenever they have a room available and some under particular circumstances and/or by advanced request. It's also possible in many hotels to check in LATE, having booked the previous night and let the hotel know your approximate arrival time - I've seen this in London in particular for people coming off of overnight transatlantic flights. As far as the amount she paid, hotel rates vary considerably. She could have had a credit, booked it on Priceline at a significant discount, benefited from a loyalty program deal, etc. It's not that unusual to pay cash, and given 10 and 20 are by far the most common denominations of Sterling (and what you'd get from an ATM), that's unremarkable too.

In a good hotel, it's likely that the guest could show up, give their name, and have a prearranged early check-in and a reduced price honored without any discussion that would be audible to other guests in the queue.

On this, a few years back my partner went to reception to book an extra night at the hotel because we had to leave by 11am and me and the newborn were KO. He didn't want to wake us, it cost about £95 and he paid cash at reception.

It could have been something like this.

BroughttoyoubyBerocca · 13/04/2024 20:56

I believe you OP. I was shocked by blatant presence of sex workers in a London hotel, midweek with families staying. This was a hotel right on Piccadilly. Really put me off staying there, I’ve lived in London for loooooong time

fatalisticdefeatist · 13/04/2024 20:55

juniorspesh · 13/04/2024 15:20

Of all the little details here the one that made me laugh most was “£100 in cash”. Like a little kid’s idea of a lot of money. 5 notes. Barely a night in the pub these days.

I'm shocked you think it isn't a lot of money these days. 😆

JohnSt1 · 13/04/2024 20:55

I once checked into a hotel and was asked to pay a room deposit but my card wasn't working. I paid in cash. She could have been doing that.

AspiringChatBot · 13/04/2024 20:53

I'm still not seeing good reason to believe that she was a prostitute from what you've written. Many hotels allow early check-in, some whenever they have a room available and some under particular circumstances and/or by advanced request. It's also possible in many hotels to check in LATE, having booked the previous night and let the hotel know your approximate arrival time - I've seen this in London in particular for people coming off of overnight transatlantic flights. As far as the amount she paid, hotel rates vary considerably. She could have had a credit, booked it on Priceline at a significant discount, benefited from a loyalty program deal, etc. It's not that unusual to pay cash, and given 10 and 20 are by far the most common denominations of Sterling (and what you'd get from an ATM), that's unremarkable too.

In a good hotel, it's likely that the guest could show up, give their name, and have a prearranged early check-in and a reduced price honored without any discussion that would be audible to other guests in the queue.

Pookerrod · 13/04/2024 20:47

AtrociousCircumstance · 13/04/2024 20:41

@Pookerrod You are ignoring my point and you know it.

What point are you trying to make in a thread where an OP is horrified that someone might be using a hotel room for sex work?

Beezknees · 13/04/2024 20:46

AtrociousCircumstance · 13/04/2024 20:29

I agree with you OP and all the cool girls who feel so very ok with prostitution might want to consider how vile, exploitative and anti-consent prostitution is. Trafficked, abused, desperate women.

Would you want that future for your daughters, cool girl posters? Or yourselves? Fuck off.

All the posters laughing about how supposedly uptight you are just fucking handmaidens to patriarchal norms.

No one is trying to be "cool." Women who resort to prostitution are in a DIRE way. Usually drug addicts. Kicking them out of hotels will mean they'll endanger themselves even more by doing it in cars/streets, it will not solve the problem. Ultimately, you will never eliminate sex work. That is the reality. It just needs to be made safer for women.