DC's first birthday party is on Sunday. It was going to be a big party of 60 people of all our relatives. It's a cultural thing to throw a big bash for a first birthday party.
DH's uncle passed away today. He's been poorly for a while and my MIL (his sister) was his main carer and they lived together (both widowed). DH is not close to his uncle and thinks it's appropriate that we go ahead with the party (mostly because of how much money we'd lose).
We organised the party with the thinking that it was DC's first ever birthday party and didn't mind pushing the boat out.
The following are fully paid and we can't get refunded
Cake -£350
Favours- £300
Decor - £600
Venue and food - £500 deposit paid and would be paying £55 x 65 guests on the day (100% of that needs to be paid for late cancellation)
We are Muslim which means the funeral must be done asap. There is an effort for it to happen today (Saturday) but it might also happen on Sunday (day of the party).
I think it would be very unsympathetic to go ahead with the party. I think my MIL would be very hurt. We went to visit her today and she was understandably in pieces. All her siblings were there too as were DH's cousins. They're all also invited to the party but all assumed we've cancelled the party.
DH thinks we should go ahead with the party without his family (15 guests). I don't know how I'd look them in the eye if we went ahead with it. They're such a close knit family (except DH who isn't too bothered about them) AIBU to want to postpone/cancel?