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Partner stayed in hotel last night instead of coming to me

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Picnickcake · 12/04/2024 07:33

My partner and I have been together for 2 years and live around an hour away from each other.

Last night he went into town drinking and instead of coming back to mine, which is a 45 minute vs his home which is more 1.5 hours taxi ride away, he chose to spend twice the amount of money and stay in a hotel in town instead. He is going to head home from there this morning.

He rang me on his way to the hotel to tell me he wanted to reassure me that he’s not up to anything he shouldn’t be.

I feel furious at this. He’s rather spend money that he doesn’t really have on a hotel than come to me?! AIBU?

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MartinsSpareCalculator · 12/04/2024 07:40

I think you're being weird.

When I go out, it's about a 40min taxi ride home which is pretty expensive. I've started just getting a cheap hotel room instead because it saves me the hassle of trying to get a cab and waiting about. Plus I don't like being in a cab alone for that sort of distance. My husband has never once said or implied that it's odd.

DustyLee123 · 12/04/2024 07:38

So you are a 45 minute taxi ride away from town, and he stayed in the town he was in, so no 45 minute taxi ride ? Is that right?

Notimeforaname · 12/04/2024 07:37

Makes no sense. I would say he is lying. Unless it's a very new relationship and you haven't stayed with each other overnight yet..

VestibuleVirgin · 12/04/2024 07:37

But you don't live together. Had you arranged that he would come to yours after his evening out, or are you just expecting him to come to yours?