Who is being unreasonable?

Well, I separate my washing a bit more than that but you are still washing too much.

If you separated your clothes and didn't throw clothes in too often there's enough of you to make up wash loads so no-one would run out but you'd do way less washing than you do now.

Try it for a month and check your bills. You'll be amazed and the planet will thank you

They don't need to rethink it

They just get told towels (unless dirty) get washed once a week

You're not going to listen so this is pointless

What bothers me is that your children will think that this kind of excess is normal

And it's not.

I suspect some of what OP experienced with her own parents at least is family background. Particularly if you were from a poorer background there was a big focus on "keeping up appearances" in terms of making sure your house was always clean and tidy and your children were also scrubbed and wearing clean, well presented clothes. An unspoken (or maybe spoken) view that you were a better person if you did these things (and to prevent others looking down on you).

I remember my mother being absolutely horrified when she found out my neighbour had given me some of her child's old (very good condition) school uniform. She was convinced that the neighbour would be looking down at me as someone who wasn't able to send their child to school in appropriately presentable clothes without "charity". Whereas both neighbour and I just saw it as good sense. She was similarly horrified when she found out I bathed my 2 children together when they were little and sometimes then used the water myself later - considering that sharing bath water to be a indicator that I was from a poorer quality household.

I suspect, OP, it's really worth you considering why you feel as you do about cleanliness.

That's an absolutely ridiculous argument

Some people are poor/more socially aware/sensible than us so it's all ok

Well there's some of your answer

Clean clothes every day is bonkers. T-shirts yes, but skirts/trousers/dresses/knitwear can be aired and worn again later on.

Changing beds twice a week is also unnecessary unless excessive sweating.

You're using towels on clean bodies so also wasteful, so clean ones twice a day is madness and so environmentally wrong I don't know wear to start. And I assume you don't all do manual work?

And scent boosters are a con.

I actually think (and it's very unfair to think like this I know) that if you can afford to burn money and resources like this you could find more productive uses for your money

I've never seen them either.
Like, I suspect, most people, I only go in the laundry aisle when I run out of washing powder which is about once every 3 months. And I go straight into the aisle, pick up the washing powder and then leave the aisle - I don't peruse other products to see what's newly in.
And frankly, I don't care that much about washing beyond wanting clean clothes.

Obviously if you all shower twice a day you would use more.....you can reduce it by using the nylon shower scrubs
Do you wash your hair too? If so that might strip the natural oils anyway so not ideal.

Well I'm not in the UK and I asked my DH who does all the grocery shopping and he hasn't seen them. But he doesn't hang out in the cleaning aisle of the supermarket any lomger than he needs to because of its horrendous smell.

MN advertising is targeted so clearly I'm not the target audience for unnecessary household chemicals.

It absolutely is not.

Your electric car took energy to make and ship, and the electricity you use also has to be produced somehow.

I know your post isn't about the environmental impact but don't try and kid yourself. You have a massive carbon footprint with all that laundry and over consumption.

I have OCD and when I was a kid I was like your daughter-counting, checking etc. but now it's all about washing hands and contamination (I do still like to keep things lined up but don't check things anymore) I also do a lot of laundry but I'm trying to cut down and I've never washed towels after each use (but would if I happened to drop it on the floor or stuff like that). I also waste products and use way too much soap and shampoo and spend too long in the shower excessively washing.

I don't feel like something bad will happen if I don't do these things or I'll get sick but I do things until they feel "right" to me. I think you sound similar maybe? So it could very well be you have OCD.

Doesn’t every hotel you stay in now have a note saying if you put this sign out we will change your towels but won’t you think of the environment? It feels like that’s been every single hotel for at least a decade now (and I have never put the sign out)

This thread is the first time I've heard of laundry scent boosters. I think they make a good IQ test.

TheSpoonyNavyReader I'm sure there's many posters who use just as much or more but don't want to get jumped on for admitting so, but it is what it is. I recycle, by eco friendly where possible but if my DC need to wipe their backsides they need to use loo roll, I'm not going to ration out 1 square per wipe.

They would really leap on if they saw my weekly food shopping bill and list

There's 4 of us here full time then DSC. My toddler is potty training so many accidents, wet bedding and the dog makes her fair share of mess too

I think you've heard the comments on washing towels, jumpers and trousers a little less often (FWIW, I agree with your bedding frequency - I love clean sheets, and will change them twice a week in summer when I can line dry).

We have 1 less adult than you:
Toilet rolls 4 a week (but the big, double rolls)
Kitchen rolls 1 a month
bottles of shower gel 2 a month (plus bar soap that lasts forever)
Bottles of shampoo and conditioner. Maybe one or 2 a month on average. I'm the only one who uses conditioner - one every 3 months.
Fabric conditioner None
Washing pods 28 a month
Deodorant A bottle lasts me about a month. The rest use sporadically (DH not at all - he truly doesn't need it)
Tooth paste I'm always bloody buying toothpaste. Maybe 2 tubes a week?
Gas and electric per month. Was 215. Just switched to Octopus tracker, and down to about 180.

I’m amazed at some of this! We’re currently 4 adults, shower gel lasts ages, we don’t use fabric conditioner, and I get a box of 30 Smol laundry capsules a month, and occasionally have to top that up. 2
dont use deodorant at all, I use a stick one that lasts for probably 2-3 months. Toothpaste lasts at least a month ( one in each of 2 bathrooms.
Toilet paper- we use a box of 48 about every 3 months.

Ok 2 adults 3 late teens with long hair

Toilet rolls 6 big ones but a lot more if they are the home bargains type
shampoo 1.5 bottles per week
conditioner maybe slightly less
10 washes per week
Not more than one toothpaste 125ml
Dishwasher 1-2 per day
No fabric conditioner due to eczema
Electric - loads Summer and Winter say 150 per month
Gas about 50 in Summer and a good 150/200 per month in winter.
No idea why so much electric..

Toilet rolls 9-12 a week
Shower gel 2 a week minimum
Shampoo and condition 1 each a week
Fabric softener 1 large a week
Pods roughly 24 a week minimum (my machine is on 2-3 times a day minimum thanks to a potty training toddler)
Deodorant maybe 4 a month
Toothpaste 1 a week
Gas at the minute £50'a month
Electric is 190 a month