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I have 4 dogs and husband hates them all

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Ndhu · 13/04/2024 09:06

So, I'm a dog trainer and a mum.

I have 4 dogs.... before my husband married me he knew I was in love with animals.
6 years down the line and he hates everything about animals.

He hates the fact I have my dogs even though I walk them. Feed them. Keep them out of his way...
Pick the poo up...
Clean the house....
And deal with my children.

I adopted our 4th dog a while ago as she was feral and I put a lot of hard work into her...

I've offered him to get rid of our other dog who is 6 months old and isn't adjusting well to the house but he wants this one dog gone....

I'm torn, I really am as this dog means the world to me.....

Am I being unfair?

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TiptoeTess · 13/04/2024 09:16

How many of these specific dogs did you have when you married, and has he been consulted on and agreed to the ones you’ve added since marrying?

Catza · 13/04/2024 09:15

Did you discuss bringing in another dog? I think your expectations are unfair. Just because your husband knew you loved dogs doesn’t mean he automatically consents to living in a zoo. Unless you live in a mansion, I can easily see how multiple dogs can be a nuisance even if you do everything for them. I love my partner’s dog but even I get annoyed at the constant shedding and being watched like a hawk every time I sit down to eat. If he brought a feral dog in, I would be livid. Especially if he “put a lot of time” into it at the expense of family life.

ZiriForGood · 13/04/2024 09:15

There is a difference between living with one or two pet dogs and bringing in feral creatures in numbers.

It looks like moving the goal posts.

sparkellie · 13/04/2024 09:13

Yes yabu. To start with it isn't fair on either the dogs or your husband to get any animals that aren't agreed on by both of you. They shouldn't have to live with someone who resents them. And secondly you are saying you will give up one of the dogs? You really need to make a commitment and stick to it. Honestly I think you need to decide if you and your husband are actually compatible. This would be a deal breaker for me. I could never be with someone who didn't want my pets. But I wouldn't go behind their backs to get more and then complain they weren't happy with it. You need to decide what's more important to you and stick with it. If you decide your husband and to give up a dog or two you have to stick with that. Having said all of that I think he is being a little unreasonable to be fussy about which dog you give up.

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Ndhu · 13/04/2024 09:13

Yes, I work with rescues. As stated. I'm a dog trainer, the dog is amazing with the children and I have changed her life in 4 months... she is only 8 months old :)

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MrsMitford3 · 13/04/2024 09:11

The dogs would be non negotiable for me.

He doesn't get to change the rules once he's in!!!

Elphame · 13/04/2024 09:10

Dogs or husband?

Keep the dogs.

He knew you were a dog person before he married you so it's unfair and unreasonable of him to expect you to change.

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 13/04/2024 09:10

How many dogs did you have when you got married? I don't think I'd be happy if my DH brought home a feral dog (I KNOW I wouldn't be!)

Aquamarine1029 · 13/04/2024 09:10

You brought a feral dog into your home and you have children?

JacobsCrackle · 13/04/2024 09:10

When you say torn, between what and what do you mean?

Have you discussed acquiring each of these dogs with him, or did you just do it? Even though you do everything, both partners need to be in agreement.

Soubriquet · 13/04/2024 09:08

Keep the dogs, boot the husband

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