Who is being unreasonable?

We are 3, all disabled/ not working/ retired...
So we don't have to bathe and wash hair every single day, in fact hair washing only happens maybe once a week per person. Probably 2 laundry pods a day. We are having a shower fitted so our shower gel and shampoo budget will double. Toothpaste is about 3 a month, loo rolls one per day, kitchen rolls 2 or 3 a week.
We spend a lot on food though. I dread to think to be honest. Gas bill is horrific due to old house with thin windows.

4 adults, 1 teen and 1 5yo. 2 males 4 females
Toilet rolls: 48 rolls per month
Kitchen roll 1-2 pee week
Shower gel - one per week
Shampoo - 1 bottle per week
Conditioner 1 bottle per week
Fabric conditioner - I buy one large bottle (4ltr) per month and my daughter and her b/f buy their own as have their own washing machine and do their own washing.
Washing powder- 1 big bottle per month, my washing machine auto doses just just regular whenever needed. Again daughter and b/f do their own washing.
Deodorant - 1 each a month except for 5yo!
Toothpaste 2 per month plus eldest and bf buy their own
Gas and electricity is £335 per month not sure what each one is but we use that much per month.
6 bed house

You are doing far too much washing! Sorry, I can't be bothered to work out how many of those other things we use (4 adults), but that stands out to me.

Bedding washed every 2 to 3 weeks, or more often if needed. Towels, when I feel like it. I re-wear clothes if they seem clean except for work (in case anyone notices, lol).

One dc overdoes the toilet paper, but neither shower everyday. Nor do I unless I've exercised or it's particularly hot.

Most of your list doesn't bother me. One dc uses around third of a bottle of shampoo and conditioner every shower (has long,very thick hair) but will also supply their own.

I was going to be sarcastic and say your husband was bound to be in the wrong (since this is MN and men always are) but maybe he is not in this case!!

Who said anything about not showering every day? Most adults would shower daily (and teens preteens) we just aren’t all washing our towels every day.

I change my knickers, socks and t shirt every day. They go in a basket until there’s a full load, I’m not doing laundry each day. Adding jeans, fleece, bra etc daily would more than double the amount, thus I’d have to wash more often. Plus I’d have to buy more clothes due to them being out of commission in the wash, and getting more wear and tear in the machine. That’s why I don’t “pop them in”.

Forget the money and the environment - how do you have time or energy to change so many beds, wash, dry, fold and put away so much laundry, shower a couple of times a day, go to the gym daily, cook meals, have guests daily and run, clean and maintain an absolutely massive listed farm house, while also working?

Are you saying you do 40 washes a week? 5 a day? Not bloody likely; so you use too much of it. I’d also talk to the kids about the toilet paper, they might be being pretty wasteful.

Toilet rolls - 12
Kitchen rolls - 1 big one maybe 1.5
bottles of shower gel - 2
Bottles of shampoo and conditioner - I buy a big tigi shampoo/conditioner and it lasts 6 weeks
Fabric conditioner - buy a new one every 3-4 weeks
Washing pods - buy a big bag, lasts a few weeks
Deodorant - have our own, lasts couple weeks each
Tooth paste - tube a week
Gas and electric per month. - I wfh 3 days a week, don't have tumble drier/dishwasher. 80 - 120 a month electricity on average same for gas

I’d imagine most people don’t take off their bra, pants, socks and T-shirts and throw them in a wash on their own though. They wait until there is a full load of them which would then include the jeans you’ve worn for 3 days or the cotton too you e had on twice. Doesn’t that make more sense. Would you actually just wash a set of pants socks and a top on its own?

Because it doesn’t need it and you can do fewer washes during the week. Save up your washing to be done in fewer loads. You are making an awful lot of unnecesssry work for yourself, especially with the towels.

Of course we wash guest towels when they leave but not our own after each shower. But we don’t share them.

I don’t use fabric conditioner or scent pods.

if you are going to wash your underwear, bra, socks, t-shirt why not just pop in your trousers and jumper

Because it quadruples the amount of washing! Not to mention the ironing!

