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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 2024-04-12T08:24:47+00:00

My husband and I are having a debate and I would like to know who is wrong. I am posting in AIBU for traffic. We are a family of 5. 3 working full time. 1 working part time and one at Sixth form. How many of the following do a family like ours use. Toilet rolls Kitchen rolls bottles of shower gel Bottles of shampoo and conditioner Fabric conditioner Washing pods Deodorant Tooth paste Gas and electric per month. And any other items that you buy weekly/monthly. Settle a debate and help me prove my Husband wrong.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 12/04/2024 13:26

I do what I thought was a lot of washing, 7/8 loads a week , 2 adults 1 child. DH and I both go to the gym 3/4 times a week, DS has school, a sport or activity with uniform every day after school barring one, and clean pyjamas every night.
Bedding never needs washing twice a week unless someone is ill/incontinent , towels do not need washing after every use. This is massively increasing your utility bills and spend on cleaning products. Showering twice a day is excessive too, I went to the gym last night, sorted and washed my hair, got up this morning and had a quick splash under the shower but no need to wash hair again.
I would imagine if you're over using washing powder you also over use shower gel, shampoo etc. I agree you have OCD traits and your rigidity to these responses further supports that.
You asked if you or your husband were correct, he is. The amount of products and energy you use is excessive.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 13:22

WalkingonWheels · 12/04/2024 13:06

This is absolutely insane. No wonder the planet is in the mess it is.

We do two loads of washing a week. One for clothes, one for towels and bedding.

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2 loads of washing per week, so in our house we have 35 pairs of pants, 35 pairs of socks, 21 bras, 35 t-shirts, plus bedding for 5 beds each with at least 4 pillows on the bed, 7 tea towels, 7 guest towels, plus jumpers and trousers how are you only doing 2 washes a week, bedding takes up a load each unless its a single.

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GuttingHouse2024 · 12/04/2024 13:21

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 13:06

So little old me is the cause of destroying the planet.

I think China has much more to do with it.

My wealthy large family. Wow are you lovely.

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Everyone plays their part. A large family with a hilltop house with cleaners, own gym, food deliveries, EV and soy candles plays their part as much as a single bloke in a bed sit. China has its part to play no one would deny that but presumably YOU cannot change China but you sure as shit can change your own habits and those of your children. Everyone can do their bit. Everyone.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 13:18

TheHorneSection · 12/04/2024 13:14

No, it never occurred to me to change the guest bathroom hand towel every day.

Guests get their own bath towel if stays my overnight, which obviously goes in the wash, as do sheets after they’ve stayed. But definitely the downstairs loo hand towel! What on earth do you think they are wiping on them?!

There could be 8 different people using it, getting damp so just put out a clean one in the morning, just like tea towels.

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RadoxMoon · 12/04/2024 13:17

Toilet rolls - one per person per day

What the hell are you doing with it to use that much? (I know it’s not the OP who claimed that, but still)

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 13:16

theeyeofdoe · 12/04/2024 13:10

I thought I did a lot of washing!!
towels don’t need to be washed after every use as long as they’re hung up after use. Once a week is fine for bedding.
we don’t use fabric conditioner - not keen on the smell.

we’re also a family of 5, I reckon we get through 8 loo rolls.
3 kitchen rolls
2-3 bottles of shower gel
2 bottles of shampoo/conditioner
(difficult to say as we each have a bathroom).

Gas/electric about £500/month in winter, but much lower in summer.

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As I have said numerous times, I will do less washing, towels can be hung up. Bedding is only washed once a week, unless its the heat of the summer.

We use the same as you in terms of kitchen rolls, shower gel, shampoo and conditioner but we all use different types of shampoo and conditioner so what we use averages out of the week.

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TheHorneSection · 12/04/2024 13:14

No, it never occurred to me to change the guest bathroom hand towel every day.

Guests get their own bath towel if stays my overnight, which obviously goes in the wash, as do sheets after they’ve stayed. But definitely the downstairs loo hand towel! What on earth do you think they are wiping on them?!

theeyeofdoe · 12/04/2024 13:10

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 10:32

No disabilities but I do at least 25 loads of washing a week, and probably over use the washing powder and I like the clothes to smell nice.

Everyone in the house wears clean clothes everyday, bedding is washed weekly or twice a week in the summer, we have 3 super king bed, and 2 king size.
Towels are washed after every use, and we all shower/bath daily or twice a day.

I use a box of colour washing powder and a box of bio for whites each month.

