Unfortunately she has a cluster B personality disorder. Specialist external carers are few and far between; we’ve had normal carers, it did not go well.
And as she is a) self funding and b) has capacity (madness in itself) she has absolutely refused for anyone but me to do her care. Adult Social Services are involved, and have done their best to persuade her that due to my own disability (a congenital defect and 50 years of deterioration so on crutches myself) it’s not right or fair, but she refuses to listen.
I’ve lost count of the number of therapists, doctors, nurses, OTs, PTs etc. who’ve tried to help her over the years, she’s complied with none of it (although of course she’s as sweet as honey saying she’ll change or exercise or help herself).
Other family have their own mental health issues (in big part due to her behaviour when we were children) and there’s no way I want them to suffer any more due to her behaviour.
There’s no magic bullet or medication for Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
It sucks, but we’ve tried every permutation before we’ve come to this end.
The system is fucked.
There is no help if they won’t consent to help.
Thank god for a good DH, adult kids, great medication for myself, and a hell of a good private health plan & therapy through his job, or I’d be fucked too.
It’s like shouting into the Abyss.
Many apologies, got onto a bit of a rant lol!