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Was I wrong to egg the car?!

257 replies

Simplepink · 13/04/2024 06:11

I stand by my convictions and don’t think I was wrong but interested to hear what other people think.
my husband thinks a note would’ve sufficed.

so we live right next to a public footpath which leads up to accommodation for lots of elderly people.

yesterday I noticed a car had blocked the entrance to this footpath which is clearly marked as to be kept clear at all times.
asked around neighbours, no one knew the cars owner.
waited a good couple of hours, person still hasn’t returned to car.
Many elderly people with walking aides struggling to get past. Anyone with a wheelchair wouldn’t be able to.

i had already left a note on the car but realised the owner would return, rumple up the note and not be slightly inconvenienced. . . . Sooo I egged the car windscreen. (Yes I know I’m clearly 12 years old/it’s a very minor criminal offence etc)
But my logic is that this person was therefore also mildly inconvenienced as retribution for their blasé attitude to others.

YABU to egg the car
YANBU to egg the car

(disclaimer this may be completely hypothetical and there’s no proof I am the neighbour who egged the car!)

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Kangarude · 13/04/2024 12:22

How childish and pathetic. Great example to set for your DC.
It didn’t get the car moved did it? And there’s nothing to say the driver would associate the egg with their parking and prevent them doing it again.

Mind boggling

Codlingmoths · 13/04/2024 12:17

Flyhigher · 13/04/2024 12:12

YANU.
Person might be visiting their own elderly relative. Have lots going on.
It also encourages bad behaviour by them.
And extra stress.

I think it’s funny. Yes, They might be visiting their own elderly relative. But I’ve found the more sick and infirm people know the more they recognise these gaps. I fume at able bodied people in handicapped spots, cars block the footpath, inaccessible buildings so much more since I’ve known people who need this access. (I always thought they were twats, now I’m enraged about their twattishness) So if they are visiting their elderly relative, more shame on them. Every one of the people struggling to get by (I think the op described the struggling passersby as elderly but happy to concede they might not all be) was someone’s elderly relative.

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Simplepink · 13/04/2024 12:13

Astariel · 13/04/2024 11:06

The unhinged bit is really in the level of thought and effort that would go into an egging. It’s not like you carry a box of eggs around in your pocket for an impulsive bit of vigilantism.

You’d need to be annoyed. Ponder what to do. Decide that egging is what you think is best. Go and get some eggs. And then go out and egg a car.

Lots of time to think: wait. This is ridiculous.

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I mean the eggs were in my house and I and the car were right next to my house so although I do see what you mean there wasn’t that much time to ponder before I made the impulsive decision to throw an egg.

I honestly feel like I have stumbled into Theresa Mays childhood with this thread where the naughtiest thing anyone’s ever done is run through a field of wheat

OP posts:
Flyhigher · 13/04/2024 12:12

YANU.
Person might be visiting their own elderly relative. Have lots going on.
It also encourages bad behaviour by them.
And extra stress.

EarringsandLipstick · 13/04/2024 12:04

@Astariel yes, you're right! I really liked how you set out the steps / thought process.

mrsdineen2 · 13/04/2024 12:01

Celticliving · 13/04/2024 10:30

ALLERGIES!!

Someone once egged my friends car. She is highly allergic to egg and ended up in hospital for quite a while.

This is the only reasonable objection to your actions OP, and with allergies in my family I'm ashamed not to have thought of this.

Borrowing inspiration from another poster though, google seems to suggest lard is not a common allergen...

SmudgeButt · 13/04/2024 11:55

Simplepink · 13/04/2024 09:13

Tbh my 10 year old does have more sense too and thought it “was a bit naughty mum”
I obviously told him to do as a say and not as I do. . .

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you told your 10 year old? so every kid at school and their parents are going to know about this. that was silly of you.

I quite get the egging but you do realise that eggs can ruin a car's paint and so you could be causing criminal damage or some such?? Hope it doesn't come back and bite you. And I doubt the eggee will even make the connection between the egg and the bad parking frankly.

bungletru · 13/04/2024 11:49

I think you need to grow up

ShortLivedComment · 13/04/2024 11:47

YABU

There is too much aggression in the world. The car parked was unreasonable but responding to it so dramatically is not ok. I bet if you revealed that you are a man and that the car belonged to a woman everyone would be thinking you were wrong.

I'll stand up for myself when I need to and I'll confront people if I need to but I'm always measured and polite in doing so.