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I thought I did a lot of washing!!
towels don’t need to be washed after every use as long as they’re hung up after use. Once a week is fine for bedding.
we don’t use fabric conditioner - not keen on the smell.

we’re also a family of 5, I reckon we get through 8 loo rolls.
3 kitchen rolls
2-3 bottles of shower gel
2 bottles of shampoo/conditioner
(difficult to say as we each have a bathroom).

Gas/electric about £500/month in winter, but much lower in summer.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 13:08

WalkingonWheels · 12/04/2024 13:06

This is absolutely insane. No wonder the planet is in the mess it is.

We do two loads of washing a week. One for clothes, one for towels and bedding.

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How many of you in the house? as I have stated numerous times now I will reduce the amount of washing I do.....

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WalkingonWheels · 12/04/2024 13:06

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 10:32

No disabilities but I do at least 25 loads of washing a week, and probably over use the washing powder and I like the clothes to smell nice.

Everyone in the house wears clean clothes everyday, bedding is washed weekly or twice a week in the summer, we have 3 super king bed, and 2 king size.
Towels are washed after every use, and we all shower/bath daily or twice a day.

I use a box of colour washing powder and a box of bio for whites each month.

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This is absolutely insane. No wonder the planet is in the mess it is.

We do two loads of washing a week. One for clothes, one for towels and bedding.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 13:06

GuttingHouse2024 · 12/04/2024 13:04

Just use LESS of everything!!! You are a nightmare over consumer and are destroying the planet. What if we all consumed like your wealthy large family did. No planet left that’s what.

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So little old me is the cause of destroying the planet.

I think China has much more to do with it.

My wealthy large family. Wow are you lovely.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 13:04

jannier · 12/04/2024 12:55

So your a victim of marketing on the powders.
They changed towels left in the bath hang them up they don't....like the sign says.
You have OCD so there is your answer .....your husband is not abnormal your OCD is the issue.

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Do you not get joy from seeing your house look nice, your children's clothes ironed and clean.

As I have pointed out I think that I do, do too much washing and I will start washing the towels less, the bedding will be once a week, unless it is the height of summer (which I am doing now). Clothes will be the same, as I cant honestly see why you do not just throw everything in.

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GuttingHouse2024 · 12/04/2024 13:04

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 13:00

Everyone is on about the washing and I have seen that I should wash less.

I was asking about shower gels, toilet rolls etc.

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Just use LESS of everything!!! You are a nightmare over consumer and are destroying the planet. What if we all consumed like your wealthy large family did. No planet left that’s what.

Overthebow · 12/04/2024 13:03

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 10:32

No disabilities but I do at least 25 loads of washing a week, and probably over use the washing powder and I like the clothes to smell nice.

Everyone in the house wears clean clothes everyday, bedding is washed weekly or twice a week in the summer, we have 3 super king bed, and 2 king size.
Towels are washed after every use, and we all shower/bath daily or twice a day.

I use a box of colour washing powder and a box of bio for whites each month.

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That is so excessive! There’s 4 of us here including a baby and a toddler, all wear clean clothes every day and baby goes through a few outfits a day and we tend to do one wash a day. I thought that’s as a lot but 25 a week is loads. Your electricity bill must be huge.

Screwballs · 12/04/2024 13:03

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 10:40

I think that my environmental impact is balanced out by our Electric car and by the fact some people do a lot less washing than us.

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That cant be a real answer? You think everyone else having a conscious balances out your lack of fucks on the topic?!

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 13:00

jannier · 12/04/2024 12:55

So your a victim of marketing on the powders.
They changed towels left in the bath hang them up they don't....like the sign says.
You have OCD so there is your answer .....your husband is not abnormal your OCD is the issue.

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Everyone is on about the washing and I have seen that I should wash less.

I was asking about shower gels, toilet rolls etc.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 12:58

jannier · 12/04/2024 12:49

You do sound obsessive ....my guest towels are washed after the visitor leaves if they stay a couple of days if they ask for another they get one I normally give two hand and bath .....in a hotel you only get it replaced if you ask and in the interest of the environment they ask you to reuse towels.
Getting through a scent booster a week is mad ....but why do you need it on top of washing powder and conditioner......although white vinegar is a better conditioner to remove stale smells and fluff up towels etc.

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What about the guest downstairs loo, everyone dried their hands on there, it surely should be changed everyday.

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jannier · 12/04/2024 12:55

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 12:37

I have always used to different washing powders, one for colours and one for whites, they sell them for colours and whites.

