One night stands/casual sex

🤣🤣💯

Actually having reread the OPs posts I detect frustration. I think she has FOMO and is angry with herself for her wandering desires.

100% this! My husband died six years ago. I’ve quite enjoyed having other people’s genitalia in my mine!

It sounds like you may be dipping your genitalia in and out all wrong. I'll guess you'll never know !

Less smug than judgemental and blinkered. Only having one sexual partner is a morally neutral decision, just as having 30 or 60 is, as long as it’s safe, consensual and pleasurable.

Reasons why someone might not settle for the first person they sleep with:

1. They don’t want to.

That’s it.
Fair enough to be curious and ask a question about what casual sex is like as you probably won’t have it, but to talk so judgementally and degradingly is unnecessary and demonstrates that your actual purpose is to show off your perceived superiority, not to actually learn and understand about the experiences of others.

This 100%. Your preferences are different OP, doesn’t mean they’re better just because you like to think that they are. Imagine being that smug around someone who’s had to embark on a new relationship because of a previous relationship breakdown, death of a partner or DV. Also, lots of people who are single enjoy causal sex because they don’t want the strings attached to the relationship. It’s not usual for people to only sleep with one person for as long as you and your DH both have but if that works for you then great. You won’t be the only humans in existence currently to be in your position but it wouldn’t work for a lot of people. You seem quite naive OP but you don’t sound as though you’re young. I found it quite a cringy read.

Yep couldn't have put it better myself. I had a lot of fun when I was younger and don't regret it one bit. Wouldn't have a load of casual sex now I'm older simply cos I can't be bothered.

Yeah I've also only been with my DH and we've been together since teens but I think you sound really smug, judgemental and faux naïve. Only having sex with one person really doesn't make you special or your relationship better than anyone else's.

Sex is fun, is it really that shocking to think that some people might enjoy it more casually than others? Flirting is fun, anticipation is fun, sex without having to worry about washing eachother's pants or who's turn it is to cook dinner tomorrow is, I imagine, quite good fun!

Edit to say I also don't think much of the quality of your sex life if you think the same thing can be achieved at home with a sex toy! Oof.

Good for you, I guess? I know one couple who have only been intimate with each other. They’ve only mentioned it once the entire time I’ve known them. They don’t appear to think to much about other peoples sex life. Like many of us, they just appreciate everyone is different. I’m not sure about this post, OP. Just enjoy your relationship 🤷‍♀️

OP you sure you’re just not a tad jealous or curious …you probably think shit i settled down to young I would really like to 🤬 someone else ….yes that’s what your thinking your just deflecting it your probably bored shitless of your sex life too ..I’m not buying it

You should add a trigger warning.

My genitalia just leaped up and headbutted me in retribution for the bad choices I made in life. This wouldn’t have happened without a trigger warning.

Anyone who thinks sex toys are like the real thing ain’t doing it right

There isn’t a toy in the world that matches sex with another human being.

Bit of a random post. Do you feel like a better person than everyone else now?
Because if that's what you were hoping for the smug/judgey side of your post makes you the quite opposite

Has become? I'm old enough to have enjoyed casual sex when you were a baby and still be aware that my generation did not invent it.

Consider yourself very lucky!!

I've had some absolutely vile sexual encounters. I wish I had only met my husband 😕 we met late in life and I have many traumas.

You are blessed.

Massively smug and strange post OP!

Some people, like you, regard sex and something special and to be kept between people who really care about each other. Other people see it as a fun thing to do, something they do with people they like but aren't necessarily in love with, or something to do with as many people as they can.

You're not right, it's just your opinion. 'Putting your genitalia into someone else' absolutely can be perfectly casual, fun, fulfilling, satisfying, blah blah - it hasn't 'become' anything, casual sex has been around as long as people have existed.

Personally I would think only having sex with one person ever and then assuming you're the one having the best sex life ever is a bold take, tbh!

Yes, judgy and smug. And if you can compare using a sex toy to having sex with a real unknown person who you connect with , well all I can say is , poor you

Everyone's different and enjoys different things. As long as you're happy why worry about what other people are doing. Also not everyone gets to meet someone to settle down with as easily as you did or they're divorced but still want to date and have sex. Being single shouldn't have to mean taking a vow of celibacy.

@SocksAndTheCity my mum just makes very occasional references to a 'mis spent youth' 🫣😂

Can’t people who start these ‘I don’t understand why people do something different to me?’ threads see how transparent they are?

You sound super judgemental OP. I hope you learn to tone it down and more accepting of difference by the time your own kids come of age, otherwise you’ll risk being quite lonely.

Both my husband and I had several partners before meeting and falling in love. I don't think that's abnormal in any way, and I think you learn from each experience. Different partners like different things and as PP has said, there's the thrill and exhilaration of connecting with people. We're in a loving, committed relationship and I'm sure we'll grow old together. But I'm glad we both had those experiences - I think I'd have ended up thinking 'what if...' otherwise, particularly when the relationship got to the more 'comfortable stage'. Each to their own though - sounds like you're happy, and that's absolutely the main thing.

Yes, expressing extreme disapproval and judgement by pretending not to understand something is an old one on here. My mother has also done it for as long as I can remember 🤣

Watch out with that smugness OP, lest you be back here a year or two from now bemoaning that your DH has decided he'd quite like to casually put his genitalia into someone else just to see what the fuss is all about.