I have 4 dogs and husband hates them all

He agreed to foster the dog. He did not agree to permanently take the dog on.

You are being unfair.

The DH agreed to get the feral dog on a foster basis - he didn't agree to them re-homing it permanently. OP says herself she has rehabilitated the dog and that it's ready to go to it's forever home - so that's what needs to happen.

This was never supposed to be a permanent arrangement, yet she's trying to make it into one. That's what isn't fair.

It also wasn't fair to get another puppy, but that's another discussion altogether.

How many dogs did you have when you met/married?

I agree with this as well.

I would never have married my DH if I knew he didn't like (or want) animals. It would have been a deal-breaker from day one.

Why, as someone who works with (and owns) dogs, would you marry and have children with someone who hates them so much?

This is exactly what I thought 'get rid' is a very harsh phase for somebody who apparently lives and breathes dogs

You have three options

1. rehome some of the dogs to your husband is happy and don’t bring home anymore
2. Get a second home so you can live separately with your dogs but still be married
3. divorce

A clean well groomed dog that has a bath once in a while, has regularly washed bedding, a clean environment, does NOT smell. Full stop.

What does your DH actually do around the house? No wonder you love your dogs more it doesn’t sound like you get a lot back off him

Get rid of your husband. Absolutely NO WAY would I even entertain getting rid of a dog when he knew yhe score before you married. Arsehole & you will be too if you do this.

YABU to have married/had children with someone who has such a different outlook to animals to you. Surely this was obvious to both of you at the start? Some things you can’t compromise on - pets is one of them.

Dog/cat people will ALWAYS want a furry friend. Anti-animal people won’t. The two just don’t match.

This was bound to happen eventually. When your current dogs all die (sorry to be blunt), you’ll want more and he won’t.

There’s no happy ending for anyone tbh

We had similar although not quite as extreme. I had a ginger cat before I met DH, obviously wasn’t going to rehome the cat but things deteriorated to a point (years later) where I was seriously considering rehoming him because it was absolutely miserable.

The cat unfortunately was the victim of a traffic fatality so it solved the problem in a way but I do resent DH for making me feel so guilty about it all.

You're a trainer and you use the terms get rid of a 6 month old puppy? This can't be real, the correct term is rehome, this is a living breathing animal.

I'm sorry but your house will definitely smell , it's just that you can't smell it.

Dogs are a massive commitment and totally change the dynamics of a family - ideally for the better but sometimes for the worse.

But 4?
That's a really niche level of doggery.
I love dogs but absolutely could not stand to live in a house with 4 dogs so I'm not surprised your husband hates them

So you have fostered the dog, trained the dog and now the dog is a perfect pet.

Time to find it a forever home. It's not yours. You have completed the bit your DH agrees to.

OP, I think you are getting a really hard time on here. It sounds like your husband agreed to the dogs, but has now changed his mind.

No, he agreed to foster not to keep the dog on a permanent basis. The dog has now been with them for several months and doing incredibly well - so it should now go to it's forever home but OP wants to keep it.

It doesn’t sound like that at all. It sounds like he agreed to foster and now found out the OP refuses to give up the dog. He hasn’t changed his mind about fostering temporarily, he never agree to the dog remaining permanently.
I am in a similar situation. My partner gave our spare room to his work colleague for three months which I agreed to. They guy has been living with us for over two years now and, as far as I know, has no intentions to move out. I never agreed to this and yes, I have the right to resent it.

I have six dogs, sometimes care for 9 and my husband loves them and they adore him.

I can't imagine how stressful it is for you as someone who is dedicated to dogs and how awful for him if he hates dogs to be in a house 'full' of them.

I would have to split up or if the relationship is great in every other way and you can afford it, buy a second property nearby for him to have his dog free residence but maintain a relationship wit you and your children.

The op isn't getting a "hard time" posters aren't blindly agreeing with her and are trying to understand the situation.

You are very unreasonable.

You keep saying "he knew" that implies that he had no say in it and that you simply told him you're adding another dog.

Your job is your job. Do you think someone who marries a bin man expects to be surrounded by rubbish? No. Leave your work at work and stop bringing more animals into a home where they are not wanted by everyone.

OP, I think you are getting a really hard time on here. It sounds like your husband agreed to the dogs, but has now changed his mind.

Are you in the UK, as I'm guessing English isn't your first language?

FWIW, we also have 4 dogs. I accept that my house smells of dogs, although ours are all smaller dogs that don't particularly shed or smell like a Golden Retriever, for example. We initially wanted 2, but over time this has increased to 4 adorable rescues. I wish you could come and help train us and our dogs!

Would reducing to 3 help the situation, if you could rehome the other puppy that isn't settling as well? Or is it something specific about this other puppy that your husband object's to?

I also don't understand the other 6 month puppy situation what's going on with that where are you wanting that to go so you can keep the last dog?

You’re avoiding the point everyone’s making OP. If you fostered this dog, and she is now a lovey dog, then it’s time for her to move on. If your husband agreed to her as a foster, but not as a permanent addition, then it’s you who is being unreasonable demanding she stay. At the very least you need to recognise this as a failed foster situation.

Obviously your DH needs to be realistic in understanding that you’re always going to have multiple dogs. But if you’re going to continue living together then you need to have honest discussions and mutual agreements about the next dog, that you stick to. It is his home too.

Both people in a marriage need to be clear about their non negotiables. Particularly older couples.

It takes two to make a marriage work; if he hates dogs how is it that you and he are only just discovering it - how bizarre, I can't understand it.

I would absolutely not live with my children in a house with a dog with uncertain background and behaviour. I would always be wary of a dog whose owner said it was "amazing with the children". We have a dog and have always had a dog. If I was your dp I would move out and take the children.