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To ask how often you’d go to the office if it wasn’t a requirement?

141 replies

Orangegreen · 12/04/2024 14:02

I work in quite a small team where people are rarely in the office all at once unless of a training day or larger meeting which is infrequent.

I’ve fallen into a pattern of working from home a bit more lately. Nobody has said anything about it. Nowhere is it mandated or discussed how much we actually should. For instance, some people go in for the morning and go home at lunchtime to work from home. Nobody bats an eyelid.

I haven’t been in a while so I am considering going in early next week. It will be ironic that if I go, everyone else will have probably chosen to stay at home though.

Commuting in is quite expensive and I don’t have a good reason to work from there other than to be visible. Would you go, or WFH until requested to do otherwise? As I say nobody has said anything and it is usually our choice but I don’t know if you stand out by not going in as often as others.

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MamaBear4ever · 15/04/2024 07:27

Depends on your role and the links you have/need to have with the team. We have a lot of team meetings virtually, some which are less formal so know how my team are and what everyone is working on . We also have events /workshops periodicaly when we meet for a purpose, so being in the office together for a normal working day isn't really a requirement . I would happily never go in the office but I make the effort sometimes for younger colleagues

Blanketpolicy · 12/04/2024 21:35

we moved office the year after the pandemic, not far distance wise, but now no parking and it is a shared building so no subsidised canteen.

so instead of free parking + £2/lunch it is £12/day parking + £6/lunch so I go as little as

Office also a bit rubbish as hot desking with many unrelated departments so usually end up next to someone I don’t recognise, so waste of time.

noscoobydoodle · 12/04/2024 21:08

I wfh 100% officially (and love it) but usually visit the office at least once a month, often twice. I also have meetings off-site 1-2x per month so usually not WFH once a week-ish. I live 2hrs each way from my office and have to pay my own travel - otherwise id probably go in once or twice a week. I like catching up with colleagues but I can't imagine ever going back to 5 days in the office!

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 12/04/2024 21:03

We do once a month. I don’t love Wfh but I’m not going to an empty office to sit on my own !

MaryShelley1818 · 12/04/2024 21:01

I feel like I often just go in to be visible. Your OP made me chuckle as one day I did it a couple of weeks ago I was the only one so might as well of stayed at home!
I work full time over 4 days - Tues-Friday. This week I was in Tuesday afternoon 12-5ish but that's it. Usually I aim to go in 1-2 days a week. Some of our team never go in, others are in every single day.

BCBird · 12/04/2024 20:56

I don't wfh, but did so in lockdown. Didn't suit me. Think I would go in twice a week

Popchippps · 12/04/2024 20:51

Never 😂

but I go maybe one or twice a month when other colleagues in my team are going in so we can catch up

my employer is happy for people to work how best suits them, for example my colleague prefers to work in the office so is in most days

bonzaitree · 12/04/2024 20:46

Id go in once per week purely for drinking rose after work and bitching 😂

Wincher · 12/04/2024 19:32

We currently have to be in for two days a week which to me is the perfect balance. Our whole team comes in on those same days each week and it really breaks the week up. There are mutterings of it going up to three which would tip the balance the wrong way for me! But I'd cope. I started this job in lockdown so have always been remote then hybrid.

Doobeedoobeedoobee · 12/04/2024 19:31

once or twice a month (just slightly less than what I currently do.) But I have a young child and am still breastfeeding. Think it would be more if my circumstances were different!

KoolKookaburra · 12/04/2024 19:14

Ideally you need a day when the whole of your team are in if you have one. I go in 2 days a week

Bugfacey · 12/04/2024 19:12

I’m not required to so never go in.

luckylavender · 12/04/2024 19:10

DramaAlpaca · 12/04/2024 14:10

I'm the opposite. I hate wfh so I go in every day.

Me too

AwfulSomething · 12/04/2024 19:09

Never!! I have a high workload and am very productive at home, I get very little done in my one day a week at the office because of the noise and chatter. But I’m not chasing a career or friendships, the role doesn’t require collaboration, I’m paid to do a job and I want to do my best.

MerryMaidens · 12/04/2024 19:09

3 days a week, which is good as we're supposed to do 60% in the office or at face to face meetings outside the office (or travel). We can average that out over a quarter though- e.g. I am travelling next week and will be 'working in office' for 7 days straight.

I've had to do 40% for a while for a complex set of reasons and I don't like it- I get a lot less done. I had no meetings at all in the office yesterday but churned through a ton of work. I can cycle in as well which gets me about an hour and 40 minutes of exercise a day.

DP works 4 days a week and does 50% which suits him.

DavidRosesEyebrows · 12/04/2024 19:08

Never if it was up to me. I've lost the ability to get my work done in a busy office and the lighting gives me migraines. I've also realised I don't actually like many of my colleagues other than those on my team. My boss makes me go in once month and there's a team meeting about once every six weeks. They are trying to get us to go in twice a week but that's all up in the air at the moment.

Truthlikeness · 12/04/2024 19:01

3 to 4 days a week, which is my choice. Only required to go in once a week but I would not be able to do my work as well and I enjoy being around others.

SoupChicken · 12/04/2024 18:56

I was thinking today I’d prefer to go back to the office full time, I only live a short drive away and I prefer being in an office full of people, I get distracted at home, but it is nice to roll out of bed and log in so I’d need someone to mandate I have to go back in because I’m lazy!

TorroFerney · 12/04/2024 18:02

Not required where I am, I go in once a week so i can put shoes on an remember how to get out of the house with laptop, lunch handbag etc as one soon gets out of practice I find. Probably 35 min commute with the only things that slow me down being tractors and the sheep going to the auction which I have worked out is on the same day as I go in. There's always someone in the office, not usually in my team but i have been there a while so I know most people.

MajesticWhine · 12/04/2024 18:01

I go in 2 days a week. I would probably only go once given the choice. I go on Wednesdays because of a particular meeting but it’s quite a frustrating meeting with long repetitive discussions about things we’ve gone over before. But even saying this I do know that going in is better for my well-being.

TwirlyWhirlie · 12/04/2024 17:55

I’d never go in if I didn’t have to. Unfortunately we’re supposed to go in one day a week and it’s frowned on if we don’t 😢 😢

xSideshowAuntSallyx · 12/04/2024 17:55

I'm quite happy working from home, the drive to/from the office is horrendously slow and long. We do 1 day a week but if the boss isn't in I don't go in. If I had to do more I'd have to look for another job.

Flubadubba · 12/04/2024 17:54

I go in once or twice a month. I find it difficult to get much done in an office- too many distractions and too much noise. I make.sure these days don't involve sitting at a desk typing, and are used for things that are productive to do face to face (eg catch ups, appraisals, collaborative work, training)

The wider team have coordinated that we see each other at least once a month, and the team I manage generally have two days a month together.

I don't mind going in, but wouldn't want to go in any more than I do as it allows me to work more productively and also spend more time with family.

IFHTTBIC · 12/04/2024 17:51

Never. I'm struggling to understand why all those painful gains we made in the wake of COVID are now being sat on by presenteeism addicts who can't live without their face to face meetings.

Not only can get way more done off site without being dragged into stupid schoolyard squabbles, I don't have to waste ten hours a week on the commute if I can WFH. That's the equivalent of a working week lost every month now.

How, exactly, is that whole setup more productive than WFH?????

Uberstar · 12/04/2024 17:48

passthepenguin · 12/04/2024 17:44

Good for you. I feel sorry for those in the civil service. It just seems like a box ticking exercise to keep the DM and Telegraph readership happy.

Could not agree more!