Who is being unreasonable?

@TheSpoonyNavyReader

I live alone now & can't remember how much of what I bought when I didn't. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wash my bed linen once a week in winter, twice (or more) in summer. I like a fresh bed especially when it's hot! (Yes, I do air it, but washing two sheets & some pillow cases isn't a hardship (all white so get washed with white t shirts etc). The duvet generally lives folded up on a chair most of the spring/summer (it's there already. I just have a sheet & a light blanket on the bed.

Towels get hung up after a shower and reused. I'm happy to reuse my own towel a few days, then they (towel for hair, towel for body) get washed with the bathroom hand towels (several as they get replaced daily).

T towels & dishcloths get replaced frequently through the day and go in a caddy with laundry cleanse (detol the non sensitive one smells lovely) and washed when the caddy is full. On their own, not with clothes or bath towels).

showers once or twice a day, sometimes more if it's very hot or I'm getting ready to go out again. Just depends what's going on.

clothes - the usual knickers, bra, socks, t shirt are put in the wash each day, but jeans go 2/3days depending on what I've been doing. Cardigans/jumpers several wears - often quite a few wears as I'm a hot person who only has them on for short bursts of time.

you really don't need to be washing your cashmere every 2 wears.

I use olive oil bar soap as it suits my skin. It lasts ages!

I wash my long hair most days & shampoo & conditioner both last ages and I'm not careful about how much I use. (must try harder).

toilet roll - mileage varies.

toothpaste.. ages.

there does seem to be a few things you could change if you were open to it. I see you've said about cutting down on washing, that's a start.

many of us do what our parents did 'as the norm' but I think your parents were a bit excessive & overly concerned about things

what would you like to get out of this thread now??

what was your husband saying that you thought was wrong? Have you changed you mind at all?

I hate counting/policing of toilet rolls.

I get through double the week of my period than I do the other weeks and my dad being an arsehole about that when I was a teen made life so miserable.

@jannier

there is a difference in washing powders.

different chemicals to brighten whites than those used to preserve colour.

it makes no difference anyway as you only use one tab/scoop/ whatever per load anyway - so exactly the same amount oerceeek/month 🙄🙄🙄

So do you do 168 loads of washing a month or are you just using far too much?

Absolutely.

We all need to do our bit, no matter how small.

Had a look at my last Sainsbury order and I ordered 2 packs of 9, 3 weeks ago and there's 4 left, so 14 in 3 weeks, a bit more than my guesstimate. I think it's a combination of only one person at home during the day, older boys at their girlfriends in evenings or weekends.

12 a month? Is that correct, not 12 a week?

There is the ability and scope for all to do better.

Well even my hyper sensitive DiL wouldn't say that. Don't know how you cope visiting other people.

Well, I don't know whether you still have vast disposable income after all this but if you don't then that's one reason

If you do, then you carry on wasting it.

Frankly, we all waste too much but you probably need to plant a couple of small woods every year to cover your carbon footprint

And are we ill? Do we smell? Are our houses dirty?

No

You do you.

You did ask and the overwhelming opinion is that you are being massively unreasonable, wasteful and profligate.

But it's your money...just our resources...

Absolutely this, @TheSpoonyNavyReader

You and your family should go live in a carbon-neutral commune so that taylor swift can run her private jet for a few more miles.

I don’t wash towels anything like every use - what is this madness?

Beds get changed once a fortnight.

Clothes - I agree with pp you don’t wash jumpers after every wear. Trousers depends on whether they have got marks on them, eg at the knees. I don’t understand the just throwing in of things that aren’t dirty as being “just as easy” when your aim is to reduce the amount overall.

Towels are washed after every use.

Seriously???

We are a family of 3 - one adult, one teen, one tween.

We get “who gives a crap” toilet roll and a big box of 48 seems to last us well over six months.

£147 a month for gas and electric together

We don’t use a lot of deodorant as we use roll on (daughter’s asthma plus environmental reasons) and it seems to last forever.

Washing liquid and fabric conditioner, I buy the big containers of ecover from Amazon (no horrible artificially smell) and these last 2-3 months. I do the same with washing up liquid but the big container lasts longer than that.

Toothpaste lasts at least a month

Shampoo and conditioner, and shower gel - again I buy a big box of six or so, so it lasts ages. We use Sanex shower gel for skin conditions so that might add a bit.

We don’t go in for masses of highly scented stuff in this house as it gives a horrible overwhelming smell.

Do you not air your bed?