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Was I wrong to egg the car?!

257 replies

Simplepink · 13/04/2024 06:11

I stand by my convictions and don’t think I was wrong but interested to hear what other people think.
my husband thinks a note would’ve sufficed.

so we live right next to a public footpath which leads up to accommodation for lots of elderly people.

yesterday I noticed a car had blocked the entrance to this footpath which is clearly marked as to be kept clear at all times.
asked around neighbours, no one knew the cars owner.
waited a good couple of hours, person still hasn’t returned to car.
Many elderly people with walking aides struggling to get past. Anyone with a wheelchair wouldn’t be able to.

i had already left a note on the car but realised the owner would return, rumple up the note and not be slightly inconvenienced. . . . Sooo I egged the car windscreen. (Yes I know I’m clearly 12 years old/it’s a very minor criminal offence etc)
But my logic is that this person was therefore also mildly inconvenienced as retribution for their blasé attitude to others.

YABU to egg the car
YANBU to egg the car

(disclaimer this may be completely hypothetical and there’s no proof I am the neighbour who egged the car!)

OP posts:
PixiePirate · 13/04/2024 06:30

I understand the feelings of frustration but think that encouraging people to reflect (e.g. with a note explaining how their actions impacted elderly residents, as per pp) is often more effective tbh. I find that calling people out on poor behaviour in a more hostile way just makes them double down and feel like a victim themselves.

I do appreciate that some people seem incapable of self reflection though, and seem to sail through life being selfish and negatively impacting others without caring.

Hope they don’t have a dash cam.

EarringsandLipstick · 13/04/2024 06:29

this may be completely hypothetical

Did you do it or not?

If you did, you are entirely in the wrong & quite unhinged.

FloofCloud · 13/04/2024 06:24

@GreenWheat ... I think you mean eggressive!

OP - really annoying but I see your reasoning. I'd maybe put the note on with flour and water if the rest of the road was clear to park on, or blocked them in somehow

Nothingandnobody · 13/04/2024 06:24

How can this ever be right? Weren't you ever taught that two wrongs don't make a right.

Original poster
Simplepink · 13/04/2024 06:21

Yes this did occur to me that everyone has something going on on their lives but there were plenty of other free spaces within a 1 minute walk and a paying car park also within a one minute walk if not. The area is right next to a busy high street

OP posts:
GreenWheat · 13/04/2024 06:20

A more rational response would have been a note in the first instance to make them aware of the consequences of their blocking the path. If they returned and did it again another day then you could consider further action but as it stands, you seem rather aggressive.

Hiddenvoice · 13/04/2024 06:18

Yeah sorry I think you’ve been a bit too silly here. Now the person will take longer to move the car as they will probably need to get something to clean it (if wipers don’t work)

It annoys me when people block access but recently someone in my estate blocked access as their elderly relative took very sick and was taken away in an ambulance with the car owner going with them. They only parked there as there was no other available spaces. So now I tend to wait it out and see if the person repeatedly parks there before making a comment to them etc.