I have 4 dogs and husband hates them all

Other way round. Ugh. 😖
Animals in the house.

Sorry OP but YABU, your husband agreed to take on the dog as a foster, not permanently and now you want to keep it, you need to re home the dog, totally unfair on your husband, 4 dogs is a lot for someone who is not a dog person

Ah, another classic MN AIBU where the OP asks if she's being unreasonable, the majority say "yes" and she just replies with "no I'm not" (or in this case, "no I'm not, I work with dogs").
OP - what exactly are you hoping to get out of this thread?

I don’t understand why someone who loves and works with dogs married someone who doesn’t like dogs/animals?

Ditch the husband….get more dogs 😁

My ex husband wasn’t keen on animals, it took me a while to realise he wasn’t the person for me, me and the dc now have quite a few pets. Animals are really important to me, I can’t imagine not having pets.

I love dogs and have worked with rescues to foster as well as having my own, but even I think you're being a bit unreasonable here OP. Your job involves fostering and bringing dogs that need intensive behavioural support into your family home, but there doesn't seem to be much reflection on your part of what this means.

With kindness, it's all very well to keep saying "I work with dogs, it's my job", but you don't seem to really be considering how your job affects your husband. You're not leaving work at work, you literally bring it home with you. It affects his life having four dogs at home. He's allowed to say this and also allowed to highlight if this feels like too much and something he didn't sign up to. A lot of your replies say "he knew", but not really any detail or acknowledgement that he's been involved in or supportive of your decision to foster and then rehome these dogs yourself.

Also you read many times on here. People who have a demanding career, before they have a family. Poster complains that their career/ hobby / lifestyle is now affecting them and the advice is that their OH needs a change of career. What's the difference here. Op's career is affecting her marriage. She can't sing the same song of that's what he knew, because it seems like op is now bringing feral animals into their home. He is allowed to not accept this.

Sounds like you foster dogs but then keep them and repeat the cycle.... Where does it end? Id be fed up too

I'm confused is the 6 month puppy that isn't fitting in a different dog to the feral one? If so why did you get another puppy and why isn't it fitting in? Is it the feral dog your husband wants rid of? Why does he want rid of that one if it is really well behaved? This is all very strange and I think you need to stop collecting dogs.

So many unanswered questions.

How many did you have when you first got together?

Did he agree to temporary foster the dog and now he doesn’t want you to keep her full time?

Did he agree to the 6 month old puppy and was this before or after the foster dog? Was/is the 6 month old dog also fostered, which is why you are happy to “get rid of it”

How many other foster dogs have you had in the past?

Agree with everything here

What’s your husbands reason for not liking this one dog in particular?
Is there any way to compromise once you know what the real issue is?
I have a multi dog household and have been in the situation you are in - it’s not easy.

That get rid remark also made me uncomfortable. You might be a so called trainer but are you really acting responsibly here I don't think so.

Unless I have read your post wrong, you've doubled the amount of dogs you have in less than a year? He's probably concerned about how the situation is escalating, 4 is a lot of dogs anyway but you have moved from dog to dog very quickly.

YABU to bring dogs in under the impression that they are there as a temporary foster for work reasons, then decide for yourself that you are going to keep them. If you are telling your DH you are bringing a dog home for work then you need to be professional and return/rehome the dog once your work is done.

Has he always been lazy with the household chores or has this happened since the extra dogs arrived?

They do smell - all animals smell. I say that as someone who owns a dog and several cats, and who works with dogs on a daily basis.

That doesn't mean they smell bad or offensive, necessarily, but they do smell.

Well you knew your h doesn't like them and you have just gone on to add more to the family. The fact you keep saying your are a trainer is neither here nor there as he does t like them and you knew that It's his home too. If I was him I would feel very put out tbh and I say that as someone who loves dogs and has a rescue myself. You arnt compatable. Dogs are your life and they are not his. I dont see how you can resolve it without drastic action either way. Either get it down to just one dog (unfair on the dogs) or split from your husband I think you have been irresponsible bringing all these dogs in knowing full well he doesn't like them as now you will probably have to "get rid' as you say of some of the dogs. Your intentions have been good but you havnt acted with any thought about your h feelings

He knew, he knew, but people are allowed to not accept a situation that becomes overwhelming as it becomes a problem.
You seem to think you being a dog trainer is your primary role in life. And to you it may be. Are you ok then that he doesn't want to live like this and your family breaks up... over dogs?

So you have 4 dogs.
dog 1
dog 2
dog 3 - aged 6 months apparently not fitting in
dog 4 - aged 8 months, but you took them in when they were 4 months.

aside from anything else why:

1. did you take on 2 puppies at the same time or near enough same time?
2. why are you offering to get rid of one of your dogs? And because they’re not fitting in? They’re still so young, they haven’t been with you for long, they have to fit in with three other dogs, one of which you describe as feral and needing lots of time. What time has this puppy had? you are a trainer/behaviourist so surely you understand their challenges more than most and are more able to help them settle in? You don’t sound like you love animals at all. I feel very sorry for this dog. and for the others living with someone who “hates them all”.

I think it’s probably built he accepted your dogs which to be blunt won’t be here forever

you’ve topped your collection did he think new rescue was moving on

@Ndhu I think this is quite a tough call, he knew what you did for a living, he must have known that there was a strong likelihood of you having dogs but now he hates them? I'm not a diehard animal lover but I'd find it really odd if someone decided to shift the goalposts while in a relationship with me and told me to get rid of my cat. It would be a hard no.

Does your DH want you to get rid of your dog(s)? I think you need to sit down with him and have a talk about what he thinks you're going to change at this stage.

Tbh I'd probably tell him that he knew what he was getting into so suck it up!

I'm sorry but you are wrong.

Yes, it does. Dog owners are nose blind..

HTH

I can see that it's your passion and your job, but I guess he could feel like they're taking over. Is the one ex feral dog untrained, aggressive?
Is it just a space thing, ie he feels 4 is too many?
It feels like you shouldn't have to sacrifice your lifestyle but is there any leeway or compromise?

I still don't have an overall sense of when all these dogs arrived in your household. I understand that the 4th one was a few months ago, but what about the other 3? You say he knew you loved animals, but how many dogs did you have when you got married? How many of those other 3 dogs did you have to persuade your husband to let you bring home? Because I'm wondering about a gradual chipping away at his goodwill and patience here. Maybe a fourth just tipped him over the edge. My neighbour has three dogs (they are lovely!) and they take up pretty much all of her time. Four dogs is a lot. So the number you had to begin with (at the start of your marriage) is quite important for context.

This, I can only imagine the smell and mess. But her knew this when he met you. 4 is too much though.

It sounds as though your husband agreed to foster her so you could work with her. Not to a permanent adoption. They are two quid different things, and tbh i'd think of a foster who you know has problems has open to ongoing discussion whether or not it's working for the family anyway.

Why does he specifically object to this dog?