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To want DH to stop sending me photos of things that displease him?

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Notasaruleno · 12/04/2024 15:03

So - interests of fairness he is a decent man generally but he has this one habit that really puts my nose out of joint.

Say I have done something minor but I appreciate annoying he sends me a photo on WhatsApp, like a top left off a bottle or if the cat has killed a mouse (he hates cats) or similar. He just sends a photo, no accompanying message. I absolutely hate it, I think it’s really passive aggressive and I never know how or if to respond.

AIBU if I tell him to stop it?

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babster · 12/04/2024 18:17

Send back a screenshot of his message to you, if 'look what's displeasing me today' is the game.

VampireWeekday · 12/04/2024 18:17

My DP used to do this, I either sent back a thumbs up or laughing emoji, or I did the thing where you see the preview but then swipe it away so it shows up as unread. Very funny, it would either simply never ever get mentioned again or he would have to bring it up in person and look like a tool.

Less effective but I also used to sometimes sent a "?" In response so he would have to explain. I stopped doing it because I stopped caring about the explanation.

I now wish I'd sent him a picture of his own face instead! Much funnier response.

DrJoanAllenby · 12/04/2024 18:17

I think my response to this kind of crap behaviour would be to change my number and not tell him.

I wouldn't be with someone who hates cats or any animal and I certainly wouldn't tolerate such pathetic behaviour of him sending me photos of alleged misdemeanours.

Send him a photo f a random cat as a reply.

Wanker.

DownWithThisKindOfThing · 12/04/2024 18:15

Definitely the dick pic

To want DH to stop sending me photos of things that displease him?
FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 12/04/2024 18:15

Annoying AF.
I'd just reply 'Nice' Every.Fucking.Time.
Or in the case of my husband, a simple K, as I know this annoys the fuck out of him.

Marblessolveeverything · 12/04/2024 18:13

Yep, I would feign ignorance. Congratulate clever cat, yes you are allowing the sauce to breathe etc, tbit then I get really petty with PA people.

Mummyoflittledragon · 12/04/2024 18:12

BellaTheDarkOverlord · 12/04/2024 15:05

Can you reply with a picture of his face?

Is this him?

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Bodyshame1980 · 12/04/2024 18:09

Block him

IncompleteSenten · 12/04/2024 18:08

Send a really detailed description.
That's a bottle of x, it cost £ from z store and I use it for...

XFiler · 12/04/2024 18:08

This!

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Stravaig · 12/04/2024 18:06

I'd send him back divorce-related photos. Hannah from The Split, old-fashioned signage, web search strings, glossy websites, paperwork headers, removal companies. If he doesn't stop immediately, with grovelling apologies, just serve the damn papers. Wtf do women put up with this shit?!

stuckdownahole · 12/04/2024 18:05

"OK boss"
"Oh, sorry, I've just remembered you aren't my boss. Did you forget as well?"

Moveoverdarlin · 12/04/2024 18:04

Reply with…You really are becoming a pedantic little cunt aren’t you David?

cuckyplunt · 12/04/2024 18:04

Take a picture of your bum, send that back every time.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 12/04/2024 18:03

That would annoy be to the point of wanting to kill him.

Jewelanemone · 12/04/2024 18:03

Before you leave the house, take the top off a bottle, put it beside the bottle and take a photo. If there's a dead mouse, create a montage. WhatsApp the photo to him.

Get in there first.

H0ghedge · 12/04/2024 18:02

When I get this kind of aggro from my partner I send him this. I've told him it's code for "how do I placate this angry moron oh yeh a turtle".

To want DH to stop sending me photos of things that displease him?
OutOfTheHouse · 12/04/2024 18:02

I’m very much a cat person so wouldn’t be with him in the first place, but I don’t think I could be with someone who hates any animal.

Moveoverdarlin · 12/04/2024 18:01

Blobblobblob · 12/04/2024 15:07

Picture of your middle finger reply, every time

Yes he's passive aggressive

This is word for word what I was going to say. Why do women take this shit!? This would make me do stuff more.

Literally send back a picture of your middle finger every time.

category12 · 12/04/2024 18:01

Send him this.

To want DH to stop sending me photos of things that displease him?
azlazee1 · 12/04/2024 17:57

Delete Delete Delete - no comments to husband.

Noseybookworm · 12/04/2024 17:54

Send him this?

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OVienna · 12/04/2024 17:51

Text back: "Stop being so FUCKING ANNOYING DH!"

Nanny0gg · 12/04/2024 17:50

MaybeRevisitYourWipingT3chnique · 12/04/2024 15:09

Yes, respond to every single one with just this and nothing else.

That really is quite unpleasant of him.

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Neveralonewithaclone · 12/04/2024 17:39

Ah yes, talking of arsecracks 🍑⚡💣