Secondaryappealhelp · 13/04/2024 11:47

I do feel for you. We regularly get blocked in by people between 8 and 4. I always leave a note and the same person never does it again but it doesn't help me when I need to get to work, the shops or schoolrun. I would feel your frustration and nearly vaselined the last car to do it but instead spoke to the driver. They were apologetic but it had already disrupted my day by that point. The police have helped in the past but the last few times its been 12 hrs before they responded (understandably) which is no help. We now have to park across our own driveway for all hospital appts, flights and other important events because people are so thoughtless.

mrsdineen2 · 13/04/2024 11:46

Well played OP. Anyone who thinks the driver will see a polite note and undergo a life changing epiphany is away with the fairies.

Portakalkedi · 13/04/2024 11:43

While I like the fact that on posts like this there are always those who say the person who is in the wrong 'may have had an emergency' etc, however in real life it's surely 98% due to the fact that the person is just a twat.

Bubblybits · 13/04/2024 11:37

Every now and again I read a post on here that absolutely blows my mind. What sort of adult behaves this way? A note is the obvious/sane choice, an egged windscreen is probably just as baffling to the driver as your reaction is to me. As the old MN saying goes: “use your words”. I’d honestly expect a more intelligent response from my 6 year old 😳

margolyes · 13/04/2024 11:33

Flour next time OP.

Usernamechange222 · 13/04/2024 11:25

TorroFerney · 13/04/2024 11:13

For the people saying yes do it and I’m honestly not being judgmental, would you not carry the shame of doing something like this and losing control to your grave? I’ve just according to my husband been a bit rude to a shop assistant (I was a bit of a twat although the assistant was refusing to move out of the way of a shelf we were trying to get to and I asked if she’d mind moving) I’m absolutely mortified and have gone into a right shame spiral. I feel physically ill. Would you just do it and then move on? I’m in awe of being able to think like that.

You should apologize for your behavior to the shop assistant

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Simplepink · 13/04/2024 11:24

TorroFerney · 13/04/2024 11:13

For the people saying yes do it and I’m honestly not being judgmental, would you not carry the shame of doing something like this and losing control to your grave? I’ve just according to my husband been a bit rude to a shop assistant (I was a bit of a twat although the assistant was refusing to move out of the way of a shelf we were trying to get to and I asked if she’d mind moving) I’m absolutely mortified and have gone into a right shame spiral. I feel physically ill. Would you just do it and then move on? I’m in awe of being able to think like that.

Well mumsnet has maybe made me feel a tad ashamed this morning but not to the point of carrying it to my grave!!! I didn’t poo on the car or spray paint a pornographic image on it or anything!
and I am impeccably polite and never rude to waiters or people serving me interestingly

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Usernamechange222 · 13/04/2024 11:23

I wouldn't want to meet you. You actually sound scary.

StMarieforme · 13/04/2024 11:21

Just plain nasty.

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Simplepink · 13/04/2024 11:21

EarringsandLipstick · 13/04/2024 10:15

Tbh my 10 year old does have more sense too and thought it “was a bit naughty mum”
I obviously told him to do as a say and not as I do. . .

Sure. I'm doubting this tale more & more ...

Why? 🤣 because I have a 10 year old who felt that my behaviour was unreasonable?!

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EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 13/04/2024 11:19

TorroFerney · 13/04/2024 11:13

For the people saying yes do it and I’m honestly not being judgmental, would you not carry the shame of doing something like this and losing control to your grave? I’ve just according to my husband been a bit rude to a shop assistant (I was a bit of a twat although the assistant was refusing to move out of the way of a shelf we were trying to get to and I asked if she’d mind moving) I’m absolutely mortified and have gone into a right shame spiral. I feel physically ill. Would you just do it and then move on? I’m in awe of being able to think like that.

No I would feel like this too. But I'll happily applaud OP for inconveniencing entitled CFs.

bottomsup12 · 13/04/2024 11:19

Nope it's a minor inconvenience for them but they've caused lots of inconveniences for less angled people so fair game imo!!

thesleepyhoglet · 13/04/2024 11:18

You egged someone's car? Y a totally unreasonable!

PassingStranger · 13/04/2024 11:18

Constantly deal with this and have never egged anyones car.

Princesspollyyy · 13/04/2024 11:16

Oh dear.

Two words, grow up.

graceinspace999 · 13/04/2024 11:14

Luxell934 · 13/04/2024 11:03

Utterly pathetic. Bottom of the barrel type of behaviour. Keep it classy, OP.

Even if this guy came back and said I don’t give a fuck about the elderly they can get stuffed. I still don’t think it justifies egging the car.

In this situation I believe the correct response would be to lecture him on his selfishness and explain how he should educate himself on social responsibility with the added suggestion that he volunteer to visit the elderly on Saturdays and do their errands on weekday nights.
On Sundays he can take the to the seaside.