You seem a little fixated on cleanliness but it’s gone a little too far. Please change before your children are impacted further. They have warped ideas of what is “clean”. You don’t need a whole new set of clothes and towels daily. The amount of products (clothes washing, scent boosters, deodorants, shampoo, liquid soap, toilet rolls etc etc) is at LEAST twice what my similarly sized family uses (in soem cases 5/6 times the amount). It all seems so excessive. No wonder your bills are high. Whilst it’s great you can afford all that it’s not so great for our environment. Imagine if every family lived like yours.

What people did in the 80s is coming back to bite us now. You have children so surely you want them to be able to survive on this planet after you are gone. All the excessive washing and crap you are pumping into the environment isn’t going to help plus you are teaching them terrible habits. As for scent boosters, wtaf?

Sorry I just read you do hang on dry days which is obviously good. I also do not mind spider penises in my washing overnight.

Do your children do any of the washing? It must be very time consuming and I wonder if they had to do their own if they’d rethink just chucking clean towels in the wash.

I’d change downstairs toilet towels if we’d had a lot of guests yes but otherwise every few days as needed.

Why do your children (now adults) just chuck towels that have used once in the wash?? Do they DO the washing?? Why in earth don’t the hang them to dry and use the next day.

If you really wash and tumble dry from WET a full set of a large adult family towels EVERY DAY then more fool you. That’s a LOT of towels. That’s a LOT of tumble drying. I assume you line dry on nice days but even so that tumble drier use throughout the year is horrific. For comparison I was our own sets of towels once/twice a week max and hang to dry on washing stands if cannot be dried outside.you just have space somewhere to use wash stands?? Your EV isn’t making up for that difference in resource use there.

Shocked by this.

1 adult, 1 DC here half the week. I wash my hair weekly. I don't wash jeans or outerwear every wear. We are clean and smell nice.

Toilet rolls 0.5 to 1 per week
Kitchen rolls..1 a month
bottles of shower gel..I buy foaming gel, it lasts about 3 months
Bottles of shampoo and conditioner ..big bottle of pantene lasts months
Fabric conditioner .. Dont use.
Washing pods..3-4 pods a week
Deodorant..lasts months
Tooth paste 1 tube a month
Gas and electric per month..300

Reading more of your posts OP it seems to me this is likely a throwback to your own childhood. Excessive focus on “cleanliness” eg the towels, you all changing all clothes every day, your girls daily hair washing. It’s all reading as if you had quite an emphasis on this when young and you have raised your own adult children to have the same focus. I’m not sure it’s any healthier than a family with poor hygiene habits. There is a balance.

Wow this is excessive

All new clothes every day? Is that necessary? We change underwear and T-shirts every day but not trousers, jumpers, etc

Bedding twice weekly in the summer and towels after every use - blimey this is mad

I would also wash stained clothing or things that smell of cooking but that isn’t a whole new set of clothes (esp jumper etc) every single day for me. If it is for you then fair enough.

I have no idea what you talking about guest towels for. My guests have a set of towels each when they arrive (usually here a night only) and I’d wash them when they leave. I certainly wouldn’t expect nee guests to use the same towels that’s disgusting and I’m unsure why your mind would go there??? However, it’s given an insight into your towel usage problem (and it is a problem) - do you too all have your own set of towels???

In my home I have my own towels, my DH has his own and my children have their own). We use our OWN towels for daily cleaning then hang them to dry then use them again the next few days. We are using our OWN towels so no the fact I dry my bits doesn’t bother me (I mean how much drying do your “bits” actually need??) Obviously we have shared towels like hand towels in each bathroom and kitchen plus tea towels all of which I change perhaps every few days depending on usage.

Do you all share towels?? Because I can see why you’d want to wash them daily. I don’t want to dry myself with the towel my DH used the night before. I don’t I use my OWN. why do you not have your own towels and save yourself excessive washing. It’s so odd. Where do you get the time to wash that many towels every single day and where to you dry them (please don’t say you tumble from wet!!)