I have 4 dogs and husband hates them all

What with?

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Totally over her head, bless her.

She's mentioned it 15 times.

She's also mentioned that her husband "knew" 9 times.

Still not getting the difference between "fostering" and "adopting".

Looking at how you’re responding in this thread, I can imagine your husband finds it pretty hard to communicate with you about the dogs. Everybody on the thread is struggling with the same thing.

It is simply impossible to figure out from your responses what exactly has happened. Does he hate dogs? If so, why would he agree to you taking on yet another one to train? Just saying that you work with rescues and train dogs repeatedly clarifies nothing for anyone.

Similarly, why do you speak about your (shared children) in a way that makes it sound like he’s not their father? If he’s their father, why are you saying things like ‘and deal with my children’?

Nothing on this thread makes any sense.

This.

@DoIhavegreeneyes
I know lots of people who have dogs and they don't stop their kids from playing in the garden.

She brings them home because those kind of dogs thrive in a home environment and that's often the best place to do the work that they need.

Your poor children having to share their mother with such time and attention demanding creatures.
Not to be able to play in the garden, roll on a lawn because of traces of excrement even if you do pick up the lumps.
You said many times that you work as an animal trainer, but why do you bring them home? leave them at work. Mechanics don't bring part of a gearbox home to work on every night. Go home to a normal family life. DH might not prefer to spend so much time on gaming if you paid more attention to the humans.
DH is obviously in love with you, or he would have found the exit by now. Demonstrate that it is mutual. Join in with the children as they grow up.
Above all don't make your love for the family conditional on you choosing to have pets.

Why did you bother posting this thread, OP? You clearly only want to listen to people who agree with you.

Did you speak to your husband at all before bringing so many animals home? Did he get any say in it? You speak about bringing home a dog four months ago, so while you’re married to and living with your husband?

You can’t just bring home animals without discussing it with the other person. YABU to a massive degree doing that.

Why does your husband want to get rid of this dog?

When did you get the dog that's 6 months old? and why does he want the latest one gone instead of that one if that one isn't fitting in?

So you currently have an 8-month-old puppy and a 6-month-old puppy, as well as two older dogs? And you’re fine with getting rid of the younger puppy because he isn’t adjusting well to your household, whereas the older one seems fine?

There is so much wrong with this situation, starting with the attitude that it would be somehow acceptable to treat one pup as disposable. And then there’s the inadvisability of having two young puppies at the same time. You also haven’t even reached adolescence for either pup yet, so there may well be hard work ahead.

Are you trained and certified as a behaviourist?

I agree.

Well these dogs you have rescued, are they fostered or adopted? There is a big difference between having a dog for a few months and having 4 permanently.

Tricky situation .. I suppose he knew all along you loved dogs .. I think you have to get these things sorted before you marry or move in with someone. My husband likes dogs and I like cats and have always had them. I've always said I don't want a dog and he's agreed to that ... if he bought a feral dog home me and the cat would pack our bags !

4 dogs ? I think you're taking the absolute piss, that's a hell of a lot of compromises he's had to make. 👀

You've gone from being a dog trainer to a "behaviourist/trainer" in the space of a few pages.

They are very different things, as any trained and accredited behaviourist would know.

I used to work with a "dog trainer" who did a £99 2 hour course she found on Groupon and then took in multiple dogs with issues that she could neither manage nor afford.

Very different to the genuine behaviourists I've worked with who are highly skilled professionals who have spent years gaining experience and qualifications.

Who are you accredited by?

I came to our relationship with a dog, we came as a package. Any further dogs (or animals, or children!) who have come into our house since have been by mutual agreement. You keep saying your husband knew, but was he actually keen on the idea?

Keep the dogs, ditch the partner...

He knew what you were an animal lover and had pets when he married you.

It also does not sound like he is pulling his weight when it comes to childcare.

I would not want to live with a lazy, moaning man who can't cope with animals.

What is it he hates about the dogs @Ndhu? I don't think you've specified this.

If he knew it was your job, agreed to taking on dogs into your home for the rescue you work for, why has he said he hates them? And is this a gradual thing or a sudden thing?

Maybe he thought it was temporary and didn’t realise that your home would turn into a rescue shelter.

i think you should move all the dogs on to a new home, yes you have done a great job but no trophies unfortunately, you will just have to move them on and on to the next dog who needs you.

How on earth did you two ever get close enough to marry???

im a dog lover, we have two but did have three. I can’t imagine having more than a fleeting relationship with a bloke that didn’t love dogs. 🤣. When these 2 go I’d like a break from having dogs but can’t imagine life, long term, without one in my bed. 🤣

Dogs > men every time.

So yeah, ditch the man.

He didn't change his mind, OP changed the rules.

This dog was meant to be a temporary foster, not a permanent addition to the household.

And yes, four dogs is a lot of dogs.

Of course he can change his mind! When circumstances change and we have mire information we should change our minds.

If you prefer your dogs to your dh then crack on. I would want to take my dh’s concerns seriously.

If he dislikes dogs, he should not have married a dog trainer. I would not have dogs in my house, so would never marry someone obsessed with dogs. Same with a smoker or a person with hygiene issues, and other things that I find unappealing. So he might either live unhappily or leave at some point, he was a bit dumb to start with you in the first place but I guess he may just get fed up and bolt.

This

You offered for him to ‘get rid’ of the other puppy.
That doesn’t sound much like a dog lover to me! If I was having issues with one of my dogs I would try to resolve the situation or, the very last resort, with a very heavy heart, find a new loving home for them. I’d never ‘get rid’ of them!