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If I had a house it would always be tidy?

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flamesoffire · 12/04/2024 19:39

Colleague asked what I was doing at the weekend and I just gave the generic answer of meeting a friend for coffee and I really need to clean the house.

(For reference I mean hoover, put clean washing away, clean the bathroom, my house isn’t a state but I’ve been a bit lazy this week).

She responded with “if I had a house it would always be clean”

Shes late 20s and still lives in her bedroom, which is fine as the housing situation is shit but if you’ve never had to run a house on your own then you have no idea what it takes.

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UndertheCedartree · 12/04/2024 20:06

RemarkablyBrightCreature · 12/04/2024 20:03

My house is always tidy - I tidy as I go and DC do the same. It’s not always spotlessly clean but always tidy 😄

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But if you need to tidy it that means it's not always tidy. You tidy it because it is untidy.

UndertheCedartree · 12/04/2024 20:04

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 12/04/2024 19:40

She might be right, so what ? My house is always clean,other bits of my life are a complete mess 🤣

How is it always clean? Do you never make it dirty?

Nosleepforthismum · 12/04/2024 20:04

fieldsofbutterflies · 12/04/2024 19:42

Maybe she's right? Lots of people have tidy houses all the time.

Do they? I feel like they are mythical creatures.

Medschoolmum · 12/04/2024 20:04

AgnesX · 12/04/2024 19:49

All the time. Do they? 😳

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I know lots of people who always have tidy houses. I think it's relatively easy if you choose to prioritise it.

I'm not that fussed about tidiness personally, so I don't usually put it at the top of my list. I think it's perfectly doable if you're committed to it though.

RemarkablyBrightCreature · 12/04/2024 20:03

Perfect28 · 12/04/2024 19:52

Surely if people have tidy houses all the time then they spend lots of time tidying the house?

My house is always tidy - I tidy as I go and DC do the same. It’s not always spotlessly clean but always tidy 😄

Crystallizedring · 12/04/2024 20:03

When DH and I both worked fulltime and the kids were in after school club our house was really clean and tidy, mainly because we were never in it.
Changing jobs and childcare means the house is usually a bit of a mess but mess isn't the same as dirty.

DanglingMod · 12/04/2024 20:02

It's possible to have a tidy house all the time with more or less no effort. You just don't get stuff out in the first place or put it away straight away.

Clean is a different matter that doesn't just happen by itself. It takes actual time rather than just habit.

Churchview · 12/04/2024 20:02

She's no idea has she. I expect that if she had a unicorn it would always be pink and glittery too.

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 20:02

AgnesX · 12/04/2024 19:59

Do they actually live in it without making any effort to keep it tidy and clean, is what I was getting at.

Or do they have a magic wand

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I do not make an effort to keep my house tidy, there is a place for everything and everyone knows where things go, when a house is clean and tidy, it does not take long to clean it.

fieldsofbutterflies · 12/04/2024 20:01

AgnesX · 12/04/2024 19:59

Do they actually live in it without making any effort to keep it tidy and clean, is what I was getting at.

Or do they have a magic wand

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If you're naturally tidy then it doesn't take much effort.

I probably spend 30 minutes a day on housework.

AgnesX · 12/04/2024 19:59

fieldsofbutterflies · 12/04/2024 19:50

Of course they do.

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Do they actually live in it without making any effort to keep it tidy and clean, is what I was getting at.

Or do they have a magic wand

TroysMammy · 12/04/2024 19:58

My house is always clean and tidy, however it's a 1/12th dolls house. My full sized house not so much.

Hollyrose04048 · 12/04/2024 19:57

My house is always clean and tidy. Maybe she will. Not for you to say .

BreakfastAtMimis · 12/04/2024 19:55

Hahahahaha. Ha. She'll learn...

EG94 · 12/04/2024 19:55

But if a judgey comment which I’d have for sure bit back with a sarcastic remark. That said I knew before having a house it would always be tidy and yes all my houses have been tidy. I actually hate mess and untidiness to the point where if I’m 30 mins late to bed cleaning it, I’d rather do that. Just puts me at ease and peace. Ironically when my mate comes I’ll say excuse the mess (cup of tea I made maybe) and she’ll go what fucking mess mate 😂😂

fieldsofbutterflies · 12/04/2024 19:54

Perfect28 · 12/04/2024 19:52

Surely if people have tidy houses all the time then they spend lots of time tidying the house?

Or they're just naturally tidy and don't make a mess?

Mine is always tidy because I always put my stuff away after use and I don't have messy DC who spread their chaos everywhere Grin

BoobyDazzler · 12/04/2024 19:53

I can’t imagine anything duller than spending a weekend cleaning a house so 🤷🏽‍♀️

Haven't you got a life anything better to do?

PotatoPudding · 12/04/2024 19:53

Before I had DS, my house was always clean.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/04/2024 19:52

Ah, she just wishes she had her own house. I remember thinking "If only I had a house/car, I would look after it so well. It would be shining like a new pin, and I would never take it for granted."

Now my house is shabby and my car has had bird poop on the driver's door for weeks, needless to say.

Perfect28 · 12/04/2024 19:52

Surely if people have tidy houses all the time then they spend lots of time tidying the house?

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 19:51

AgnesX · 12/04/2024 19:49

All the time. Do they? 😳

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Of course they do, some people cant stand dirt and untidiness.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 12/04/2024 19:51

She might be right- I know if Dh is home, my house isn’t always clean. She might get a neat freak partner, have zero pets or children or simply be someone who perpetually cleans and tidies 🤷‍♀️.

also she might be wrong and hate cleaning etc when it actually becomes a reality.

TammyJones · 12/04/2024 19:50

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 12/04/2024 19:40

She might be right, so what ? My house is always clean,other bits of my life are a complete mess 🤣

Ha ha.
Me too.
I've never heard this - I'm going to borrow it.
Brilliant.

fieldsofbutterflies · 12/04/2024 19:50

AgnesX · 12/04/2024 19:49

All the time. Do they? 😳

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Of course they do.

arlequin · 12/04/2024 19:50

Tbf some people do, my parents do. The most immaculate tidy house. Ours is v "lived in"...