Who is being unreasonable?

Wow I am with your husband, that is a lot. And a lot of washing. We are family of 4 all now adults. I do a lot of washing, but not as much as you. And have no idea really how much we use.

Half your shopping bill is wine????? Half????

You’re living in fantasy land. Washing a full set of clothes every day is mental. Washing towels every time you use them is mental. Washing your hair every day and showering twice a day is MENTAL unless you’re working in a coal mine.

Yes, you’re spending a fortune unnecessarily but it’s your money, and you can do what you want with it.

But its still MENTAL.

You wash the hand towel in the downstairs toilet that only visitors use DAILY? I don't ever put that in the wash. I just wait until it grows legs and walks to the washer by itself. 🤣🤣

@TheSpoonyNavyReader One thing I noticed was you said in one of your posts (which I can't find) was something along the lines of you can smell when people don't shower daily. How on earth do you know this? I think your upbringing and maybe OCD is telling you this when it's not actually true. Your yardstick for what's a normal level of 'clean' has become inaccurate because you're so used to smelling washing powder rather than 'clean'.

In addition to the (undiagnosed) OCD do you think perhaps you have hyperosmia? That's a massively OTT sensitivity to smells.

I do a load of washing every day. In addition towels and bedding once a week so 11 (yikes)

Toilet roll I buy on subscription from amazon. 48 rolls I think it is, every 3 months but we are family of 4. 3 bathrooms but I always have at least 18/20 rolls in stock.

Fairy washing up liquid, lasts weeks as I use the dishwasher daily.

We all shower every day. We all use 2/3 cans of deodrant each except my youngest he's 10 so doesn't use as much. I go to the gym several times a week so I have gym kit most days. If I leave anyone's sport kits I worry it smells so I do sometimes put on 3/4 of a load.

Shower gel, 2 bottles a week

Shampoo they are all men/boys one lasts a month I think. Me, I wash my hair twice a week. It's almost at my bum so that's all it gets haha I buy salon shampoo which is more expensive since but last 3 months.

Laundry capsules I buy big packs.and Comfort, I pour in to the max!! I love the smell of it on clothes etc. So I do 'waste' money there but so does my partner. At least a bottle every 7-10 days

Kitchen roll last ages. But I get the giant ones from costco. Not sure how cost effective it is to be fair but usually split a box of stuff like that with my ex husband. Weird I know.... but may partner and him get on so we do tend to split giant costco shops every few months.

I'm sorry I forgot what else you asked for. 2 adults, a teen, a 10 year old and a dog here!

We do buy kitchen roll but probably only one or less a month as we mostly use washable cloths which go in with the wash every couple of days. That could work quite well for your household :). I don't use fabric conditioner or scent boosters. I try to minimise the use of chemicals at home where I can.

I think it's worth reflecting on how much of this is your parents' views and how much is yours. You clearly do care about the environment in terms of some of your choices. Can you explore options for insulation with an energy consultant, perhaps internally? I too would recommend soap bars. I use bars for shampoo and conditioner and deodorant as well and they last ages. I don't actually shower every day as I don't always have time in the mornings and I don't need to. I just wash my face and apply new deodorant. If you reduce the amounts of what you use somewhat and encourage the kids to do the same then you'll probably get the same result and use less product.

Ew. You come across so entitled and wasteful. I despise selfish people.

It’s not the daily showering - I would argue that most do and probably twice if exercising, it’s washing the towels every time that’s ridiculous and unnecessary (if everyone has their own towels, which you have said you do). Daily hair washing is not good for your hair either, but I can only manage every other day as I don’t like having dirty hair.

Most of my clothes do go in the wash after one use, especially tops.

I think you could cut back a bit.

I’ll never understand washing towels after every use - so excessive and unnecessary in my opinion. We don’t have a tumble drier though, so would never have space to hang up any other washing!

Even when there were 6 of us at home- 2 eldest are married now with children - and the youngest was in cloth nappies I never did 25 washes a week. I don't consider myself dirty but I normally do about 4 washes a week with 4 of us at home and I can't stand fabric conditioner so save a fortune there.

Wow, we wouldn't be able to afford your energy bills! We live in a 3 bed semi - pay £95 a month for gas and electricity combined by direct debit. Just refunded £180 from our energy supplier as our credit balance was getting too big. (Family 3 adults and 1 teen)

I’d be surprised if many ppl thought the op’s usage was usual. Especially as they spend about 2/3 of an average person’s take-home salary on groceries and toiletries. I’m pretty average and I certainly couldn’t afford a grocery bill of £19k a year.

Sorry your partner has OCD - that must be very challenging for both of you and certainly explains some of your usage. Not that any of this is anyone’s business really (except maybe for environmental considerations)

Fuck me.

An electric car and the fact that Malcom in Southport only washes his towels once a fortnight does not make up for this environmental shitshow

I do one wash daily for the clothes we wear that day, my partner has a job which means he has dirty clothes everyday too and this washing style is purely because I have a illness that wouldn’t allow me to do big loads or have large amounts to be put away at once etc this just means I can manage it a bit better

I also do towels bedding etc once a week
if it’s a nice sunny day once a week I will wash dressing gowns, throw blankets or any jackets or coats that haven’t been done in a while

its just a way of me managing washing with a illness and also working full time

Victoria came to the throne in 1837, so your massive stone farmhouse is not Victorian if it was built in 1821. Anyone who could afford to buy and run such a property would know it is Regency period.

Thanks, but we do not need to cut costs, I was trying to see that the "average use of items" was.

Your husband clearly thinks you do.

washing powder - 1 x 64 wash bottle per month

If there's only two of you, how?

That's at least two loads of washing per day.

Are you changing your clothes multiple times a day? Doing lots of half loads? Using too much detergent?

I have a ocd partner so toiletries I know are excessive just wanted to give a example as a lot of people are not being very nice to you and your use is probably normal for a family your size

I am waiting for the comments tbh ha ha

@TheSpoonyNavyReader I haven't read all the posts but have you considered getting a water softener installed within your water system? I'm not sure how they work but someone I know has had it done and it makes a huge difference to how effectively products lather and clean, and makes rinsing easier. It might mean you felt things were clean for longer, and makes e.g. rinsing conditioner out of hair a lot quicker.