Every hotel I have stayed in you get fresh towels everyday.

I may have OCD, one daughter has been diagnosed but her OCD is making sure everything lines up, doing things in twos, maybe I do but I hate the thought of any of my family not being seen as clean. I get joy out of seeing a line full of washing, the bedding all crisp, ironed and fresh.

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So your a victim of marketing on the powders.
They changed towels left in the bath hang them up they don't....like the sign says.
You have OCD so there is your answer .....your husband is not abnormal your OCD is the issue.

jannier · 12/04/2024 12:53

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 12:21

Most families I know, shower everyday and wear clean clothes every single day.
I am astonished that people do not shower everyday, wear clean clothes everyday, I can also tell if someone has not had a shower or that they are not wearing clean clothes.

as for deodorants we seem to be at the same level as most on here, a tin of deodorants every 2 weeks is normal, also our toilet roll use is about the same.

Anyone that only uses a roll a week is not getting clean down there.

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If course most of us shower every day but that doesn't mean a clean towel ....and unless you've done lots of physical stuff you don't need a second ....going out yes...going to lounge and bed no.

jannier · 12/04/2024 12:49

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 11:28

Maybe I am just messy but working all day, my clothes usually have a stain on them, or the smells of cooking (cant stand the smell of grease etc).

I am clean when I get out of the shower but its touched your bits and I would hate it to be reused, do you not change your guest towels after someone has visited?

I am only washing the towels like my Mum did back in the 80's.

All windows are opened daily to let fresh air into the house.

I do not smell chemically at all, I cant be the only person that uses scent boaster as there is a full aisle in my Supermarket.

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You do sound obsessive ....my guest towels are washed after the visitor leaves if they stay a couple of days if they ask for another they get one I normally give two hand and bath .....in a hotel you only get it replaced if you ask and in the interest of the environment they ask you to reuse towels.
Getting through a scent booster a week is mad ....but why do you need it on top of washing powder and conditioner......although white vinegar is a better conditioner to remove stale smells and fluff up towels etc.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 12:37

jannier · 12/04/2024 12:35

Why a fresh towel every use? You don't get that in a hotel. You don't need 2 types of washing powder ....do you have OCD?

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I have always used to different washing powders, one for colours and one for whites, they sell them for colours and whites.

Every hotel I have stayed in you get fresh towels everyday.

I may have OCD, one daughter has been diagnosed but her OCD is making sure everything lines up, doing things in twos, maybe I do but I hate the thought of any of my family not being seen as clean. I get joy out of seeing a line full of washing, the bedding all crisp, ironed and fresh.

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jannier · 12/04/2024 12:35

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 10:32

No disabilities but I do at least 25 loads of washing a week, and probably over use the washing powder and I like the clothes to smell nice.

Everyone in the house wears clean clothes everyday, bedding is washed weekly or twice a week in the summer, we have 3 super king bed, and 2 king size.
Towels are washed after every use, and we all shower/bath daily or twice a day.

I use a box of colour washing powder and a box of bio for whites each month.

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Why a fresh towel every use? You don't get that in a hotel. You don't need 2 types of washing powder ....do you have OCD?

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 12:34

iusedtohavechickens · 12/04/2024 12:27

4 adults, 1 teen and 1 5yo. 2 males 4 females
Toilet rolls: 48 rolls per month
Kitchen roll 1-2 pee week
Shower gel - one per week
Shampoo - 1 bottle per week
Conditioner 1 bottle per week
Fabric conditioner - I buy one large bottle (4ltr) per month and my daughter and her b/f buy their own as have their own washing machine and do their own washing.
Washing powder- 1 big bottle per month, my washing machine auto doses just just regular whenever needed. Again daughter and b/f do their own washing.
Deodorant - 1 each a month except for 5yo!
Toothpaste 2 per month plus eldest and bf buy their own
Gas and electricity is £335 per month not sure what each one is but we use that much per month.
6 bed house

So not to different from me them.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 12/04/2024 12:33

jannier · 12/04/2024 12:32

Don't the full timers buy their own deodorant, shampoo and conditioner? Otherwise buy the biggest cheapest you can or own brands don't like it but your own.

No the full timers do not buy their own, they give me £200 a month and I buy it all for them.

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jannier · 12/04/2024 12:32

Don't the full timers buy their own deodorant, shampoo and conditioner? Otherwise buy the biggest cheapest you can or own brands don't like it but your own.